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    Elaina shared a story:

    I have a 76 year old father who looks like he is 90. My fourth step- mother and current step-mother is Lisa Mc Claren Janick. She has moved my father John Janick to a new house that is only in her name. They are both convicted felons. She will not let my father have us visit or disclose his address. A friend helped me find the current Address. She does not let him have his own phone nor do they have a house phone.

    Lisa has not let my father call me or she has not told him that I have asked him to call.

    Looking for help as how to get around Lisa so his 5 Kids can be in contact with him. She has turned him against most of us.

    I am thinking about calling for a welfare check by the Sheriffs department in Charlotte County , Florida. I don’t know what type of legal assistance myself and my siblings can get.
    Anyone who has any idea of how to handle please reach out and share with me.
    Thank you

    Bradley shared a story:

    I called my big brother to sing him Happy Birthday and his phone was disconnected, I called again and disconnected. I googled his name and he had died 18 days earlier. His neighbor lady/caregiver and her daughters had taken control of him without my knowlege. He was 5’9" and weighed 135 lbs when they finally took him to the hospital. His weight dropped to 109 lbs. The records state they refused him prescribed medications and medical proceedures.He was restrained most of the time for “behavior” reasons. He was on a vent and could not breathe, talk, eat, or communicate. They are listed in the records as wife, sister, step sister, half sister, adopted sister, aunt, niece, and daughter. None of those people exist. The sad part is this neighbor/ caregiver forged HCPOA and said she was POA with no proof. None of Daves family or friends never knew how sick he was, and she made sure to take his cell away early on. Hospital docs show my brother tried on several occassions to kill himself. It was so bad between the last hospital where he died that that wanted to make him a ward of the state because his fake family was causing him needless stress and suffering. And, in the end this so called family decided to disconnect him from his
    Life support vent. Real friends and family were to!d he just died? My brother was a proud gay, single, elderly, disabled man. They cleaned out his valuables, family heirlooms and forged 4 CDs with the bank complicent or oblivious to their scheme. I have fought this in Cook County Probate Court now for years. I have gone into debt and started a go fund me, Justice 4 Dave Barton. I need help to continue. My wife and I are elderly and she is also disabled. Thanks

    Kurt shared a story:

    I recently was being taken to court for harassment . This hearing was a zoom video hearing . While I was asking my mother a question during this hearing you could see her being assaulted . I asked her the question have I ever stolen from you? She answered no. And you could see someone s arm and hand on each side of her pol her hard in ribs. I think it’s two people one on each side of her. I And two of my friends could not believe what we just witnessed

    Lyn shared a story:

    RE: Domestic abuse, fraud, corruption and misconduct within the Bexar County legal system (San Antonio Texas)
    Financial abuse is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!
    Emotional abuse is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!

    To whom it may concern,

    I would like to please ask for your assistance with bringing awareness to the devastation of what financial and emotional abuse has on families and the need to change our laws to criminalize coercive control in all U.S. States.
    I apologize this letter is so long and detailed, but I felt it was important to at least express a few of the incidences of the “secret/hidden” abuse that occurred during my marriage. I also wanted to address the corruption & misconduct of the Bexar County legal system that occurred during the divorce procedures. My voice and the truth deserve to be heard.
    TRIAL COURT CASE NO. 2019-CI-22278 COURT OF APPEALS NO. 04-21-00057-CV
    My name is Lyn Wolff. I was married to Jason Wolff August 1996-Aug.2020. He is a former Judge of Bexar County court #2 (2011-2019) and is currently a prosecutor with the Bexar County D.A.’s office. He is the nephew of Bexar County Judge Nelson Wolff.
    Due to the prominent, high profile family name I had a difficult time obtaining adequate representation. I met with several attorneys and had dozens of consultations trying to find an attorney to represent me. Most said because of his legal status and family name they were unable to take my case.

    It is illegal to hide money and assets in anticipation for divorce. In Texas, hiding assets during a divorce has severe consequences. Neither of us went into the marriage with personal property. Everything earned and acquired over our 24 year marriage was absolutely community property. What Jason “secretly” did to me, and our children was not only cruel and dehumanizing, but hiding assets is illegal. Perjury & fraud are BOTH felonies.
    Just because he has a law degree and is related to the County Judge does not hold him exempt from abiding by the law.
    Jason Wolff is an attorney, and he is a former elected official under the State of Texas. He knows the law but believed he was above the law and was certain he could not be caught or held accountable for his actions because of his law degree and his family’s legal power in San Antonio.

    It appears he was correct. He received privileged treatment and judicial favoritism throughout the whole process. My own attorneys allowed him control of the divorce procedures. I paid almost $40,000 to a total of 5 different attorneys from 3 separate firms, yet all failed to even take his deposition, all failed to get the necessary documents such as bank statements, taxes, deeds/titles etc. to complete discovery, all failed to address the many documents I provided regarding fraud that I had found in files that he kept hidden from me. All failed to utilize the forensic accountant’s expertise even though he volunteered his services and stated there was clear evidence of waste on the estate with the real estate transactions alone. Jason had personally prepared and filed our joint IRS taxes since 2013 and had my electronic signature on file. I discovered that none of the real estate investments had been reported on our taxes after 2014. Mr. Bradley, the forensic accountant’s summary states: It appears that the parties tax returns potentially reported real estate sales activity using Schedule C, being an inventory dealer engaged in real estate sales as a primary business, rather than an investor buying for appreciation and capital gain(s). However, the proper reporting for Schedule C would show: (1) Gross sale amount in Gross receipts (line 1) subtracted by (2) Basis of property in Cost of Goods sold (line 4) of Schedule C. The tax returns only show a gross receipt amount, therefore it is not possible to conclusively tie into direct sales. Also for the installment sales in 2016 & 2017 (2 promissory notes), an inventory dealer would recognize gain immediately, no installment schedule allowed. He also advised the attorneys that Jason needed to provide an accounting for the source and use of the community funds, including bank statements, settlement documents, and deeds for the period of the marriage.

    However, all attorneys ignored Mr. Bradley’s summary and failed to address any of the issues. They also failed to acknowledge the contracts and many email exchanges that I discovered between Jason and Zaga Enterprises LLC which all indicated he had moved assets and had been buying and selling other properties through that LLC to conceal ownership. I told my attorneys I believed Jason was filing the taxes for the real estate investments under that LLC and asked her many times to take his deposition and to order him to produce the bank statements, tax information, settlement agreements, deeds/titles etc.. regarding those real estate transactions but all failed to do so. Ms. Whitley finally did subpoena Jorge Gamboa from the LLC for those records but Jason had it quashed and she never followed through with any additional action or investigation.

    I strongly believe due to the political power the Wolff name holds in Bexar County that the attorneys involved, the mediator, court clerks, Judge(s) and even the District Attorney himself were all influenced and possibly conspired to protect Jason’s illegal actions and domestic abuse from being exposed.
    I sent a certified letter directly to the Bexar County District Attorney Joe Gonzales in September 2020 along with several documents regarding my claims of fraud and asked for his assistance to also investigate my concerns of the corruption and misconduct that occurred within the courts during the divorce process. He never responded to or even acknowledged my letter. I believe my plea for help was ignored due to his close working relationship with Judge Nelson Wolff.
    I sent a certified letter to the Bexar County family justice center again expressing all my concerns of fraud as well as provided documents and all information regarding the financial & emotional abuse that occurred throughout our marriage. I also asked them to please investigate my claims of corruption & misconduct within the courts, but they didn’t even acknowledge my request for help and sent the entire packet back to me with a sticky note on the envelope “NOT A PROTECTIVE ORDER CASE, RETURN TO SENDER”.

    The following statements are directly from the Bexar County family justice center website:
    Domestic Violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner or family member. Abuse includes physical, sexual, emotional, economic or Psychological actions or threats. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
    The Family Justice Center is committed to helping all victims of domestic violence. The FJC is available to men, women, and children of any age, economic, social, religious or ethnic group, and does not discriminate against any victim. The Family Justice Center is here to assist you, regardless of the degree of violence.

    The Family Justice Center CLAIMS to assist all victims regardless of the degree of violence and CLAIMS to be committed to helping ALL victims of domestic violence. They also CLAIM they do not discriminate against any victim. Yet when I reached out to them for their help, I provided full and clear evidence of fraud, financial abuse, emotional abuse & psychological abuse and after 24 years of marriage was left homeless and destitute. They simply ignored everything and never even acknowledged my plea for help. Why would my request for help be ignored? Why would I be denied assistance? If Jason has nothing to hide and I am falsely accusing of him, then why would he refuse to provide the necessary documents such as bank statements, settlement agreements, taxes, deed/titles etc. that are required for full discovery? Why did he receive special treatment and was not required to produce those crucial documents? Why did he, as well as everyone else in the Bexar County legal system so persistently avoid utilizing the forensic accountant? The truth will NEVER mind being questioned but a lie hates to be challenged. I firmly believe there is corruption and misconduct within the courts and believe due to the close working relationship Jason and Judge Nelson Wolff have with the entire Bexar County legal system, they abused their authority and manipulated the courts.

    I contacted the Texas Advocacy Project asking for legal assistance but was told they could not assist because their records indicated Jason contacted them a few years ago which conflicted me out. They stated they believe he clearly knew exactly what to do and had calculated every detail by contacting them in advance in order to purposely conflict me out if I tried to reach out for free legal assistance after he asked for the divorce. The mission of The Texas Advocacy Project is to end domestic violence, sexual assault and stalking in Texas by empowering survivors through free legal services and access to the justice system, and advanced prevention through public outreach and education. Their whole mission is for all Texans to live free from abuse. Jason is a former judge/current prosecutor with the D.A. office it appears to me he was able to use his legal power to manipulate the system again to avoid his illegal actions and domestic abuse from being exposed.
    Currently he is not even complying to the simple orders on the decree, but I can’t afford to hire another attorney, so I reached out to the Texas Council on family violence. They provided a list of domestic abuse resources that are supposed to help victims of all forms of abuse. I was told they could provide full assistance including free legal services.
    I reached out to Texas Rio Grande legal aid for assistance but was told they didn’t have the resources to assist with my case. I believe this is due to their close working relationship with Judge Nelson Wolff.
    I reached out to Carita’s Legal Aid program, but they too said they didn’t have the resources to assist with my case.
    I reached out to St. Mary’s University school of Law center for legal and social justice, but they didn’t answer and had a recording stating they were not assisting with family law matters at this time.
    How is it possible that every free legal service I contacted does not have the resources to assist even with just filing a motion to enforce? I provided all documents as proof he is not complying to the orders as documented on a decree.
    When he asked for the divorce, he had been planning and plotting for several years. He was well aware that I didn’t have access to any of his accounts and he knew that I never had much money of my own. He tried to convince me not to worry about getting an attorney. He said he would just have one of his associates, Johnny Cisneros explain to me "the law is the law”. He told me to just agree to what “he claimed” were our only assets and let his friend Johnny file it for us because he wouldn’t even charge any fees.
    He then said “Babe, just because I finally admitted that I don’t love you and don’t want to be your husband anymore doesn’t mean that you’re not still my best friend. I want us to stay friends and still maybe even “hook-up” at Christmas or Thanksgiving.” I truly was so incredibly distraught and in complete denial of what was happening and what he was even saying. The mind games were excruciating.

    His demeanor sure changed very quickly when I said no and said I deserved to have an attorney. He was absolutely furious when I stood my ground and asked to see bank statements. I told him I wanted to see 8 years because I had been questioning him for many years about our finances and had also been asking him for years why all bank accounts and real estate investments were in his name only and why we didn’t have any savings or joint accounts.
    I knew at that point without a doubt there was absolutely no way possible what he was “claiming” could even remotely be our only assets. Again, neither of us went into the marriage with any personal property. Everything earned and acquired over our 24 year marriage was absolutely community property.
    He was so angry he threw something across the room and screamed "I will HATE you if you contest! I am a former Judge, and I am an attorney. Nobody will believe anything you say! I will discredit you and I will destroy you!! Don’t you dare underestimate me!”

    I then started going through files, gathering as much information and documents as I could find. I couldn’t believe what I was finding. I was so hurt and felt completely betrayed.
    It was absolutely devastating to me when I discovered the many documents that validated all his lies, manipulation, gaslighting and deceit that had occurred for more than half our marriage.

    When our house sold in January 2020, I was left homeless. I didn’t have access to any accounts, I didn’t have any money of my own and had nowhere to go. Shortly after, I lost my job that I had worked at for over 18 years due to the pandemic. Jason refused to divide the funds from the sale of the house making sure I didn’t have access to any money to prevent me from contesting the divorce. I then accumulated further debt because my only option to survive was to use a credit card to pay my share of household bills, keep up with car payments, car insurance, the credit card bills and attorney fees. I became a financial burden to friends/family.

    At that point I knew I really needed help, so I reached out to the Bexar County family violence prevention services.

    When I spoke with the counselor, I told her I wasn’t even aware that it was in a toxic, abusive marriage until going through the divorce because he wasn’t physically abusive.
    He never physically hit me but if I questioned him about our finances, or tried to speak up for myself, or if I disagreed with certain behaviors or if things didn’t go HIS way, he would get extremely angry at times and would often throw things, yell/scream use profanity, and sometimes aggressively come at me but thankfully he would hit the wall, a door, furniture or whatever was there instead of me.
    He damaged walls with his fists and damaged or broke things when he threw stuff. He would blame me and say everything was my fault, I misbehaved, or I shouldn’t have made him so angry, or I should be ashamed of myself. Somehow, he could always manipulate me into feeling guilty and thinking everything was my fault and that I was the problem certainly not him.
    I hadn’t even realized he had been financially & emotionally abusive because I loved my husband and truly trusted him. I always believed EVERYTHING he said. I believed him when he told me we were building a life together and were living on such a strict and low budget because he was investing for our future, for a better quality of life for our family.

    I told him many times over the years that I shouldn’t have to ask for money, that we needed to have a household account that we BOTH had access to. He would just get angry with me and tell me to either get another job and make more money myself or stop complaining. He convinced me it was normal for me to have to ask him for money because he made more than I did. He told me “IT IS MY MONEY AND IT’S MY BANK ACCOUNT OF COURSE YOU NEED TO ASK ME FOR IT!!”

