Marina Kamen commented on Contact Us 2016-12-23 04:22:35 -0800Hello. Thank you for your attention. We would like to interview someone from your organization on our Award Winning People’s Choice Podcast Broadcast which deals with Health Issues and is Broadcast on BroadwayWorld.com
My personal story:
We are dealing with a very subtle form of elder abuse and isolation. My father is 91, had brain surgery a few years ago and his personality changed. During his time in the hospital my husband of 33 years and myself were by my father’s side daily 5 to 6 hours a day tending t his needs. His wife, who is not my mother, would come and go and visit but by no means acted as an advocate for my father. My own mother died in 1989 of a brain aneurysm after 3 years is a coma like state so I am sadly familiar with brain issues. Since my father is now 91, confused with TBI which has affected his ability to reason and taken away empathy, he became an easy target for his wife t slowly turn his feelings against us. This actually had been going on slowly for 20 years. Our children are all in NYC, professionals in their fields ages 23, 25 & 30. They have lived this rejecting form of slow isolation their entire lives. When my father took sick, they helped me incredibly with him only to have him come home after 2 years in and out of hospitals to the same withholding behavior from my step mother. We have invited her to sit down over 10 times with her not accepting one invite. We have never been invited. We reached out to her ClergyPerson at Ethical Culture. She refers to my father as a “Humanist”. He is a 91 year old WW2 vet that is Jewish but his head was turned a ling time ago from this.
Now, my step mother has him convinced that we have done horrible things and he will not talk to me or my husband. He will not speak to my mother in law and expects that my children who he rejected terribly for years should be calling him. They have no interest after being rejected over the years and have now seen for the past few years the dishonest behavior of his wife and her poisonous emotional work on his mind which has turned him against us.
We are in so much pain and worry about his well being if he gets into the state he was in a couple of years back with brain damage. His condition is subtle as he can walk, talk eat, however, I was the closest person in his life and for him to have turned on me is out of character especially after I devoted 2 years of my life to caring for him in hospitals and nursing homes.
Thank you for listening.
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Marina Kamen signed Take The Pledge 2016-12-19 07:10:15 -0800After 20 years of dealing with a stepmother who married my father when he was 70 ( she was 58)….my father suffered a TBI and various surgeries. These surgeries have altered my father’s personality ….to the average person he seems fine but his ability to reason and have empathy has been compromised. I am a 58 year old working mother of 3 grown children and I have been married for 33 years.No divorce, all of our grown children are professionals living here in NYC. We spent 2 years in and out of hospitals and nursing homes with my father as we watched my father’s wife go about her regular activities. We asked her to get private nurses and she would not so we spent 5 to 6 hours a day by my father’s side over those 2 years catering to his every need. As soon as he came home in March of 2015, the 20 years of my father’s wife filling his calendar with her family, her grandchildren and going back to her activities continued. We had only been invited once for dinner over 20 years even though we lived 3 blocks away from them in NYC. For a time we had a house in CT and my father would visit once in a while without his wife.
Upon his arrival home from the hospital in 2015..we invited my father’s wife over 10 times for dinners and to sit down to straighten things out. She shunned every reach out on our part for a year after years of resistance before the head trauma to my father. Now, he is 91, confused and she has him convinced that we have done something horrible. The only horrible thing we did was finally explode on a voice machine after years of being shunned, watching her neglect my father in the 2 year hospital stay and reach out to her via email and phone calls. Yes….how much rejection can a daughter ho literally changed her father’s diapers in hospitals take. In addition, my experience with brain trauma is deep as my mother died of a brain aneurysm in 1989 after 3 years of being in a vegetative state.
Now, my father hangs up the phone on us, my husband of 33 years and me. Also, he does not understand why his grown grandchildren will not speak to him. They have had 20 years of rejection and being pushed to the side and then all stepped up to help in hospitals. Now that he treats us like this after them watching this whole episode and even speaking with him about the situation endless times…they want nothing to do with him.
Head trauma is subtle. Yes he eats, walks and talks, whoever, this is not my father. He has been isolated and brain washed and we are hurting.
Thank you for what you are doing to bring awareness to this subject!
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