Marina Kamen commented on Share Your Story 2019-12-24 05:58:12 -0800Hello! I have signed up for the event and would like a chance to speak while there. My name is Marina Kamen owner of Kamen Entertainment Group, Inc. here in NYC. I have Produced over 40,000 TV, Radio Theatrical & Musical Projects. Have been an entertainer since 1962 dancing on the Jackie Gleason show…atttended The Manhattan School of Music, majoring in voice, violin, piano & orchestration. My career has been both as an entertainer, Directer, writer & Producer over the years. I am also married 37 years and have raised 3 now grown children here in NYC
I have been in touch and in conversations with Kerri multiple times over the past could of years…below you will find one of my exchanges with her which also outlines my story.
We spent years slowly being isolated from my father when he married my stepmother after my mother died from a brain bleed at the young age of 60 back in 1989….he married a woman who had been twice married and divorced and she slowly started to isolate my father from us pulling him in the direction of her own children.
When we met, I was already a middle aged woman married with 3 children.
5 years ago when my father turned 90, I spent everyday in the hospital caring for him…he had Traumatic Brain Injury from what she explained as a fall at home. I am starting to have doubts that is was a fall. My father was a runner and in very good shape. She claimed he fell in the bedroom and hit his head.
He could not speak or move, had countless surgeries. She would not get him a private nurse, so I became the private nurse while she ran around to her classes, lunches and the Ethical Culture meetings.
Here is one of the conversations I had with Kerri…
Hope you are well. I have been following the news story on your Dad which has been released.
Please, anything you need from me at all let me know. We last communicated with each other a few months back.
So sorry to hear the news on this but we all felt this could be possible.
My husband accidentally ran into my stepsister ( the daughter of my Father’s wife who has kept him from us for the past 4 years).
If you remember me telling you, my mother died in 1989 after a 3 year battle being in a vegetative state due to a brain aneurysm at the age of 60.
She, my stepsister, being caught off guard by running into my husband on the street at first said, that was Dad was in Hospice care and dying.
I feel that when she realized she had said it quickly changed her story saying that HE, my father, did not want to see us and that he was fine.
I am not buying it. I believe that she back peddled being caught off guard after run into my husband in the East 80s in our neighborhood where she also resides here in Manhattan.
Odd that we have never run into her before after all these years where we were cut out of my now 93 year old Dad’s life after we cared for him for 2 years 2013-2015 in and out of multiple hospitals and nursing homes here in NYC. Of course, with my StepMother barely in site during that time period, yet after he came home, she slowly started to confuse him with poisonous idea about us. This really had been going on for 25 years before his Traumatic Brain Injury which was why he went into the hospital in 2013.
Her isolation over the years came on slowly.We were raising 3 children and running a large Production Facility in Times Square, Kamen Entertainment Group, Inc. Needless to say, we were a bit busy and did not start to notice this pattern until a few years into their relationship and then marriage. Typical situation . My father is 12 years older than my Stepmother.
When they finally married in 1995, I was already a middle aged woman with 3 children running our business together with my husband in Times Square.
My Stepmother was 58 and father had turned 70.
She had already been married twice before and had 4 children she also has 7 Grandchildren of her own. with the 2 ex-husbands. My father, her husband number 3, had gone through much with the death of my mother and was vulnerable, had money and was an easy target for her. He owned a large apartment on East End Ave here in Manhattan. My Stepmother was living in Inwood, working full time in a Bronx Hospital as an Administrator. The marriage to my father of course enabled her to quit her job and live the high life with my Dad in Manhattan.
Same all too common story. Sad but so true.
Within this past year, my stepmother blocked us from her phone, changed her email and sent us a Cease & Desist letter. It would never hold up. I looked at it as a scare tactic. The wrong apartment number was on the envelope and there was nothing in the letter stating that we had to respond indicating we had received it which is common practice with a Cease & Desist letter as I am sure you are aware of.
Basically, I felt that her lawyer was my Stepmother because we had not done anything legally wrong. My stepmother was isolating m father from us and I suppose was attempting at starting a paper trail. Who knows!
I just wanted to reach out and let you know I am here.
Please, anything at all I can do. I remember when the story came out regarding the missing body a while back and felt in my bones that there was foul play.
Again, strange that my husband should run into my stepsister after all this time with her being caught off guard on the street at first saying, that my Dad was in Hospice care dying, then quickly changed her story saying that HE did not want to see us and that he was fine.
Money comes and goes. We have been successful here in NYC sending 3 children to private schools. They all are successful living on their own and working in their areas of employment here in Manhattan.