    I honestly never dreamed he had been lying to me, deceiving and secretly betraying me and our children for so many years.
    After discussing everything with the counselor about our marriage, our “hidden dysfunctional” home life and the many legal difficulties I was experiencing with the divorce procedures she told me about the domestic violence power and control wheel and talked about narcissist abuse and gaslighting. She said financial and emotional abuse are used to gain power & control of the relationship and gaslighting is one of the main tools.

    She said even if physical abuse didn’t occur, their organization helps women recover from ALL forms of abuse and they would be able to provide legal services, food & shelter if needed, counseling and I could attend their support groups.

    However, after I filled out the forms, I was told they were not going to be able to offer any services to me after all because of who I was married to.
    They said Judge Nelson Wolff and his wife Tracy work very closely with the director for the funding of their organization. They told me they were afraid to get involved and said they worried that it could possibly affect their funding and feared the media would get involved because of the high profile.
    I was denied the services and assistance that I desperately needed because of the “Wolff” legal power in San Antonio.

    Before they denied the services, I had also shared with the counselor many details about our home life and told her about when Jason and I first met in 1993 we were both living in California. I was 29, a single mother with a 5 1/2 year old. I had lived on my own and paid my own bills since I was 17 years old. I moved to California from Kalamazoo Mi. on my own at 22 years old. I raised my daughter, Brittany all by myself without any family in California and no support or contact with her biological father.

    Jason was 23, pursuing an acting career. His parents were still fully financially supporting him. They bought him a brand new car, paid his car/and health insurance, gave him a gas card, paid his rent, paid for acting classes and gave him a monthly allowance and allowed him all the freedom to pursue acting when he left Texas in 1988.

    In 1995, 2 years after we started dating his parents gave him an ultimatum to either get a job or go home to get a formal education. He moved back to Texas to attend UTSA. We then got engaged and Brittany & I moved to Texas shortly after that. We married in August 1996.
    As much as I loved my job and my life in California, I loved him more, so I went to Texas to support him in any way I could. When I left California, my salary was approximately $32,000 with full medical and dental for myself and Brittany. In Texas, every travel agency I applied to offered me less than $10 an hour with no benefits but I had to have a job, so I accepted. He knew I loved and missed California. I hated living in Texas, but I loved him. I gave up my dreams and my independence to build a life together and to support him in every way. We had our son in 1998 and our youngest daughter in 2001.

    Jason was in school for the first 9 years of our marriage (6 years UTSA for his undergraduate and 3 years at UT law.) I wasn’t able to make very much money working in Texas and we lived on a very low and restricted income. Thankfully, Jason’s parents generously continued to financially support him.
    They helped us tremendously by paying off a credit card debt (in my name) that we had accumulated while we were dating and used for our wedding and honeymoon, they paid for his education at UTSA, they allowed us to live rent free in one of their homes, they continued to financially provide for him. I was responsible for my car payment, both of our car insurance and all the household bills (phone, cable/internet, trash etc….) while he was in school with my part-time salary.

    My full-time job was dedicated to raising our children and maintaining the household which allowed him the opportunity to get his education and a lucrative career to provide for our family.
    I had worked the entire time, although I only worked part-time after the kids were born, I ALWAYS paid a share of the household bills and had worked for the same company for over 18 years at the time of the divorce. When he finally started working in 2004, I believed all the sacrifices we made would finally pay off and we would not be so financially restricted anymore.

    Because I had automatic payments for my car & insurance, I kept my checking account that I had transferred from California. He maintained his own separate account for the money his parents provided for him.
    After he graduated and started working (9 years later) he refused to open a joint account. He opened other bank accounts in his name only and I didn’t have access to any of the accounts. I continued to be responsible for my car payment, auto maintenance, gas, both of our car insurance, my clothes & my own personal care with my part-time salary. I was required to ask him for money for groceries, household bills/essentials, our children’s personal needs/essentials, doctor co-pays, school supplies, pet supplies, etc.

    We had lived on such a strict and controlled budget for so many years that he had me convinced that we were still barely making ends meet. We always seemed to be living paycheck to paycheck no matter what changes occurred with his income.
    I couldn’t understand any of it. It didn’t make sense why we wouldn’t have a savings account or why I was always told we couldn’t afford even simple upgrades or repairs to our home. I questioned him many times about our finances, but he always had an answer and I always believed everything he said. I truly believed we both were contributing to our family and building our life together. I had no idea he was lying to me and being so deceitful behind my back until after he asked for the divorce.
    I truly was was completely unaware of the infidelity and all the secrets and lies. I honestly thought I was so lucky to have married my best friend. It wasn’t just me he had fooled all these years. He had many people convinced he was a good honest Christian man, a loving husband & good father. In fact, he was such a good actor that even up until the day before he asked for the divorce, he still said I love you daily, we always kissed each other goodnight, he held my hand wherever we went. I truly trusted and loved him with all my heart.
    I had absolutely no idea he had been doing so many horrible, deceitful things behind my back. I was devastated and in complete denial when I found the many documents and discovered my life with him was all a lie. He had been planning & preparing for divorce for well over a decade.

    I told the domestic violence counselor as well as my attorney with our lifestyle and all the documents I found, it appeared he had been putting over $50,000 a year in a hidden trust account. I told them I believed he was hiding more than $100,000 each year after he became Judge in 2011 and firmly believed there was well over $1,000,000 in hidden/undisclosed assets. I expressed that is why I felt it was so crucial to have a forensic accountant and to require him to complete full discovery.
    Apparently, nothing I had discussed with The Domestic Violence prevention services or my attorney mattered even with the clear evidence of fraud, financial and emotional abuse. Everybody in Bexar County appears to be afraid to get involved or hold him accountable for his actions because of the Judicial power the Wolff name holds in Bexar County. I believe the attorneys, the mediator, the Judge(s), domestic violence advocates, even the District Attorney himself were all negatively influenced and possibly conspired to conceal Jason’s illegal actions and prevent the domestic abuse from being exposed.

    I recently reached out to the domestic violence prevention services department again asking if they could please reconsider and at least just help with filing a motion to enforce because Jason was not even complying to the simple orders on the decree. They told me based on my application my income was too high to receive free legal services so they would not be able to assist. I questioned that and then provided my 2021 tax form which shows my annual income for 2021 was only $21,583. I asked them again to please reconsider because he is not complying to the orders on the decree, and I don’t have the ability to pay for another attorney. They then said they were not able to assist because they didn’t have the resources to help with my case. Again, I believe this is because of the Wolff legal power in San Antonio.

    He is not complying to the orders on the decree. I have not been able to get any assistance from anyone in Bexar County (or Texas for that matter). I need legal assistance with filing a motion to enforce. I would also like to pursue the fraud suit that all attorneys failed to do. I have contacted several dozen private attorneys, but all have either said they are unable to assist due to Jason’s legal position or the few that have said they would assist have such astronomical retainer fees that I can’t afford to hire them. I have reached out to all county resources that were provided to me by the Texas council on family violence (see below) but all have declined to help claiming they don’t have the resources to assist with my case.
    TOTAL AMOUNT HE CURRENTLY HAS NOT PAID = $3400.90 (This amount includes missed payments, late fees accrued over 21 months and reimbursement for family DVD copies as stated on the decree. I can provide bank deposit statements for proof of the inconsistency of payments.) I believe he is intentionally not complying because he is well aware I am struggling financially on a very low income and would be forced to accrue further debt in attorney fees in order to resolve this issue. We are divorced. The attorneys had no right to grant him control of the finances for the property awarded to me. I emailed my attorney several times begging her to modify that before the decree was finalized but she ignored my plea. I received notice on June 01, 2022 that Jason transferred the deed into my name and filed it with the courts on May 13,2022. The payments should be coming to me directly now. But I have contacted the owner requesting the payment for June 1st and asked her to please provide receipt for all payments Sept.2020 – May 2022 she is not cooperating. Jason documented on the deed transfer that the note is current and up to date with all payments, but he too has not provided proof of all payments he received Sept.2020-May 2022 nor has he paid the past due amount or provided any explanation for all the late and missing payments. I just don’t understand why the laws do not apply to him.
    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT JUST PHYSICAL OR SEXUAL ABUSE!
    FINANCIAL ABUSE, EMOTIONAL ABUSE & PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE ARE STILL ABUSE!
    The courts need to recognize this!
    Most victims of financial, emotional abuse and/or psychological abuse are usually so controlled, deceived & manipulated by the abuser that they aren’t even aware they are in an abusive relationship. They believe the love is real. The abuse starts out subtle and progresses gradually over time. Victims become accustomed to the abusive behavior, so it remains undetected not only by the victim, but neighbors, co-workers, friends and family also remain unaware of the abuse.
    Economic Abuse: Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent, Maintaining total control over financial resources, Withholding access to money.
    Emotional Abuse: Undermining a person’s sense of self-worth, Constant criticism, Belittling one’s abilities, Name calling, Damaging a partner’s relationship with the children, Punishes another by withholding money and/or affection and expects them to ask permission. Any of the above abusive actions are a devastating and demoralizing act for the victim and their children.
    These are not my words, but they speak the absolute truth! The courts really need to bring more attention to the effects of emotional abuse and change our laws!
    He called me names when he was angry, but he didn’t hit me.
    He would smash things into the walls, but he didn’t hit me.
    He would scream inches from my face, but he didn’t hit me.
    He would withhold money from me, but he didn’t hit me.
    He would tell me no one cares about me, but he wouldn’t hit me. He sometimes would flirt with other women in front of me, but he wouldn’t hit me. In the end he made me feel like ending my life would be the only way out, but at least he didn’t hit me. A. Marie #EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS STILL ABUSE!

    Over the years I often thought he was cheap, selfish & controlling. Many times, I told him he made me feel like I wasn’t loved or appreciated. He often seemed emotionally disconnected, especially the last few years I felt like I was always begging for his love and attention.
    Around neighbors, friends and family, he was the man I loved so much. He was so much fun, the life of the party, silly, funny, always made everyone laugh, he was loving, caring and he always appeared to be as much in love with me as I was with him.
    But at home, he was a different person. He was cold/distant, controlling and extremely selfish. Everything had to be his way or no way. I didn’t like how selfish and controlling he became, but he was so good at convincing me that he was a good, honest Christian man I loved him unconditionally and learned to just accept him for who he was. I knew there were some issues, especially regarding how he handled the finances, but he convinced me it was normal, and I just assumed all married couples experienced financial disagreements.

    If he hadn’t asked for the divorce, I honestly would have lived that way forever thinking that was love and believing our marriage was real. I was so completely blind to the many years of manipulation and gaslighting that when he asked for the divorce, I begged him to reconsider and try counseling.
    He actually told me that he “secretly” had not loved me for many years, there was no chance of getting it back with or without counseling. He only stayed in the marriage waiting until our daughter Samantha turned 18. He even showed me something that he wrote that started with “the first real time I kept a secret from my wife was that I no longer loved her” (I have a copy of his full letter) he also wrote he wanted a divorce since our daughter was 3 years old (that would have been 2004) he then scribbled over the 3 with 7 years old (that was 2008) I also have copies of his scribbled mess. Either way I was devastated. I didn’t want to believe it, but all the red flags and everything I had been questioning him about over the years suddenly became very clear. He had “secretly” checked out of the marriage several years before asking for the divorce. He not only committed adultery, but had been emotionally detached, manipulating, gaslighting and secretly living a separate life planning and preparing for his own financial future behind my back all while pretending to be a good, honest, loving husband and family man. He lived a secret “fake” life to remain control over “HIS” money and avoid paying child and spousal support.

    In October 2019, a friend referred me to Alicia Galvany at Steven Benke Law office and she filed the petition. However, before Jason was even served, I received a call from their office stating that Ms. Galvany was no longer with their firm and another attorney had been assigned to my case. I met with the new attorney but felt it was a conflict of interest because I had met him before at a Christmas party at Jason’s court reporter Edna’s house, so Mr. Benke took over the case. I had provided Mr. Benke with the documents that I had gathered. Luckily, he made a few copies and kept them in my file.
    Because before the temporary orders hearing Jason realized that I had discovered and collected important and incriminating documents. He went to our house when I wasn’t home searching for what I had gathered, and he took the bag that had everything I had collected. If he wasn’t hiding anything, why would he feel the need to take those documents?

    He started manipulating and intimidating me almost daily trying to convince me not to contest and to just agree to a settlement.
    He was also manipulating, brainwashing and lying to our children. He tried to turn them against me, feeding them with all his lies. He threatened me many times saying if I wouldn’t agree to settle out of court that he was going to destroy me and said he would convince our kids to go on the stand and he would have them testify against me. He was feeding them with many lies and telling them what to say. He tried to convince them to say I was an alcoholic and that was the reason for the divorce.
    They both told him they couldn’t understand why he was telling them to say those things or why he wanted them to choose sides and testify in court. He continued to lie and manipulate them trying to get them to believe all his fabricated stories.
    He knows my kids are my world and they mean everything to me. I am a good person, and I am good mother. All I ever wanted was a happy family life. Many times, he called me “a helicopter mom” and often said I was way too overprotective of our children.
    He was just reaching for anything he could to deflect from his own wrongdoings.
    He then started electronically depositing money in their accounts almost daily, $20, $30, $50, $100 etc… it appeared as if he was trying to bribe them to get them “on his side.”
    (I have records of daily deposits over several months)

    The verbal abuse had escalated in his effort to break me and the emotional pain I endured seeing what he was also doing emotionally to our children was unbearable. The stress of financial & emotional abuse along with discovering my marriage was nothing but secrets and lies were all taking a toll on my health.
    My blood pressure & heart rate were extremely elevated, I developed severe depression and anxiety. I couldn’t stop crying, I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, and in less than 2 months I lost over 50lbs my weight had dropped down below 95lbs. I wasn’t healthy.

    He did everything he could to completely destroy me, inside and out including using our children as pawns.
    You should NEVER involve the kids or talk bad about the other parent in a divorce. Neither parent should EVER try to convince their children to choose sides. Manipulating a child to hate their mother is one of the most despicable things a human being can do.
    The courts really need to bring awareness of how devastating emotional & financial abuse is and along with power, control & manipulation, it truly drains the soul and it destroys lives.

    Our temporary orders hearing was in December 2019. Judge Tanner was the presiding Judge.
    I had met her before at a function with Jason a few years before and expressed my concerns to Mr. Benke about it being a conflict of interest. He assured me there was no conflict and said she would be fair.
    However, as I suspected Jason turned on his “charm” up on the stand and started out with “as you know Judge, I am a former Judge myself and you know that I am a good, honest man.” Everything out of his mouth was nothing but lies and more fabricated stories that he created to demean my character. Even going as far as saying the reason he didn’t have me on any bank accounts was because he couldn’t trust me with the family finances.
    He said he was afraid to even give me money to pay our electric bill because he worried I would gamble the money away playing poker or buying lottery tickets. It was unreal!! I truly couldn’t believe what he was saying or even who he was anymore!
    I had to go on the stand before him, he had it all planned out and his attorney asked me if I had ever played poker before or ever bought lottery tickets. They wouldn’t allow me to answer with anything but YES or NO. I of course I had to answer with YES.

    The truth to his fabricated gambling stories that I never got to express in court is:
    Yes, I do buy lottery tickets. Sometimes I was able to spend up to $20 a week. That was MY entertainment.

    He golfed every week sometimes 2-3 times. Not only is golf an expensive hobby but he and his buddies gambled every hole each time they played. That was HIS entertainment.

    Yes, I do play poker. In fact, he taught me how to play because he and his family have played since he was a young child. They always play at every holiday/family gathering and we would have neighborhood games as well. Jason was always the tournament director, and many times several other Bexar County Judges and attorneys would come play along with us and his family. It was OUR entertainment. (I always had to have my own money though or I couldn’t play)

    He knew that I never did or would ever do anything to deceive or betray him. Again, he was just digging for anything he could to deflect from the horrible things he had secretly done to our family for so many years.
    I told my attorney and asked him to stand up for me and challenge those claims but he failed to do so, and he didn’t allow me to explain the allegations to the Judge either.

    Judge Tanner then declined my request for a forensic accountant and only ordered him to pay $300 bi-monthly in spousal support. (He did pay $500 bi-monthly while the kids were still living with me) She ordered me to pay attorney fees, my car payment, car insurance, and all credit card bills.
    I don’t understand how any judge could determine that to be fair and just. We had been married for over 23 years at that time. Jason’s salary was over $100,000 plus he was also collecting the additional $1300+ a month on the 2 promissory notes.
    My annual salary for 2019 was less than $12,000.
    I am certain he received judicial favoritism due to his working relationship with the Judges and other attorneys of Bexar County. I also believe the legal power of Nelson Wolff’s position as the County Judge had a negative influence on Mr. Benke’s representation as well as the Judge’s decision. I felt it was in my best interest to seek new counsel.

    After the holidays some wonderful friends referred me to a forensic accountant, Bill Bradley at Bradley & Vilichis CPA, and helped me retain a new attorney, Ms. Deanna Whitley. I chose Ms. Whitley because in her profile she had an article about narcissist abuse and stated her firm specialized in representing clients divorcing abusive spouses.

    When I retained Ms. Whitley, I told her after presenting documents and explaining my situation to the forensic accountant, Mr. Bradley he volunteered his services to assist with my case. I also told her that our house had sold, and we were set to close on January 31, 2020. I explained that Jason had total control of all money. I didn’t have access to any of his accounts and I didn’t make enough on my own to provide housing for myself.
    I was not only struggling financially and emotionally but was extremely distraught over how horrible Jason was treating me and our children after I found the documents and discovered the truth of who he really was and what he had “secretly” done to our family.

    I asked her to request an increase for the previous temporary orders and request to divide the proceeds from the sale of our home so that I could live independently while completing the divorce procedures.
    She sent a request to opposing counsel, but Jason refused to agree to release and divide the funds from the sale of our house and refused to pay more than the $500 Bi-monthly in temporary spousal support that he was already providing.
    He stated that he would consider & discuss possible additional funds after Feb.25 which was when discovery was due. Again, they allowed him total control of the procedures. He was calling the shots. He was certain that since I didn’t have access to any money, I wouldn’t be able to proceed, and I would be forced to agree to a settlement before he was required to complete discovery.
    He had been sending intimidating emails and multiple proposals since October trying to get me to settle but I knew he was not disclosing all assets, so I declined all offers.
    Ms. Whitley didn’t file the motion for a hearing to change the previous orders. Jason was the one making all the decisions and was in total control of the divorce procedures. Both attorneys simply allowed him to do so.

    I told Ms. Whitley I felt due to the judicial power the Wolff name holds in Bexar County that I wanted to request it to be moved to another county so that I could have a better chance of having a fair trial. She refused and told me that was not a good enough reason to request to move the trial and the case would have to remain in Bexar County.

    I advised Ms. Whitley he started investing in real estate in 2013. He had purchased and sold 12-15 properties that I was aware of. However, I suspected there were more in hidden trusts, and LLC accounts or were purchased under another name to conceal ownership. I expressed those concerns to Ms. Whitley and provided the documents I found that showed why I suspected it.

    I expressed many concerns to Ms. Whitley and told her that with our lifestyle things just didn’t add up. I know how we lived. It was definitely the bare minimal, but I had always believed him when he told me he was investing it for our future and for a better quality of life.

    I provided Ms. Whitley with the following documents:

    1) a real estate document from 2014 that had my signature on it. I was unaware of this document. I did not sign it nor did I authorize Jason to sign on my behalf.

    2) I found bank statements from 2011-2016 and discovered he had multiple bank accounts, checking, savings and open lines of credit. He had 2 to 3 accounts at 4 or 5 different banks/credit unions. I had no idea and couldn’t understand why he had so many accounts. Several times over the years I asked him if we had a savings account, he always told me NO. I asked her several times to take his deposition and subpoena for bank records, but she failed to do so.

    3) He had personally prepared and filed our joint IRS taxes himself since 2013 and had my electronic signature on file. I fully trusted him, so I never even thought to question him or look at them before but discovered that NONE of the real estate investments had been reported on our returns after 2014.
    I asked Ms. Whitley many times to order him to produce the tax information, deeds/titles etc.. regarding the real estate transactions but she did not do it. (Mr. Bradley stated there was evidence of waste on the estate with the real estate transactions alone. He also advised the attorneys that Jason needed to provide an accounting for the source and use of community funds, including bank statements, settlement agreements, deeds & titles for the period of the marriage. He also stated that Jason had not reported the income properties (the 2 promissory note properties) on the taxes and was filing all real estate investments under schedule C which is an inventory dealer engaged in real estate as primary business, rather than an investor for appreciation and capital gains.
    All attorneys failed to acknowledge Mr. Bradley’s findings and also failed to acknowledge the contracts and many email exchanges between Jason and the LLC that I provided indicating he had moved assets and was buying and selling other properties through that LLC to conceal ownership.)

    (4) I also had advised my attorney that a $50,000.00 line of credit from SSFCU appeared on my credit report. I was told Jason opened the account in 2016. I then found an email confirmation of the loan approval in both of our names. They said he cancelled the request that was in both of our names and reapplied in his name only. However, they told me even though he was the primary account holder it was still linked to a joint savings account that we had opened in 2007 therefore I am still a secondary holder (it only has $21 in it). I was never even aware of that account before he asked for the divorce. He did not disclose it on the inventory & appraisement form yet my attorney didn’t even address the issue. Our divorce was final Nov.06,2020 The $50,000 line of credit is still an active account. I received notice that a $7500 advance was taken from it on Aug.28, 2021 and he had missed a few payments now it is negatively affecting my credit score. 5) I found he had a “secret” separate phone number through Verizon with an area code in Bryan Texas (979-218-4569) since 2007 that I never knew about. Ms. Whitley never addressed this issue. Our family phone plan was in my name and we had been with Sprint for over 18 years. After the divorce, my parents offered to add me to their plan. Instead of allowing me to remove myself and him simply taking over the family account he removed himself and our children off the plan and left me with almost a $1,000 phone bill because I was the lead name on the account.

    6) I found a document that he completed for what I believe to be another bank loan dated 04-04-16 in which he listed all incoming and outgoing funds and he stated his annual cash flow surplus was $55,015. Again, I advised Ms. Whitley of my suspicions of him hiding money, I provided the documents and asked her to subpoena his bank several times. I even asked her if we could request statements from HR to verify where his income had been dispersed over the years, but she failed to do either.

    7) I found several email exchanges between Jason and Zaga Enterprises LLC which is listed as owned by Jorge Gamboa. They all appear to be contracts. I believe he may have a land trust or anonymous trust with him and possibly moved assets into the LLC and also may have purchased other properties through the LLC since 2016 to conceal ownership.
    I not only found emails regarding both properties, but l also found an actual signed contract, between Jason and Zaga for one of the promissory note properties. It appears he sold the promissory notes to Zaga Enterprises LLC.
    I provided all evidence to Ms. Whitley and also told her that the document (listed #1 above) where my name was fraudulently signed in 2014 was also a deal he made with Jorge Gamboa. I asked her to subpoena him and require him to provide all email/text exchanges, all contracts, agreements, deeds, titles and any other miscellaneous documents exchanged between Jorge Gamboa and Jason Wolff.
    Mr. Gamboa was subpoenaed but Jason had it quashed, and Ms. Whitley failed to follow through with further action.

    One of those property/notes was awarded to me on the decree at 100%, but Jason had it documented on the decree that he remains control of the funds and I have to rely on him each month to deposit in my account until 2031. He has not been consistent with the payments. He makes the deposits on random dates every month including sometimes not until the very last day of the month and sometimes not at all. I did not receive a payment for Oct. or Nov. 2021 or Feb. & March, April, May & June 2022. He is NOT complying to the court orders on the decree. (update: he posted a payment on March 15 of $1560 for Feb. & March. He posted another payment of $1560 on May 13 for April & May but still hasn’t paid the Oct. Nov. or June payments or any of the late fees.)
    TOTAL AMOUNT HE CURRENTLY HAS NOT PAID AS OF JUNE 2022 = $3400.00 (This amount includes missed payments, late fees accrued over 21 months and reimbursement for family DVD copies as stated on the decree. I can provide bank deposit statements for proof of the inconsistency of payments.) We are divorced. The attorneys had no right to grant him control of the finances for the property that was awarded to me. I emailed my attorney several times begging her to modify that before the decree was finalized but she ignored my plea. I received notice on June 01, 2022 Jason transferred the deed into my name and filed it with the courts on May 13,2022. The payments should be coming to me directly now but I have contacted the owner requesting the payment for June and asked her to please provide receipt for all payments Sept.2020 – May 2022 but she is not cooperating. Jason documented on the deed transfer that the note is current and up to date with all payments, but he too has not provided proof of all payments he received Sept.2020-May 2022 nor has he paid the past due amount or provided any explanation for all the late and missing payments.
    8) In 2019 I found on the “people search” website that their data base search revealed assets owned by Jason Wolff worth over $901,000 however, my name in their data base only revealed $255,000 in assets owned by me.
    Again, neither of us came into the marriage with any personal property.
    Everything earned and acquired over our 24 year marriage is absolutely community property.

    9) I found an ATM withdrawal slip from 2017 from an account that he had with a balance of $56,020.94 He did not disclose this account.

    10) Right before he asked for the divorce in July 2019, he bought another property. After he asked for the divorce, he told me he had a buyer and said I needed to sign the papers and get it notarized because this time he put it in both of our names. He told me the profit was $25,000 but he had to pay $1,000 fee to the people that referred him to the buyer. He said since we were in the process of a divorce he would be fair and split the balance of $24,000 50/50. However, when it sold he only wrote me a check for $3250 and put in the memo “Lyn’s attorney fees”. Again Ms. Whitley failed to address this issue.

    I also told Ms. Whitley I believed he had invested in Bitcoin. He talked about it several years ago, but I had no clue what he was talking about. I didn’t even understand what it was, but our son did. He told me his dad told him about it too and he opened an account as well. He said he helped his PawPaw (Jason’s father) open an account too. He did not disclose any cyber accounts on the inventory & appraisement form and Ms. Whitley never took his deposition. After the divorce he changed his title on his Twitter account and now lists: prosecutor, real estate, blockchain, crypto currency and NFT adopter so clearly he has undisclosed cyber accounts.

    In 2008 my daughter Brittany was only 20, and a new mother. Our grandson Bryce was only a year old. She needed help getting the training to be able to get a better paying job.
    She wanted to get certified to be a dental assistant. The school she wanted to attend was less than $4,000. Jason refused to help. He told me we couldn’t afford to pay for it and said she would need to take out a student loan. I was so upset and couldn’t understand why we couldn’t afford to help her get the training she needed. I knew she couldn’t afford to pay for student loans, but I didn’t make enough on my own to help her. He made more money than I did. Therefore, he made all decisions. My wants, my needs and my opinion never seemed to have any value.

    In 2013 Brittany married her current husband, Ian. Jason was a Judge at the time so she of course wanted her father to perform the services which he did, but he told her we couldn’t afford to pay for a wedding and said we could only give them $3,000 towards it. That didn’t even cover the cost of the venue. I begged him to at least give them $5,000 but he refused and wouldn’t even give me additional money to buy a gift for them because he said the $3,000 we contributed was their wedding gift.
    Again, I was so upset and couldn’t understand why we couldn’t afford it but again, I didn’t have any money of my own, so I just had to accept it.

    He did not adopt Brittany, but she was only 5 ½ years old when Jason & I started dating. We legally changed her last name to Wolff after we were married. He raised her as his own and was her father for over 25 years. We were Mimi & PawPaw to her children. Brittany & her husband Ian now have 4 children 14, 7, 4 & 1.
    After Jason asked for the divorce he and his family completely disconnected, blocked and cut all ties with Brittany, and the grandchildren. I was informed he had been having an affair with a girl that is 4 years younger than Brittany. Evidently, the girlfriend was also married at the time and had left her young child to live with family in Guadalajara when she moved to Texas. She and Jason recently married.

    Brittany tried to reach out to her father in Nov.2021, but he verbally attacked her with extremely fowl language. He told her to “go FU%* herself, called her a royal Cunt and said he wanted nothing to do with her and never wanted see or speak to her again.” (I can provide the text messages) He also tried to convince our 2 younger children to disconnect and turn against their older sister as well. It truly was unreal to see the person he really is and it is absolutely unbelievable that anyone could be so cruel and abusive to their children/grandchildren.