I believe that I had mentioned that our eldest son is a Columbia University Graduate and is an Attorney in Capital Markets here in NYC.
My heart goes out to you and please feel free to reach back out to me if there is anyway I can help lend a voice.
Much warmth & respect!
Kamen Entertainment Group, Inc.
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Marina Kamen commented on Contact Us 2016-12-23 04:22:35 -0800Hello. Thank you for your attention. We would like to interview someone from your organization on our Award Winning People’s Choice Podcast Broadcast which deals with Health Issues and is Broadcast on BroadwayWorld.com
My personal story:
We are dealing with a very subtle form of elder abuse and isolation. My father is 91, had brain surgery a few years ago and his personality changed. During his time in the hospital my husband of 33 years and myself were by my father’s side daily 5 to 6 hours a day tending t his needs. His wife, who is not my mother, would come and go and visit but by no means acted as an advocate for my father. My own mother died in 1989 of a brain aneurysm after 3 years is a coma like state so I am sadly familiar with brain issues. Since my father is now 91, confused with TBI which has affected his ability to reason and taken away empathy, he became an easy target for his wife t slowly turn his feelings against us. This actually had been going on slowly for 20 years. Our children are all in NYC, professionals in their fields ages 23, 25 & 30. They have lived this rejecting form of slow isolation their entire lives. When my father took sick, they helped me incredibly with him only to have him come home after 2 years in and out of hospitals to the same withholding behavior from my step mother. We have invited her to sit down over 10 times with her not accepting one invite. We have never been invited. We reached out to her ClergyPerson at Ethical Culture. She refers to my father as a “Humanist”. He is a 91 year old WW2 vet that is Jewish but his head was turned a ling time ago from this.
Now, my step mother has him convinced that we have done horrible things and he will not talk to me or my husband. He will not speak to my mother in law and expects that my children who he rejected terribly for years should be calling him. They have no interest after being rejected over the years and have now seen for the past few years the dishonest behavior of his wife and her poisonous emotional work on his mind which has turned him against us.
We are in so much pain and worry about his well being if he gets into the state he was in a couple of years back with brain damage. His condition is subtle as he can walk, talk eat, however, I was the closest person in his life and for him to have turned on me is out of character especially after I devoted 2 years of my life to caring for him in hospitals and nursing homes.
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Marina Kamen signed Take The Pledge 2016-12-19 07:10:15 -0800After 20 years of dealing with a stepmother who married my father when he was 70 ( she was 58)….my father suffered a TBI and various surgeries. These surgeries have altered my father’s personality ….to the average person he seems fine but his ability to reason and have empathy has been compromised. I am a 58 year old working mother of 3 grown children and I have been married for 33 years.No divorce, all of our grown children are professionals living here in NYC. We spent 2 years in and out of hospitals and nursing homes with my father as we watched my father’s wife go about her regular activities. We asked her to get private nurses and she would not so we spent 5 to 6 hours a day by my father’s side over those 2 years catering to his every need. As soon as he came home in March of 2015, the 20 years of my father’s wife filling his calendar with her family, her grandchildren and going back to her activities continued. We had only been invited once for dinner over 20 years even though we lived 3 blocks away from them in NYC. For a time we had a house in CT and my father would visit once in a while without his wife.
Upon his arrival home from the hospital in 2015..we invited my father’s wife over 10 times for dinners and to sit down to straighten things out. She shunned every reach out on our part for a year after years of resistance before the head trauma to my father. Now, he is 91, confused and she has him convinced that we have done something horrible. The only horrible thing we did was finally explode on a voice machine after years of being shunned, watching her neglect my father in the 2 year hospital stay and reach out to her via email and phone calls. Yes….how much rejection can a daughter ho literally changed her father’s diapers in hospitals take. In addition, my experience with brain trauma is deep as my mother died of a brain aneurysm in 1989 after 3 years of being in a vegetative state.
Now, my father hangs up the phone on us, my husband of 33 years and me. Also, he does not understand why his grown grandchildren will not speak to him. They have had 20 years of rejection and being pushed to the side and then all stepped up to help in hospitals. Now that he treats us like this after them watching this whole episode and even speaking with him about the situation endless times…they want nothing to do with him.
Head trauma is subtle. Yes he eats, walks and talks, whoever, this is not my father. He has been isolated and brain washed and we are hurting.
Thank you for what you are doing to bring awareness to this subject!
Kamen Entertainment Group, Inc.
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