    In 2016 we bought a property in Ruidoso New Mexico. But he brought me a form and asked me to sign it. The form was to relinquish my rights and it said it was for his sole and personal possession. I asked him what that meant and why he was asking me to sign it. He said “Babe don’t you trust me? We have been married over 20 years. This is just a form the title company needs. Just sign it”. So of course, I trusted and believed him, and I signed it. (I can provide a copy as well as a copy of the bank loan he applied for stating “a married man dealing with his own personal property”)
    I was with him several times looking for property in Ruidoso and when we found that lot, we talked about putting cabins on it and having it for our family vacations and renting them out for additional income. He also talked about possibly putting a dispensary on it when marijuana became legal in New Mexico. I had no idea he was so deceitful and had been manipulating me for years.
    I now know that he had me sign that form because he thought I was just going to believe everything he said like I always did and let his friend Johnny Cisneros tell me “the law is the law” and file our divorce for us so he could keep that property for himself. That is why he was so angry that I hired my own attorney. He knew then he was going to have to divide that asset too. So then he tried to use it to turn our kids against me again. He told them his plan was to sell the property and put it in trust accounts for them so they would have money for their future. He told them that I was “falsely” accusing him of fraud and told them that was something he would never do. He said “because of your mother is falsely accusing me all that money will now just go to attorney fees and you will get nothing.” They believed him and were so hurt and upset with me. He then told me my kids had no respect for me and were disgusted with “MY” behavior. He said I should be ashamed of myself for accusing him of something he would never do.

    In 2018 another property he bought, he asked me to sign the same form again to relinquish my rights and it would be for his sole and personal possession. I questioned him about that property deal too, this time, he told me it was because his father was going to finance it and wanted to have it as an income property.
    His dad gave him $15,000 cash. Jason said it was for finding the property and writing up the contract. I don’t know what he did with the $15,000 but it was NOT reported on our 2018 taxes. Isn’t that tax fraud?
    On BCAD the deed shows Jason as the grantor, and he granted the deed over to his father then his father sold it to another party. I also found the contract that states “his father” will receive the income on a promissory note until 2028. I am certain Jason put it in his father’s name because he knew that was a “legal” way to hide an asset prior to divorce.

    Anytime over the years if I would question him about money or about disrespectful things he would say or do to me, he always had a way of convincing me that I was at fault. He would turn it around and call me a negative person and say that I didn’t appreciate anything. He would say “you are never happy, or nothing is ever good enough for you” or tell me how ungrateful I was. He would often belittle me and make me feel bad about myself for not making very much money at my job.
    My part-time salary was commission based. On many occasions I would have less than $50 to my name after paying my share of household bills. I often needed to ask him for gas money or lunch money or help with my car payment. I told him he made me feel worthless and I had lost all my confidence, and self-esteem. He would say he saw that I lost all that but would just tell me it was my fault for feeling that way and I needed to take a better look at myself and stop trying to blame him for it. I of course always believed him and believed everything was my fault. I realize now that was NOT a marriage it was ABUSE.

    I couldn’t understand why even after Jason started working at the D.A.’s office, why our home life and lifestyle remained the same bare minimum. We still lived on the same minimal budget that we did when he was in school.
    When we bought our home in 2008 he said we didn’t have a savings account and had to borrow $40,000 from his parents for the down payment.
    They wrote us each a check for $20,000 out of a family trust account and said they could gift that amount to us each tax free and said we could pay them back $1,000 a month interest free over 40 months. At that time, Jason had already been working for 4 years with a salary over $70,000, we had been living in his parent’s house rent free for 12 years and I was always responsible to pay the household bills with my part-time income. We had lived so minimal on such a low budget for so many years. I had grown accustomed to it and didn’t think twice when he said we didn’t have any money in savings and needed to borrow money for a down payment to buy a house. I always believed him.
    However, I certainly don’t believe that now that I am fully aware of all the secrets and lies over the years. There is no way possible we didn’t have any money saved up and we absolutely would not have needed to “borrow” any money. I am certain that money was from his salary and he had been putting it in a trust account in his parent’s name since he started working at the D.A,s office in 2004. It appears that is when he began preparing for a 2019 divorce. (“secretly” waiting until our daughter turned 18)
    I believe he has been funneling all or most of what he considered “his” money for the past 16+ years into that hidden trust account. I firmly believe it is in his parent’s name and it should be investigated.

    After he finished law school and started his career in 2004. He was finally able to provide on his own, without his parents’ financial help. But apparently, that is also when he “secretly” didn’t love me anymore and “secretly” didn’t want to be married anymore but he certainly DID NOT want to lose control of “HIS” money.
    He knew if he asked for a divorce then, he would be held responsible to pay child support & spousal support until our youngest child turned 18.
    I guess it was at that point that he put his acting skills to good use and was able to fake the marriage and keep all his “secrets” until 2019.
    He had carefully calculated everything and even asked for the divorce exactly 60 days from our daughter’s 18th birthday. Again, because he thought I was going to believe everything he said like I always did and would just let his friend Johnny Cisneros file it for us without any fees and the divorce would be final just as our daughter turned 18.

    For many years, since the kids were little, he slept in a separate bedroom. He first blamed the kids and said he couldn’t sleep with me because they were always coming to my bed every night and he needed his sleep. I understood and accepted it.
    Then when the kids were older and staying in their own rooms he still slept in another room. He then blamed me and said he couldn’t sleep next to me anymore because I snored. I told him it hurt my feelings and it made me feel like he didn’t love me anymore. It made me feel like I was just his roommate not his wife. He always said it had nothing to do with his love for me, of course he loved me and why couldn’t I just understand that he couldn’t sleep next to me because I snored.
    I tried to understand, and I learned to just accept it over the years, but I knew that wasn’t the real reason. He frequently watched porn in there and I have since learned the real reason he chose to sleep in another room was because he no longer loved me and it made it easier for him to stay “secretly,” emotionally detached while he lived his life of deceit preparing for his OWN financial future. We bought our home in 2008 our mortgage was less than $1500/month. Our household bills (electric, cable, water) were less than $500 per month.

    For several years he only allowed me $125 a week for groceries he eventually allowed $150-$200 the last few years.
    His his salary was over $100,000 plus he was buying and selling real estate. Even with that high income and low mortgage/household bills, almost all furnishings and everything in our home was used/purchased off craigslist or Goodwill.
    If I would ask for simple household upgrades or repairs needed in our home, he would tell me no and say we couldn’t afford it. Repairs and upgrades rarely got done unless it was something he actually wanted/needed or if I could pay for it myself.

    Within the first year or two that we lived in our new home I noticed we needed a water softener because the hard water was ruining our appliances and plumbing. I asked for it for several years. His response was always the same, “no, we can’t afford it or do YOU have the money to pay for it.” After several years of asking, I finally saved up enough of my own money to buy one. I thought it could just easily be hooked up but found out we needed to pay a plumber to do that. He said it wasn’t important to him, so it never did get hooked up, it sat unopened in the box in our garage for over 5 years. I sold it on craigslist when he asked for the divorce.

    Another upgrade I begged him for several years was to replace the carpet throughout our house with hardwood floors. After 6 years of me begging he finally agreed but only if I could pay for half of it. I could only afford to contribute $2,000 so he only allowed to replace the downstairs. We never did upgrade the upstairs. We lived there over 12 years. Not only would he not replace it, but he wouldn’t even pay to have the upstairs carpet cleaned.

    Because of my job, we were blessed to go on many family vacations. However, every vacation we went on was only because of my fantastic travel agent discounts, and even then, he would only agree to go if I had my own separate money for my expenses.
    I had to pay for anything I wanted, or I didn’t get it. Whether it was playing in the casinos, gift shops, site seeing activities etc.
    We all enjoyed going on cruises so much and we loved that the dining was included so we could enjoy nice meals together. But even then, I had to have my own separate money if I chose to upgrade my meal with a $15- $20 surcharge. I still never realized he was being abusive. I always just thought he was cheap and accepted him for who he was. I truly believed we were BOTH contributing to our family and thought we were building our life together. I was blind to the fact that he was actually living his own financially separate life.

    Even though I had always paid my own car payments, I still didn’t have any control or a say in that matter either. Because he made more money than I did, ONLY HE determined if or when I could get a new car. He told me it was because I wouldn’t qualify for a loan on my own and needed his income to qualify. (When I say new car, I mean “new” used car. I was still very limited to what I could afford to make the payments with my income alone).

    It is still so hard to believe that I was completely blind to all the many red flags and the fact that our lifestyle never changed. It sadly remained the same bare minimal throughout our 24 years of marriage. I never did understand how it was possible to be in my mid 50’s, had worked since I was 14 years old, lived on my own and paid my own bills since I was 17 years old, raised my daughter Brittany on my own for over 5 ½ years before I met Jason. Yet after 24 years of marriage, we still always seemed to be broke & barely making ends meet living paycheck to paycheck. More often than not my share of the household bills were my whole salary. I rarely was able to take my kids/grandkids to lunch/dinner on my own and couldn’t even afford to stop for a coffee or breakfast tacos for the kids on the way to school sometimes because there wasn’t a household account and I didn’t have access to “HIS” money unless I asked him for it and he approved it.

    I didn’t like being so controlled and certainly didn’t like having to ask for money. I had always been very independent before I married Jason. I applied for credit cards in my name that he didn’t know about.
    When he asked for the divorce, he was furious when he found out I had those cards. He tried to use that to intimidate me to settle out of court and threatened me. He told me I committed fraud. He tried to scare me and told me I better agree to a settlement because he had a case against me. He told me I had no right to apply for credit cards in my name without his permission because I didn’t have a high enough income on my own.
    We were married, I had every right, and I absolutely should have had access to OUR money but sadly he ALWAYS kept everything separate. I always paid my bills and I always paid on time.

    I am so very thankful that I was smart enough to get that credit available to me in my name because if I didn’t have it, I would not have ever been able to retain an attorney or even survive on my own after he asked for the divorce.
    He controlled my life. There were so many red flags over the years, but I was completely blind to them all because I truly loved and trusted him with all my heart. I always believed he was the good, honest, Christian man he portrayed himself to be. I believed everything he said, ALWAYS!

    Our son has had a lot of health issues. He has also suffered with severe depression for many years and has battled with addictions.
    During the divorce process in February 2020, he needed to go to a rehab facility. The co-pay was $4,000. Jason said we couldn’t afford it and he had to “borrow” the money from his parents. He told me that I would have to pay them back for half of it.
    He said since they knew I didn’t have any money, he would just have the attorneys deduct it from my share of the proceeds when the funds from the sale of our home were divided.
    He has a six-figure income and also he is the only one that received the additional monthly income from the 2 promissory notes and all the other properties bought and sold over the years. He had been living at his parents’ house since September 2019 and did not have any household expenses. There is no reason why he would need to borrow money to pay for our son’s medical expenses. He was supposed to be the provider for our family.
    I refused to allow them to deduct it from my share. His mother has sent me several hateful text messages saying Jason paid them back for his half, but I still owed them for my share.
    There is definitely something wrong if a married man believes that maintaining his financial independence and his own ambitions are above providing for his family.

    After struggling financially and asking many times over 5 months, Ms. Whitley finally ordered a court hearing in May 2020 to request additional temporary spousal support and to finally divide the proceeds from the house so that I could live independently again. The day before the hearing Jason agreed to temporarily pay $1,000 bi-monthly and the funds from our home were divided so the hearing was cancelled.
    Ms. Whitley also requested the preliminary report from the forensic accountant, Mr. Bradley.
    On June 22, Mr. Bradley advised both attorneys of his findings and listed the specific documents Jason needed to produce regarding those findings.
    Jason refused to provide the requested documents and Ms. Whitley still did not subpoena his bank or take his deposition, instead she moved forward and set a trial date for July 22 and mediation on July 8 before his full discovery was complete.

    I sent her many emails and called her several times stating that I did not want to go to mediation before full discovery was complete because I knew he was hiding money and not disclosing all assets. I deserved a fair trial and to be allowed to have my forensic accountant Bill Bradley complete a report of the finances and complete discovery.

    I also sent Jason a message stating the same thing and told him I thought a jury trial would be a more, fair option due to his and his family’s position in Bexar County.
    However, Ms. Whitley explained to me that due to the pandemic, it could be mid to late 2021 before we could have a jury trial and said the cost could be close to $100,000 or more.
    Due to the extreme financial hardship I was under, I agreed not to have a jury trial and agreed to a bench trial. She told me mediation was required by law, but I didn’t have to agree to anything if it was not fair.

    On the morning of mediation, Ms. Whitley called me and said that because I sent Jason the message saying that I did not want mediation and told him I preferred a jury trial, ethically she could not go to mediation and represent me, so she cancelled it. She said I needed to let her know if I wanted her to revoke Rule 11 and request a jury trial again or not. She told me to think about it and she would call me that afternoon. She never called me back or returned my calls so I sent her emails and told her I would not request a jury trial and would still agree to a bench trial as she recommended.

    I received an email later that evening, she ordered a motion to revoke Rule 11, and she filed a motion for withdrawal as counsel and asked the court for continuance to grant me time to seek new counsel.
    I could not believe it and didn’t know what I was supposed to do next! I didn’t even get an explanation why she withdrew. Finally, a few days later she said it was because we had communication issues. The communication issues were due to her often being irritated with me for not understanding why she wouldn’t return my calls or reply to my emails and wouldn’t follow through with obtaining the requested subpoenas or getting the requested and necessary documents from Jason to complete discovery.
    All during the divorce process I expressed to both Ms. Whitley and Lonie Savage, her paralegal, many times that it appeared as if Jason was controlling everything. I told them both I felt like she was protecting him, looking out for his best interests instead of mine.

    I contacted another attorney and was told because we were so far along on the case it was going to take many hours just to go through all the documents and get up to date. She told me if I wanted to continue it could cost another $50,000 or more.
    Ms. Whitley called the next day and asked me how my meeting went with the potential new attorney. I told her it went well but I was concerned about the cost and didn’t know how I was going to pay for it. She then offered to stay on as my attorney and told me she would subpoena his bank and take his deposition. (Later that evening the other attorney sent me an email stating the other partners in her firm did not want her to take the case because of the legal position of the party involved.)
    However, again Ms. Whitley failed to subpoena the bank and still didn’t take his deposition or request the documents needed and I was forced to attend mediation on August 03 without full discovery being completed.

    The only assets Jason claimed we had and were disclosed for division were as follows:

    1. the proceeds from the sale of our home (split 50/50)
    1. The Ruidoso property (which he tried not to include) … (during mediation on his interrogatories sheet he only listed the value at $25,191 and agreed to a 60/40 split it ending up selling for $125,000 in October 2020 and the split was modified to 61/39)
    1. the 2 promissory note properties: (he was awarded $558 per month property through 2032, I was awarded $778 per month through 2031) However he is the only one that received all previous payments since purchased in 2016 and 2017 THAT is community property, I asked Ms. Whitley several times why I didn’t receive my share of the back payments on those notes but she never acknowledged it.
    1. his retirement pension. (I will receive 55% of his pension after he is eligible October 2024)
      He refused to provide spousal support or health insurance.


    On the inventory & appraisement sheet sworn by Jason on Aug.03, 2020 he stated he had less than $3,300 cash on hand, only $1,313.57 in his checking account, and stated there was less than $1,000.00 in the 2 promissory note accounts and he also stated there were NO profits from the sale of all the other properties that were bought and sold over the years, NO savings accounts, NO joint accounts , NO trust accounts, NO savings bonds, NO safe deposit boxes, NO money set aside for our children and their future, NO cyber currency, NO other investments and said there were not ANY other assets and NO additional money at all. YES!! HE ACTUALLY SAID THERE WASN’T ANY MONEY TO DIVIDE and no other assets!! NOTHING!! ZERO!!
    How could anybody believe that to even possibly be true with a 6 figure income, all the real estate investments and after 24 years of marriage? Really, Nothing? No money at all for division and he still refused to provide spousal maintenance despite the incredibly huge difference in the earning potential between us? THAT WAS NOT A BIG RED FLAG TO ANYONE?

    I said over and over that it was NOT a fair and just settlement. I WOULD NOT AGREE!!
    I told them many times he was not being truthful and said that he had been financially abusive and hiding money for several years. I deserved to have him complete full discovery, have a fair trial and have my forensic accountant, Mr. Bradley compile a report.

    Both the mediator, Randy Alwais and Ms. Whitley insisted that Mr. Bradley’s preliminary report only indicated that the taxes may have been filed under the wrong form and told me there was no evidence of fraud. (That was false information. I can provide a copy of the report)
    They were badgering, intimidating and pressuring me to agree to settle and said if I didn’t agree than at least another $30,000 or more would end up going to attorney fees and in the end, I would have nothing. Then they said I was responsible to pay for the overtime in mediation because I was holding everything up. I was crying and begging them to stop for hours.
    It was only supposed to be 4 hours, but I continued to refuse to agree to Jason’s terms. I was only trying to stand up for myself and for my rights. I ended up suffering through 9 1/2 brutal hours in a Zoom mediation of pure intimidation and manipulation from both the mediator and Ms. Whitley. At the end of a long, exhausting mediation I was manipulated and coerced to agree to an inequitable division of assets based on misrepresentation and undue influence.
    It was very clear Ms. Whitley was not representing me they were both working in Jason’s favor.

    I spoke to the accountant the next day. I told him that the mediator and Ms. Whitley told me there was no evidence of fraud and said his report only stated the taxes may have been filed on the wrong form. He said “that was a flat out lie!” He stated there was evidence of waste on the estate with the real estate transactions alone.
    Both attorneys were advised of his findings and they both were advised that Jason needed to produce specific documents regarding those findings in order to complete a full report.
    He also told me he could not complete a full report until the bank was subpoenaed and said Ms. Whitley was aware of that but she failed to do so.

    Jason’s income was over $70,000 for the 6 years 2004-2010, His income was $155,000-$178,000 while he was a judge 2011-2019, he has bought and sold multiple properties since 2013, had been collecting additional income from 2 promissory notes since 2016/2017 and had been living with his parents for over a year during the divorce process with no household bills.

    Over the course of our marriage my average annual salary was $20,000. At the time of divorce, I lost my job due to the pandemic and was unemployed, still paying a share for housing while staying with friends/family, paying for my car payment, my car insurance, credit card bills and attorney fees all while living on an unemployment wage of $16,930 yet somehow based on the inventory & appraisals statement sworn and signed by Jason Wolff, I had more money in my bank account than he stated he had at the time of divorce in all his accounts combined. Again, REALLY??? Not a HUGE red flag to anyone?

    To “perjure” yourself is to knowingly make misleading or false statements under oath or to sign a legal document you know to be false or misleading. … Perjury is considered a crime against justice, since lying under oath compromises the authority of courts, grand juries, governing bodies, and public officials. Perjury is considered a serious offense, as it can be used to usurp the power of the courts, resulting in miscarriages of justice. In the United States, for example, the general perjury statute under federal law classifies perjury as a felony and provides for a prison sentence of up to five years. Don’t these laws apply to EVERYONE? Because Jason refused to agree to pay for my health insurance or spousal maintenance, the mediation was only a partial settlement and we had to have a hearing before a Judge to determine spousal maintenance. Ms. Whitley told me that I would not receive any health insurance, but she stated because our marriage was over 24 years and my earning potential was so much lower than his. Based on Texas Law, I should qualify for 20% of his gross salary for 7 years. She advised only a Judge has the authority to determine exactly how much and for how long based on the facts of the case. I was certain I qualified based on Texas Law.

    Qualifications for spousal maintenance under Texas law: The marriage has lasted for at least 10 years and the spouse seeking spousal maintenance lacks sufficient property or income to provide for her reasonable needs AND is either a) disabled or b) primary caretaker of a disabled child, OR c) lacks earning ability to provide for his or her minimum reasonable needs.

    Our hearing was on August 26, 2020. Judge Arteaga was the presiding Judge.
    We were scheduled to begin our zoom hearing around 11:45am. Before the hearing even began the Judge said she had a meeting so we would break for lunch first and the hearing would begin at 1:00p. I believe during that lunch break there may have been improper discussions between both counsels and possibly the Judge.

    While still waiting for the hearing, Ms. Whitley called me and said Jason’s attorney, Roland Esparza, asked if I would agree instead of requesting spousal maintenance to take 100% ownership of the New Mexico land property that was already agreed upon in mediation at a 60/40 split upon the sale of it.
    Ms. Whitley strongly advised me to accept. She even repeatedly asked me if I really was not going to agree even though she was STRONGLY recommending me to do so.
    I still declined because I had no idea what the true value of that property was, and I fully believed that I qualified and was entitled to spousal maintenance.

    After 24 years of marriage, I trusted that the Judge would acknowledge that too and would be honest and fair so the hearing started at 1:00p.
    Ms. Whitley called on Jason first, but shortly after they began the Judge interrupted and said she wanted to meet with both attorneys in private and would return in 5 minutes. When they returned, she asked me if I would agree to take the Ruidoso property offer or $25,000 now and no additional spousal maintenance. She said “Or we can continue with this hearing, but at the end, I may determine that you will end up receiving nothing at all. What is it going to be Ms. Wolff?”. She never even gave me the opportunity to testify. Ms. Whitley failed to properly represent me and didn’t even present the financial facts of the case to the Judge.

    When I asked if I could talk to my attorney about it, Judge Arteaga changed it to $20,000 and then she modified the MSA and changed the Ruidoso settlement from 60/40 split that was agreed in mediation to a 61/39 split. Again, I was manipulated, intimidated and felt I had no choice but to agree. I was not properly represented ethically or fairly.

    I had worked throughout our entire marriage and was always responsible to pay a portion of the household bills. I was a travel agent for over 35 years and had been with same company for over 18 years. My average annual salary was less than $20,000.
    My full-time job was dedicated to raising our children and taking care of the household which allowed him the opportunity to get his education and have a lucrative career to provide for our family. During the divorce procedures I lost my job due to the pandemic. I firmly believe I was entitled to post-divorce spousal maintenance.
    I should not have been left homeless and financially destitute after dedicating 24 years of my life to my family. However, my request for post-divorce spousal maintenance was denied. Judge Arteaga finalized the divorce and said it was being sealed for privacy due to Jason’s high profile.

    After the hearing, I discovered that Judge Arteaga is a committee member on the Bexar County budget committee alongside Judge Nelson Wolff and have since learned she has also worked very closely with him on other county matters. I believe this not only influenced her decision but was a conflict of interest and I believe Jason received judicial favoritism because of it.
    I was also later advised there was no record of a court reporter present at the hearing on Aug.26 with Judge Arteaga, nobody was sworn in, and the hearing was electronically recorded based on information and belief only.
    Shortly after he asked for the divorce, I made sure I transferred all family VHS tapes to DVD. I paid over $1,000 and gave him all original copies of the VHS tapes and told him he could do the same. He didn’t do it. His attorney then documented it on the decree stating that I was required to make copies of my DVD’s for him and ship them to him but said he was required to reimburse me for all expenses. Even though he has all the original VHS tapes I followed what was ordered on the decree and I had copies made for him. I included the invoice and shipping fee receipt when I sent them. I sent them in December 2020, he ignored what was on the decree and has paid NOTHING. Therefore, again he has not complied to the orders on the decree. In December 2020, our daughter needed all 4 of her wisdom teeth removed. He sent me a message saying I had to pay for half. I responded back and said perhaps he could explain to our daughter why he has a 6 figure income and I lost my job due to the pandemic and have been financially struggling to make it on my own why he is NOT going to provide the medical treatment that she needs? His response was “I don’t care what your situation or excuses are. They are your children too! They are who you are! ” I never responded but I bought an airline ticket and I flew to Texas to be there for my daughter during her surgery. I paid for her surgery in full and I took care of her 24/7 until she recovered. I am not sure he ever even checked in on her, but he paid nothing towards the $1,000+ bill. (I can provide the text message exchanges between us)

    I hired a new attorney Jamie Graham in November 2020 to appeal the case.
    When I contacted her, we discussed my case thoroughly, she led me to believe that because full and complete discovery by Jason was never produced and my former attorney did not subpoena those documents and the fact that I was coerced to enter into mediation without full discovery being completed that I had a very good case to pursue. We even discussed negligence & misrepresentation of my previous attorney. She mentioned something about due diligence. I was told they were going to double whammy and file a motion for new trial along with a fraud suit.

    She assigned Erin Groce to my case and Erin filed a motion for new trial on Dec.04, 2020.
    I had informed Erin that Jason has not conformed to the orders listed on the decree at that time and I believed she was going to address that too but she never did.

    The motion states a new trial is brought by Lyn M. Wolff, Movant, who shows in support:
    1. On November 06, 2020 a judgment was signed by this court in this case.
    2. A new trial should be granted because the evidence is legally and factually insufficient to support this Court’s judgement.
    The evidence is so material that it would probably produce a different result if a new trial were granted.
    3. A new trial should be granted to Lyn M. Wolff because (1) the following newly discovered evidence has come to Lyn M. Wolff’s knowledge since the entry of the mediated settlement agreement, (2) the failure to discover the new evidence sooner was not for want of due diligence, (3) the new evidence is not cumulative evidence and (4) the new evidence is so material that it would probably produce a different result if a new trail were granted.
    More specifically, the inventory & appraisement sworn by Jason Wolff on August 01, 2020, and the mediated settlement agreement entered into by the parties on August 03, 2020 do not identify or address the bank accounts or other accounts which included the transfer of funds from sale of properties during the parties’ marriage., and was not produced in discovery.
    4. A new trial should be granted to Movant because this court abused its discretion in entering an Order modifying the Mediated Settlement Agreement and waiving Movant’s claim to post-divorce maintenance because Movant was denied due process and not afforded notice of such hearing modification.
    The trial set on August 26, 2020, was to hear the singular issue of Movant’s claim for post-divorce maintenance.
    Movant was not aware that the Mediated Settlement Agreement was not going to be entered as agreed upon by the parties and was not informed that she was entitled to judgement of the Mediated Settlement Agreement as agreed upon on August 03, 2020 as a matter of law. As a result, Movant was persuaded by the court and her attorney of record to modify the Mediated Settlement Agreement and enter into an agreement that was inherently unjust and unequal.

    5. The above errors probably caused rendition of improper judgement in the case. Tex. R. App. P.44.1(a)(1)
    6. Lyn M. Wolff has meritorious defense to the cause of action alleged in this case
    7. The granting of a new trial would not injure Respondent, Jason W. Wolff
    8. Justice will not be properly served unless a new trial was granted.
    9. Lyn M. Wolff prays that the court set aside the judgement signed on November 6, 2020 and grant a new trial.

    The clerk’s office didn’t enter the motion for new trial until Dec.10, 2020. When I asked Erin about this, she assured me that it was electronically filed on time on Dec.04,2020 but the clerks just didn’t record it until the Dec.10th.
    I was told the court never responded to the motion for new trial, so it was deemed overruled. On Feb.19, 2021 Jamie Graham filed an appeal and told me she was still going to also file a fraud suit. She then assigned Sarah Anne Lishman to my case.
    4th court of appeals stated that the motion for new trial was due by Dec.07, 2020 and was not filed in a timely manner so the deadline for an appeal was not met.
    Sarah Anne said she sent a letter verifying it was a clerical error and requested an extension for the appeal. I received a letter Sept. 27, 2021 from the 4th court of appeals stating that the deadline for an appeal was not extended and the case has been dismissed due to my attorney, Jamie Graham not filing the motion for new trial late and not requesting for an extension in a timely manner.

    The decree states any undisclosed assets would be awarded to the other party 100% which left the door open to pursue fraud and to expose the undisclosed assets.

    However, there were 3 different attorneys from Jamie Graham’s office assigned to my case. I asked several times when they were going to file the fraud suit and get the necessary documents to the forensic accountant to complete full discovery.
    But still his deposition was never taken, no one filed the fraud suit, no one subpoenaed the bank records or requested the other necessary documents needed for the forensic accountant to compile a report, so again no effort to complete discovery and no attempt to uncover those undisclosed assets.
    Not one of the attorneys even acknowledged the domestic abuse or the fact that he hasn’t complied to the orders on the decree either instead I received an email stating that Jamie Graham’s firm filed a motion to withdraw as counsel due to Sarah Anne stating there were communication issues and it said I will need to seek other representation.

    I didn’t retain Sarah Anne Lishman. I retained Jamie Graham. Yet Jamie didn’t even have the courtesy to return my calls or emails. Instead, she assigned Sarah Anne to file a motion to withdraw as counsel based on communication issues, which is the exact same reason Deanna Whitley withdrew the first time.
    I find that highly suspicious especially since when Jamie originally took my case, she herself said she couldn’t understand why Ms. Whitley did not take his deposition or complete discovery and stated what Deanna Whitley did was unethical and asked if I understood what due diligence was and Sarah Anne asked if I also want to pursue a legal misrepresentation case and yet her firm handled the case the exact same way. (I can provide email exchanges regarding this issue)

    I have been told that if there is any evidence of negligence, fraud, corruption or any misconduct in a Texas divorce that the case could be reopened for further investigation and modifications.
    The court will consider reopening a divorce settlement only in exceptional cases either where a spouse has failed to provide full and frank disclosure about their wealth and income in divorce proceedings or there has been a material change in a spouse’s circumstances since the agreement was reached.
    A divorce settlement is only able to be re-assessed or reopened if there are exceptional or compelling circumstances at hand, which often center on fraud or misrepresentation in court. … If they center on any duress you might have been under, you have two years after your divorce to make a complaint.

    I firmly believe that fraud, negligence, corruption and misconduct all existed throughout the entire Bexar County legal system (The District Attorney, Judges, attorneys, mediators, court clerks/reporters etc.) It appears as if ALL have been negatively influenced by the Wolff name and perhaps afraid of any repercussions should they not conceal the domestic abuse & illegal actions from being exposed and do not conceal the corruption, misconduct and the many court errors that occurred during the process of the divorce.

    I have currently paid almost $40,000 to attorneys.
    ($5,000 + just in multiple consultation fees to the many attorneys I consulted with seeking representation, almost $8,000 to Steven Benke, $15,500 to Ms. Whitley who failed to properly represent me and not following through with discovery. $10,500 to Jamie Graham who also failed to properly represent me by not following through with getting the necessary documents to complete full discovery, filed the motion for new trial late which then eliminated my option for an appeal and she has withdrawn as counsel) (Although, Jamie Graham’s firm refunded $5,000 after Sarah Anne withdrew as council)
    I simply do not have the financial means and am not able to continue to try and seek truth & justice from a corrupt legal system. I desperately need somebody to help.

    This divorce has left me financially destitute, without health insurance, physically and emotionally drained.
    I dedicated 24 years to our marriage and over 27 years, loyally to him. I gave up my independence and left my dreams in California when I married him in 1996, to raise our children and build a life together. I thought he was my husband & my best friend.
    I was a loyal wife and a good mother. I moved to his hometown and gave him the opportunity to achieve his goals & build his career. I believed he was going to provide for our family.
    Only while going through divorce, did I come to the realization that my children and I had been financially and emotionally abused in a marriage full of nothing but secrets, lies, deceit and betrayal.

    On July 31, 2021, our children (age 19 & 22) moved out of their apartment and asked their father if he would help them move their furniture to storage. When he arrived, he was furious that they were not more organized and prepared. He started screaming profanity at them throwing and damaging their things. The neighbor heard his rage and tried to get him to calm down, but Jason told her to mind her own “F” ing business. My son was extremely upset and asked him to leave several times. Our son told him he was going to call the police, but Jason still refused to leave and continued to berate him. Our son told him he hated him and didn’t want his help, he just wanted him to leave. A few days later Jason sent an apology text saying he was sorry for yelling and cussing but told our son he should have just taken it instead of being so disrespectful and acting as if he was his peer. (I can provide a copy)
    Our son is not emotionally stable and has been struggling with depression and addictions for several years. I need somebody to help before he harms himself anymore.
    Please understand the damages of coercive control and the effects it has on families.

    In Sept. 2021 our son wanted to move to California to be near me. Jason told him he would transfer the title of his 1999 truck to our son and told him he could drive that to California. He never even considered his safety.
    There was no way I trusted that beat-up, unsafe vehicle for my son to drive all the way from Texas to California by himself. I bought him an airline ticket and had the vehicle shipped here. I just wanted to make sure my son arrived safely.
    When our son arrived, he asked his father if he would pay $700 for him to take a training course for a job he was interested in applying for. Jason told him he didn’t have the money and told him to figure it out on his own he wasn’t his problem anymore. He also told him to tell me to stop falsely accusing him and wasting all my money on attorneys so that I would be able to provide for my children.
    Jason has a 6 figure income. I have only been able to make $500-$700 weekly. I am struggling just to be able to provide for myself now. I dedicated my life to Jason and my children. I am now 58 years old, I do not have a formal education. My only job skill for the past 36 years was as a travel agent. The travel industry was hit extremely hard due to the worldwide pandemic. I don’t believe the travel industry will ever fully recover enough to be a lucrative career option for me again. I worry every day that without an education or other job skills I may never be able to make enough money to live independently again.

    I strongly believe due to the political power the Wolff name holds in Bexar County that the attorneys involved, the mediator, court clerks, Judge(s) and even the District Attorney himself were all influenced and possibly conspired in order to protect Jason’s illegal actions and domestic abuse from being exposed.
    If I am falsely accusing him and he has nothing to hide then why would he refuse to provide the necessary documents such as bank statements, settlement agreements, taxes, deed/titles etc. that are required for full discovery? Why did he receive privileged treatment and was not required to produce those crucial documents? Why did he, as well as everyone else in the Bexar County legal system so persistently avoid utilizing the forensic accountant? The truth will NEVER mind being questioned but a lie hates to be challenged.

    Kind regards,
    Lyn Wolff 210-215-6491
    [email protected]

    Ralph shared a story:

    My mother Sheena Winnie was warehoused to die as part of a guardianship scam orchestrated by her estranged husband (who has failed to file and pay taxes for nine years and was routinely visiting married dating sites, including Ashley Madison, at the time the petition for guardianship was filed) and by her daughter since both of them wanted to take total control of my mother and her finances to pay for their debts My mother was tricked into leaving her home by a lawyer named Erika Ireland who told my mother she would visit a spa and then would return home to be with her dog Chloe. Instead my mother was taken to a facility where she was imprisoned and died. Every day and night my mother demanded to be returned home telling staff she would contact her lawyer and the police to get her out of the facility. The purported nursing home then tied my mother to her bed and then routinely gave my mother anti psychotic medication (seraquel) to stop my mother from protesting her treatment in front of the staff and other residents. This medication ended up killing my mother. A major court battle has ensued and I would like an email address to share detailed info on the case so you can read about the horrific abuse my mother suffered in Court and in the facility. As part of the guardianship scam I have been forced to file numerous pleadings to prevent my home in DC from being illegally seized as a “marital asset” even though my mother never lived on the property and was never listed on title. These gang of thieves wanted to steal my property and imposed a constructive trust in violation of my due process rights under the guise of paying for my mother’s care even though the property never belonged to my mother.

    My friend Beth Akiyama and Her fellow staff member Sheila Stanard are reaching out to Kerri Kassem on my behalf and suggested I go on this page as well to contact you directly. My phone number is +12025497928 and my email is [email protected]
    I have shared relevant detailed info on my mother’s case with Beth Akiyama for Kerri and her team to review. I do not want what happened to my mother and what is currently happening to me to be allowed to happen to anyone else. I grieve my mother’s death every day and am on the verge of financial ruin trying to restore my mother’s honor and dignity which were stripped from her as she was falsely declared “incapacitated without any hearing on her competency. I continue to fight in Court on her behalf and to save my own home so I do not end up on the street. This horrific guardianship process led to my mother’s death. I promise you once you read the detailed Ms. Stanard and I will provide you will be utterly horrified. Finally neither my mother’s estranged husband or daughter will advise as to the location of my mother’s remains in order for me to give my mother wonderful memorial service and the dignity and honor she deserves. Please contact me at +12025497928 and by email at [email protected]
    You may also contact Sheila Stanard and Beth Akiyama to confirm my info and documentation.

    Ralph Winnie, Jr.

    Jacob shared a story:

    My parents and I are all disabled, my dad is a veteran, mom has Multiple Sclerosis and I have ASD. We were taken advantage of, and here is our story.

    We refinanced our home and took all the equity we were allowed to finance building the van for my forever home. (There is no more money) The intent was build van, sell house and be debt free. Now we’re in debt, no van and struggling where to go when house does sell. My family tried to help mediate with this builder but in the end, his ongoing photo updates to assure we would uphold our payment schedule, were carefully staged to not show the issues. I went alone to pick up the van and was threatened with ‘pay the last 10% or I don’t release the van!’ There are many things I could’ve/should’ve seen along the way but the bottom line is the builder saw a disabled family and took advantage. Other builders and off road companies have seen the van and can verify the situation. The build was $70k and the van was $20k so combined cost of 90k. We have received quotes of $20-45k to fix or redo things properly. We feel our ask minus go fund me fees would at least allow us to address all the safety issues.

    Things like ~

    - Water heater was not tested before picking up the van and it does not work
    - Shower leaks and because of that my floor is lifting
    - Unfinished trim that leaves wires and insulation exposed.
    - Exposed wires and improper installation of outlets and fuses. One outlets USB port doesn’t work.
    - Neoprene tape to cover damages
    - Grey water tank hose duct taped
    - Hole to grey water exposed to the outside
    - No fresh water tank clean out
    - Diesel heater not working
    - No floor insulation which I asked for multiple times
    - No run through of the systems
    - Headliner burnt and left damaged upon pick up. Was not like that upon delivery. (Did out of spite)
    - Missing scuff plate and screws, that were there upon me dropping off van, but missing upon pick up.
    - Things left un – welded or poorly welded, if you can call them welded at all.
    - Striker plates removed and now doors to shower will not latch.
    - Many items from proposal not factored in
    - Solar connections on roof not water tight or shrink wrapped.
    - No receipts or itemized list for my insurance company. Refused every time we asked. But agreed he would do so in an email.
    - Iceco fridge not working freezer stays at 50° fridge at -4° iceco will help with receipts, but builder has refused l. Makes ya wonder?
    - Screws and nails left long in exposed places. (Service dog was cut by one)
    - Bunk window frames missing
    - Unfinished caulking exposed to the elements
    -Grey water tank left loose and wedged with 2×4, nearly fell off on my drive away from his shop. Contacted him with no assistance or response.
    - Was told multiple times my custom build is just preferences and he will not do preferences. Well, he didn’t even do what, he listed out. Lol.
    - Dirt, glue, debris and insulation left throughout the van causing sliding door to stick and not open correctly.
    - Leaves one to wonder what else is hidden behind the walls and floors.

    Both my mother a lawyer and I have tried reaching out to him since picking up the van and receiving responses like
    - I spent 25 hours on the phone with you and your preferences.
    - This is fabricated and entertaining and why I didn’t build it correctly.
    - I had solutions for you but you handled this wrong. Shouldn’t these issues be dealt with before I picked the van up?
    - You are relentless and don’t know what you are talking about.
    - I’m going to block you for asking me so many questions.
    - I do what makes sense not what you need.
    - Good luck to you getting any money back from me I will never refund you.
    - Stop talking to other people about my business.
    - My favorite response was while I was on the flight to get the van. He said you guys not wanting to pay me the last 7k (on a Sunday when banks are closed) before you see the van in person is not how any van builder would do business. If you don’t pay I can’t release the van because I’ve been screwed before.

    Yet if you see the van… it looks like he made 70k and I got screwed.

    I did my part and paid for what was agreed upon.
    Did he? (Nope)

    He tried every step to short cut and be done. It was an argument the entire way through. I should have cut it short long before this, but my disability causes me to miss the red flags. Like in the contract if I stop build or disagree he keeps all the money. So I felt I had to let him finish.

    I now have no money to fix the damages or pay a lawyer, hence the go fund me. Please donate and share.

    Seems honorable for him to pay us back or the next builder to fix it correctly. Don’t you think? He took advantage of us, with the intent to deceive us from the start. As someone with autism it is very hard to understand why someone would take my money, my one chance at a dream and my perfect condition van and return it in such a poor unlivable state.

    I was hoping the builder would be honorable and do what is right but that seems unlikely at this point.

    Because of all this my moms Ms has worsened, dads stress has elevated his liver failure and we need a larger voice.

    Please help me share our story, raise the money to get this fixed correctly and help others not be taken advantage of like we did.

    Thank you all so much for your kindness and support.

    Richard shared a story:

    For eight years I am abused by my step son and his attorneys.
    He forcefully and illegally got my wife twice out of our home, kept her against her will, in a unnecessary hospitalization. She passed away after she got there pneumonia, blood infection and multiple pressure skin infections.
    I been abuse after her passing, through multiple frivolous law suits, and I lost 67% of my wife’s estate, through being tricked in to a early settlement, during the petition trial.
    Please help me get a contingency or pro bone attorney, in order to stop the sale of my home of 33 years.
    Thank you
    Richard
    213.590.6133

    Trisha shared a story:

    I have been trying since August to share my story.My Mother and I have been each other’s best friend for as long as I can remember. She battled with Alzheimer’s for many years but was still able to function and do for herself. The best part of Alzheimer’s was that I got to spend time with my Mother’s ‘inner child." From time to time she would be like a sweet little innocent 3-year old child. I enjoyed every moment that we spent together.
    In 2019 the closest & most important man in my life transitioned from this world, and went to be with the Lord.
    I did everything I could to make sure my Dear Mother was happy and safe with me at all times. My sister’s boyfriend was released from prison just a few months later, and I moved my Mom in my home.
    In August of that year I saw my sister’s boyfriend on the news for committing armed robberies. I closed a bank account that was shared with my Mom and my sister because I didn’t want me or my Mother to be associated with my sister or her boyfriend. The next day I had left my Mother with my sister while I went to the doctor. Her boyfriend was "supposedly"out of town, which was the only reason why I left my Mother in her care.
    When I came back from the doctor, my sister was gone and her boyfriend had locked himself in the house with my Dear Mother. This man spent 15 years in prison for Forced Sodomy and Rape of a 78-year old woman and my Mother was 81. I called the Police but no one came. After banging on the door and screaming for a while, I saw that he was going to open the door. I took the glass out of a cracked window and went in to protect my Dear Mother.
    My sister came, called the Police and told them that I had broken into the house with a gun to steal my Mother’s money. She later filed a Fake Frivolous VPO against me and that’s how we ended up in what I had referred to as “Reality Moot Court.”
    We had ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHTS TO DUE PROCESS, A FAIR HEARING OR TO BE TREATED EQUALLY. I only had the rights to shut up and be lied to and lied on, oppressed, disrespected, dehumanized, and threatened with being held in contempt and jail time for trying to present the TRUTH. My Punishment was that was to have NO CONTACT WITH MY MOTHER UNTIL THE DISTRICT ATTORNEY DECIDES TO PRESS CRIMINAL CHARGES AGAINST ME FOR THE FALSIFIED INFORMATION GIVEN BY THE CASE SPECIALIST ATTORNEY. He said that I HAD POA OVER MY DAD AND THAT I FORGED HIS NAME IN ORDER TO ADD ME & MY SISTER’S NAMES TO THE PROPERTY DEED. HE KNEW THAT I HAD POA OVER MY MOTHER, AND THAT I SIGNED AS HER POA. I DID L AFTER MY FIRST COMPLAINT TO THE BAR ASSOCIATION, HE WITHDREW FROM THE CASE. HE WITHDREW FROM THE CASE WITHIN 10 DAYS. HE SENT ME HIS INVOICE WHICH IS EVIDENCE THAT HE LIED ABOUT EVERYTHING IN COURT. IT ALSO SHOWS THAT HE RECEIVED MY EVIDENCE PRIOR TO GOING TO COURT.
    This is the same “Specialist” who stated to the Court that my sister was guilty of FORGERY, EXTORTION & FINANCIAL EXPLOITATION OF A VUBERABLE ADULT. THREE COUNTS OF ELDER ABUSE.
    THE JUDGE SHOWED A POLICE REPORT OF HER BOYFRIEND’S ARMED ROBBERIES THAT SHOWED HE LIVED IN MY MOTHER’S HOME. REGARDLESS OF THESE FACTS, MY MOTHER WAS ORDERED TO LIVE WITH MY SISTER AND HER BOYFRIEND, AND I WAS "SUPERVISED VISITATIONS THAT WERE CONSTANTLY DENIED.
    Within 6 months my Dear Mother was bedridden. In July of 2020 I found out through a mutual friend that she had been sexually abused by my sister’s boyfriend. They told me that my Mother was not the same anymore; that she would scream, scratch and fight off anyone who tried to touch her. She stopped talking and was said to be “nonverbal” so my siblings speak on her behalf. Her doctor was changed by her FRAUDULENT GUARDIAN. She was diagnosed with having SCHIZOPHRENIA AND BIPOLAR DISORDER, AND WAS PRESCRIBED 21 DANGEROUS MEDICATIONS. Ii GOT MY MOTHER HAD BEEN OFF OF ALL OF HER MEDICATIONS FOR TWO YEARS WITH HAVING ALZHEIMER’S AND WAS HAPPY & MOSTLY INDEPENDENT. I saw first hand the ELDER ABUSE THAT MY MOTHER WAS SUFFERING AT THE HANDS OF HER OWN CHILDREN.
    I CALLED THE ELDER ABUSE HOTLINE AND FILED A REPORT. I SENT MY POWER OF ATTORNEY, PICTURES OF MY MOTHER AND RECORDS FROM HOSPICE ON 8/2..THE WORKER WENT OUT ON THE 4TH & DID NOT SEE MY MOTHER. WHEN I ASKED WHEN SHE"D TRY AGAIN TO SEE HER, THE CASEWORKER SAID THAT SHE HAD OTHER CASES TO LOOK INTO. I SPOKE WITH HEAD SUPERVISOR AND COMPLAINED. ON 8/10 THE CASEWORKER CALLED ME TO LET ME KNOW THAT SHE SAW MY MOTHER AND THAT SHE WASFINE AND WELL TAKEN CARE OF.” I CONTACTED HER SUPERVISOR ON 8/11 TO LET HER KNOW THAT THE CASEWORKER LIED TO ME. A MUTUAL FRIEND WAS THERE AT THE TIME. SHE TOLD ME THAT THE CASEWORKER CAME, BUT SHE ONLY ASKED MY SISTER QUESTIONS AND THEN LEFT; BUT SHE DID NOT GO IN THE ROOM WITH MY MOTHER. I ASKED IF I COULD CHANGE WORKERS AND SHE SAID THAT SHE WAS ON HER WAY TO A MEETING & WOULD CALL ME BACK. ON 8/19 I FINALLY SPOKE TO HER. I WAS SHOCKED & CONFUSED WHEN SHE TOLD ME THAT MY MOTHER’S CASE WAS CLOSED ON 8/5. KEEP IN MIND, I SENT THEM THE EVIDENCE OF ABUSE ON 8/2 & THE CASEWORKER WENT OUT TWICE. I WAS TORN APART THAT THERE WAS NO HELP FROM MY POOR MOTHER! WHENEVER I GO TO TRY AND SEE MY MOTHER, THE POLICE COME AND FORCE ME TO LEAVE. THEY THREATEN TO ARREST ME & TAKE ME TO JAIL FOR WANTING TO BE WITH MY MOTHER. I KNOW THAT MY 3 SIBLINGS ARE WITHHOLDING MY MOTHER FROM ME AND ALL HAVE INFLICTED ELDER ABUSE ON HER. THEY ARE BEING ALLOWED AND PROTECTED BY THE POLICE TO DO SO. THEY HAVE COMMITTED OTHER CRIMES THAT HAVE BEEN REPORTED, BUT NOTHING HAPPENS TO THEM. MY SISTER’S BOYFRIEND HAD POLICE PROTECTION TO COMMIT MULTIPLE ARMED ROBBERIES FROM JULY SEPT. OF 2019. .I KNOW THIS BECAUSE HE MOVED TO ANOTHER STATE. WHILE THERE HE COMMITTED SEVERAL CRIMES; ONE BEING ATTEMPTED 2ND DEGREE MURDER. THE NEWS HEADLINE STATED THAT HE WAS ON A $1.4 MILLION BOND. HIS CRIMINAL HISTORY REVEAL HIM BEING A REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER FROM THE STATE WHERE THE ROBBERIES OCCURED. HOWEVER, THERE ARE NO RECORDS OF THE ROBBERIES IN HIS CRIMINAL HISTORY. THE POLICE DISPOSED OF THEM THE SAME WAY THAT THE JUDGE DISPOSED OF OUR CASE ON 2-3-20.
    I FOUND THIS TO BE TRUE AFTER MY BROTHER HAD SENT AN “UPDATED GUARDIANSHIP PAPERS” TO HOSPICE IN EFFORT TO STOP ME FROM OBTAINING ANY MORE OF MY MOTHER’S MEDICAL RECORDS. IT MADE NO SENSE TO UPDATE PAPERS THAT DON’T EXPIRE; SO I WENT TO THE COURTHOUSE. I SPOKE TO THE JUDGE’S RECEPTIONIST. SHE TOLD ME THAT THE JUDGE WAS NOT IN ON THAT DAY . I WENT TO THE POLICE STATION AND REPORTED THAT MY BROTHER HAD FALSIFIED A COURT ORDER. I GAVE THE OFFICER PAPERS DISPLAYING OUR CASE NUMBER. AFTER ABOUT 20 MINUTES HE CAME BACK AND TOLD ME THAT MY BROTHER HAD NEVER HAD GUARDIANSHIP AND THAT THERE WAS ABSOLUTELY NO RECORD OF OUR CASE.
    THERE ARE NO WORDS TO EXPLAIN HOW THESE PAST 2 YEARS HAVE BEEN WITHOUT MY DEAR MOTHER.
    AFTER RESEARCHING MOCK & MOOT COURT, I KNEW FOR SURE THAT THIS IS THEEXPERIMENTTHAT THEY PLAYED ON OUR LIVES, AND THEN THEW AWAY THE CASE. THE CASE HAS EVIDENCE OF LIES, VIOLATIONS OF OUR CIVIL RIGHTS, OBSTRUCTION OF JUSTICE AND OTHER CRIMES THAT GOVERNMENT OFFICIALS HAVE COMMITTED.
    I AM NOW A TARGET BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT I HAVE THE EVIDENCE THAT THEY TRIED TO GET RID OF. NOW THEY ARE TRYING TO GET RID OF ME.
    SINCE AUGUST OF 2021 I HAVE TRIED TO GET MY STORY OUT. THIS IS WHEN THEY STARTED HACKING MY PHONES, EMAIL ACCOUNTS, DROPBOX ACCOUNTS AND MY EVEN MY HOME INTERNET..
    THEY CAN HEAR EVERYTHING THAT IS SAID IN MY HOME. BECAUSE MY PHONES ARE ALWAYS HACKED, THEY ALSO ROUTE MY CALLS SO I DO NOT TRUST ANYONE.
    ON 2
    18-22 I WAS PHYSICALLY ASSAULTED BY THE POLICE AFTER CALLING 911 FOR HELP. (CAUGHT ON CAMERA). MY BROTHER WAS DRIVING WRECKLESSLY IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD, AND HIT THE SIDE OF MY VEHICLE CAUSING DAMAGES. THE POLICE WERE NOT THERE TO HELP ME. THEY WERE THERE TO GET MY BROTHER’S CELL PHONE.THAT HE HAD DROPPED IN MY CAR. (After the Police hit me, he backed me down; all the while he was telling me to “the give him the phone.” I believe that this is the phone has EVIDENCE OF HOW MY MOTHER & I WERE SET UP TO BE TAKEN APART BY GOVERNMENT OFFICIALS WHO COMMIT CRIMES AGAINST ELDERS, CHILDREN & THE DISABLED. BEFORE LEAVING THE OFFICER SAID THAT THERE WOULD BE A WARRANT FOR MY ARREST FOR STEALING THE PHONE. I CALLED A FEW DAYS LATER AND WAS TOLD THAT I HAD TICKETS FOR VANDALISM AND PENDING CHARGES OF LARCENY FOR THE PHONE.
    I INFORMED THE CAPTAIN WHO SHOWED UP LATER, OF THE OFFICER PHYSICALLY ASSAULTING ME, BUT NOTHING WAS DONE. THEY DIDN’T EVEN BOTHER TO LOOK AT THE DAMAGES TO MY CAR.. THEY ALSO ALLOWED MY BROTHER TO LEAVE THE SCENE OF AN ACCIDENT THAT HE CAUSED, AND WITHOUT LEAVING ANY INSURANCE INFORMATION.
    I KNOW THAT THEY ARE TRYING TO SET ME UP JUST LIKE THEY SET ME UP IN COURT. I HAVE STRONG REASON TO BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE GOING TO TRY TO FRAME ME FOR MY MOTHER’S MURDER.
    ON 2-18-22 MY SON WAS ALLOWED TO SEE HIS GRANDMOTHER. HIS AUNT TOLD HIM THAT HE COULD NOT TAKE VIDEOS OR PICTURES. BECAUSE OF HER CONDITION HE ASKED HIS AUNT IF SHE WERE STILL ALIVE, SHE TOLD HIM TO LEAVE. AFTER HEARING THAT MY MOTHER WAS POSSIBLY DECEASED, I CALLED 911, BUT THERE WERE FOUR POLICE CARS THAT SHOWED UP WITH THE AMBULANCE. ONE OFFICER RAN UP AND TOLD THE PARAMEDIC THAT I WAS CRAZY AND THAT MY MOTHER WAS DOINGFINE AND WELL TAKEN CARE OF.’ THE PARAMEDIC LEFT WITHOUT EVEN CHECKING ON MY DEAR MOTHER’S CONDITION.
    ALL FOUR POLICE OFFICERS STOOD IN A LINE WITH THEIR SHOULDERS TOUCHING AND THEIR HAND ON THEIR GUNS, WHILE RECORDING ME ON THEIR BODY CAMERAS . THEY THREATENED TO HAVE ME ARRESTED AND PUT IN JAIL IF I STEPPED ONE FOOT ON MY MOTHER’S PROPERTY. I COULD NOT BELIEVE THAT THERE IS NO HELP FOR US. MY MOTHER COULD BE DEAD IN THE HOUSE, AND NOBODY SEEMS TO CARE. I WANT NOTHING MORE THAN TO EXPOSE EVERY SINGLE PERSON, AGENCY & ENTITY THAT HAD ANYTHING TO DO WITH THIS. I HAVE ALL OF THE EVIDENCE THAT THEY DISPOSED OF PLUS MORE. I HAVE NO ONE AND NO WHERE TO TURN FOR HELP. I’’VE CONTACTED EVERY AGENCY THAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO GO TO FOR HELP; BUT THEY SEEM TO BE INVOLVED IN THE CONSPIRACY. I DIDN’T UNDERSTAND WHY UNTIL I READ YOUR ARTICLES ON GUARDIANSHIP AND RACKETEERING. I ALSO WATCHED SOME OF THE STORIES OF THIS HAPPENING TO OTHER PEOPLE. MY HEART HURT SO VERY MUCH FROM CRYING AS I LEARNED OF HOW THIS TORTURE OF ELDERS GOES ON ALL OVER AMERICA. IT IS ORDERED BY THE COURTS AND PROTECTED BY THE POLICE. MY 81 YR OLD MOTHER WAS TAKEN FROM ME AND HELD IN CAPTIVITY LIKE PRISONER OF WAR. SHE DID NOT DESERVE TO LIVE HER LAST DAYS IN TORMENT. I HAVE COME IN CONTACT WITH AT CLOSE TO 100 PEOPLE WHO ARE INVOLVED IN THIS. THIS IS WHY I AM A THREAT TO THEIR EMPIRE. I KNOW THAT THE LORD HAS ALLOWED ME TO WITNESS THIS. I PRAYED AND ASKED WHAT WAS THE REASON FOR ME GOING THROUGH ALL OF THIS? HE TOLD ME IN HIS WORD. EPHESIANS 4:11-12
    SAYS: " HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH THE UNFRUITFUL WORKS OF DARKNESS BUT RATHER EXPOSE THEM. FOR IT IS A SHAME TO EVEN THINK OF WHAT THE WICKED DO IN SECRET."
    PLEASE! I’M BEGGING FOR HELP TO DO GOD’S WILL AND EXPOSE THEIR ENTIRE EMPIRE. THE WORLD NEEDS TO KNOW WHO THEY ARE AND WHAT THEY HAVE DONE. PLEASE CONTACT ME, AS THE LIVES OF ME AND MY SON’S ARE IN GREAT DANGER. THEY STOLE MY MOTHER AND DESTROYED HER LIFE. NOW THEY ARE TRYING TO DO THE SAME TO OURS. MY HEART AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO EACH AND EVERY ONE WHOSE LOVED ONES HAVE GONE THROUGH A GUARDIANSHIP.
    PLEASE HELP ME IN SEEKING JUSTICE FOR NOT JUST MY MOTHER; BUT FOR ANY SENIOR WHO HAA BEEN ABUSED BY THE SYSTEM.
    THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR HELP. AND THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR THE AWARENESS OF THIS HUMAN TRAFFICKING THAT MUST BE EXPOSED. THOSE INVOLVED NEED TO BE HELD BOTH RESPONSIBLE AND ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS.
    MY MOTHER HAS NOT SEEN HER CHILD SINCE JULY 2021.
    PLEASE HELP!
    PLEASE CONTACT ME.

    Sonya shared a story:

    I am my fathers preened guardian, yet I am fighting my siblings to continue to take care of him. My siblings haven’t spoken to my father in years suddenly reconnected with him in June 2020 and now saying I don’t take care of him. I have spend well over $60K and still fighting. Our next court date is 3/22/22 and I’m holding my breath in fear. I would like to share my story to help people. My father did directives to avoid this situation we are in now, the courts overlooked it and appointed an ETG.

    Harey shared a story:

    Our sister kidnapped our father and would not allow anyone to visit or speak with him for three years. I found he died by email. I want to my local representative Laura Fine and we passed the following

    Synopsis As Introduced
    Amends the Probate Act of 1975. Provides that upon petition by an adult child, the court may order the guardian to permit visitation between the ward and the adult child if the court finds that the visitation is in the ward’s best interests. Provides that the court shall order the guardian to keep the adult children of the ward informed of hospitalizations of the ward, the death of the ward, and burial arrangements for the ward unless the court finds on its own motion or upon petition by the guardian that limiting such disclosure is in the best interests of the ward. Provides that if the issue of whether disclosure is in the best interests of the ward, the adult child has the right to a hearing upon the issue of whether to limit disclosure.

    House Floor Amendment No. 1
    Replaces everything after the enacting clause. Amends the Probate Act of 1975. Provides that unless there is a court order to the contrary, the guardian, consistent with specified standards, shall use reasonable efforts to notify the ward’s known adult children, who have requested notification and provided contact information, of the ward’s admission to a hospital or hospice program, the ward’s death, and the arrangements for the disposition of the ward’s remains. Provides that if a guardian unreasonably prevents an adult child of the ward from visiting the ward, the court, upon a verified petition by an adult child, may order the guardian to permit visitation between the ward and the adult child if the court finds that the visitation is in the ward’s best interests. Provides that in making its determination, the court shall consider specified standards. Provides that the new provisions do not apply to duly appointed public guardians or the Office of State Guardian.

    Patrick shared a story:

    My 91 year old father had a stroke. Lots of family flew in to support him. He made a granddaughter medical P.O.A. She hates the family. She denied us visitation. Blocked us from seeing my father. Threatened to call the police on us if we tried to visit him. She transferred him to a hospice when he should have been sent to a place that treats stokes. They are keeping him doped up on drugs so he is very non responsive. He does not want to eat and gets very little water. This is a very messed up situation. We are pursuing legal action but with the treatment he is getting it may not be in time. We have called the police, the VA, he is a veteran, and the governors office to try to help him. She wants him to die! We are at our wits end. We are from Oregon and he is in San Antonio. The logistics of staying here are incredible. We have to leave tomorrow. We are very worried about him! We don’t know what to do next!

    Michelle shared a story:

    This story is so representative of what is happening with the family probate system. Hurting society’s most vulnerable is dispicable and should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law.
    My mother in law was taken advantage of at the onset of her dementia by a horrible horrible fiduciaries. Never ever trust a fiduciary I don’t care what anyone tells you. They have no business in your business just because of an angry spiteful Family member uses them as leverage they don’t realize they are only hurting themselves as well in the end. Thank you for educating and inspiring us !

    Lynn shared a story:

    My adult brain injured son has been in a Utah nursing hospital about 16 months. It’s been many months since I’ve been able to FaceTime him. I’m in Texas.

    I’m always told he doesn’t want to talk. Not even if I just want to see that he’s ok.

    Since he’s been there he’s had sepsis and pneumonia. I researched them and their ratings are horrible.

    Elizabeth shared a story:

    I am a 49year old competent and capable woman, a Columbia University graduate, a previous ER/ICU nurse who was illegally trafficked into Guardianship by my Domestic Violence abuser, Brian Stryker Weinstein, during a contentious divorce, as a tool of expediency for Brian’s abuse, seizure of millions of dollars of my assets, and to withdraw the federal cases I had against Brian.

    Brian and his conflicted lawyer Dina Kaplan who petitioned for the Illegal Guardianship were defendants in separate federal cases showing fraud and civil rights violations (NYSD 7-21-CV-01996-CS and 7-21-CV-04543-CS)
    Brian’s “expert witnesses” for the Guardianship were also defendants and nefarious related parties in my federal cases.

    Judge Janet C Malone lacked jurisdiction as my competency is and was self-evident and I did not live in NY where the case was brought. Judge Malone made a tacit admission she lacked jurisdiction then proceeded with the case anyway, denying me access to hearings, a jury trial, transcripts, legal fees and a lawyer of my own choosing, sealed the case, acknowledged my competency by signing my Pro Se OTSC, then trafficked me anyway, demanding I pay for the officers of the Court.

    The illegal guardian, Kenneth L Bunting seized my assets, my mail, and found whatever private account I used to buy food for myself and seized and closed it. Bunting withdrew my well-founded federal cases against my husband, and requested they be dismissed WITH prejudice, fully displaying his malpractice and malfeasance. Bunting prevents me from having money to buy food, maintained cancellation of my car insurance and ez pass, and threatens me and my children on record.

    Jackie shared a story:

    My sister falsified mom’s death certificate to indicate she was married to our dad to cover up the scamming of Social Security for far too many years to count. My older brothers documented my mom’s headstone, what was indeed correct. Both older brothers had not completely understood the level of corruption that had been taking place in the family at that point.
    I am told that I need to forgive people, for myself. I think that the struggle of understanding what their version of “forgiveness” is really stumps me. First, they haven’t walked in my shoes and sat in amazement of my reality. Likely they have never had to forgive someone at this level of deceit before… don’t judge me on if I have “forgiven” enough people or not. I have forgiven those that have earned my forgiveness. These were the same people that set their bar of their own morality, in the sewer, judging me because I don’t meet the standards they set for others, just the standard they set for me. Lies, deceit… jealously… and so very much the judgment of others… it is shameful.

    Carla shared a story:

    My 30 year old son was placed under guardianship of a public adminitsrator in st. louis missorui because my exmother in law and myself both fought for guardianship and i was ill advised by my aattorney to just go along with it. I was completly misinformed on what guardianship would mean to my son and our family and our lives. None of the people in the court have done their duties they take an oath for by not listening to what my sons wishes were, placing him in the most restricive enviornment possible, denying him access to a phone, the internet and his immediate family. All at the behest of “grandma”. Not one proceedure was followed in asking the immediate family what my sons wishes would have been and the PA took it at grandmas word and no other that the family, particularly myself, was toxic for my son. The PA realising now that he cant go on that has changed his story and states that my son just does not want to speak to me and refuses to answer any calls from family as to why thy too are being denied. I cannot find a single or collective agency as of yet to help us. The missouri protection and advocacy orginization says they cant help because i am not disabled, legal services one after anothe rdeny help due to funding and i have already spent $16,000.00 on an attorney who on our final day of court pursuaded me to just go along with the PA because he feared a felony i had from 20 years ago for falling behind on child support might not sit well with the judge and told me if I lost taht day in court they could put my son in a home and never let me see him but that going along showed willingness on my part to keep the peace and ensure both sides of the family would be able to be a part of my sons life. there has been no one to reach out to to hold the public adminsitraors office accountable and i cannot find an attorney willing to take my case on to ensure my sons reciving whats best for, and desired by him.

    Kristin shared a story:

    My dad is in an Alzheimer’s care facility in Palm Harbor, FL. He’s been there close to three years. I have 3 older sisters whom I have not had a relationship with in 20 years because they are toxic to me. One of the sisters drove my dad to a lawyer 2 weeks before the admitted him to the nursing home and made herself power of attorney illegally because my dad was not of right sound of mind. When my sisters admitted him they told the director that I was allowed to visit but not allowed to take him anywhere or know anything about his health. The director decided on her own free will to block my phone calls. Like 4 days after my dad was admitted I had been calling him daily and all the sudden the director answers and says, you can’t speak to him. Your sister said not to put your calls through. I was stunned!!! I didn’t believe her….for the next 4 months I would call there every other day, different times and every single person told me I couldn’t speak to my dad. The director answered a lot of the time and she’d say call your sister and hang up. I had sent about 50 messages and texts by month 4 and I was livid!! I called them every name in the book because I was so so angry. My sisters responded to about 5 of the messages just saying I never blocked you. I would call the director and she’d say that’s not what she told me. One day they finally put my calls through and every time I’d talk to my dad I’d get texts from my oldest sister saying why would you say this or that, nothing of importance. This went on for 2 years, I had called the director about 5 times and said, why are you telling my sister everything I say to my dad? She said, I don’t know what you are talking about. It kept happening, I had asked her for her bosses name and she always said, I’m the boss. I finally researched and found a corporate number, made a complaint and a month later her boss calls me. I tell him the story and tell him I want a conference call with my POA sister and her so he does it and my sister says she never blocked my calls. I am yelling, why did you do this Lori? Her boss states she has always done a great job and that she probably got confused with all my sisters saying things and telling her what to do. He reads my dads file and she has in it to report all my phone calls to dawn and Jodi, the sisters who are not POA’s!! I said, what??!! I knew you were stalking me for the last two years!! You lied through your teeth!! They are telling me to calm down. I ended up writing to the president of the company which I got an email back saying he sent it to her managers manager. That guy tells me he will look into it and then I get a text from my oldest sister saying you’re a joke, this guy called us and said, everybody has got a sister like Kristin. He sent me a message saying he didn’t find any wrong doing and he’s closing this case. I am beyond broken from this god awful experience I had to go through, it has been traumatizing to me. I lost my legal rights as a daughter because some crazy director made her own rules and stalked me for over 2 years. I have several auto-immune diseases and this has been debilitating to go through. I should never have been put through this hell. The director is still there, this is so wrong!! This woman is as deceptive as they come!! She should be fired!! Can anyone help me? I want justice for myself, she needs to be fired.

    Steve shared a story:

    I need help to find out what has been done to my mother as my mother was taken away by the health authority in 2014

    Elizabeth shared a story:

    I am a well educated 49 yo Mother of three, Columbia University graduate, previous ER/ICU nurse trafficked into Guardianship by my Domestic Violence abuser Brian Stryker Weinstein (a law partner at Davis Polk & Wardwell) as a tool of expediency during a contentious divorce, to seize millions of dollars of assets and close my federal cases against my abuser.

    I am an articulate advocate who would like to show the world this trafficking and abuse can happen to ANYONE.

    Please reach out to me to help or speak. It is rare to have the actual VICTIM be able to speak. This trafficking and torture needs to end.

    Angela shared a story:

    Two of my siblings have control of our mother and has put her in a nursing home. Because of the hatred they both have for me , they Will Not allow me to see our Mother ! I love my Mother and for years have been the only one that she had !!

    Jon shared a story:

    Hi, My name is Jon,
    Over the past 5 or so years my father has systematically reduced my visitation access to my aging mother with alzheimer’s. I always had a decent relationship with him but little by little his passive aggressive tactics were used to limit and now cut off complete contact from my mother. My only elder brother also has no interest or response to this and both have since exhibited violent behaviors blaming it on my “big mouth.” A domestic violence report was filed with local police in Amityville, NY by myself but nothing occurred after that and no Suffolk County social worker even bothered to contacted me since 7/28/18. Since then I have not seen my aging mother out of concern for further violence to myself and wife if I were to appear at the front door. Calls are to the residence are continuously dropped, emails unanswered and a complete aversion to both my wife (who has nothing to do with anything) and myself continue under the most negative circumstances anyone with this power can manipulate vengeful tactics at the expense of the innocent. Nevertheless we still send her birthday and holiday cards with what little gestures of mailed love when we can provide or feel it is at least something we can do for now despite this unforeseen blockade of imposed hateful separation between mother and son. We are most concerned for my mother’s needed care and that her locked up situation in home no longer fit for her Safe well-being of limited daylight exposure or anyone even allowed can even visit her is not the right care as she remains ungroomed last we saw at my Uncle’s funeral in 2019. She is beyond anyone single able to provide adequate home care and mental activity stimulus and is completely controlled by the wrong person. Please help.

    Jennifer shared a story:

    Sturdy Hospital killed my mother Carol Smith. They used excessive force that caused catastrophic injuries and she died. They violated federal law strictly prohibits chemical restraining with haldol and fentanyl while knowing she had an active brain bleed from their abuse. She told me, my daughter and uncle they beat her so badly they killed her and was going to die, then they called me out of her room medicated her with haldol and fentanyl so she couldn’t speak. Two different scenarios on medical records. I was picking her up that day because all she needed was her eyeglasses changed. She was dizzy from seeing triple vision in one eye and she’s dead. It’s been all over the news here in Boston but I want justice for my mother. Police use excessive force and go to jail but these hospital staff members are still free and working during an investigation by state police and district attorney. Hospital waited EIGHT hours to send her to a trauma hospital knowing she was bleeding. I took many photos even though they told me I couldn’t. They even forged my name on medical records. I emailed chief medical examiner photos and the 2 stories that are lies. Please help me get justice so this doesn’t happen to anyone else. My 14yr old is devastated. My mom was her best friend and they killed her. I want to send you photos because you won’t believe she fell. You can’t fall ONE time and injure multiple sides of your face and head. Please help me get her story out there. God bless you all!

    Tammy shared a story:

    I was my mother’s ONLY caregiver for over 20 years and considering she is on the cusp of being 95, I did pretty good navigating the landscape alone. Because she now lives with my sibling does not mean I turn my cheek and let her fall by the wayside, question nothing, and just carry on with no action at all. She is my mother.
    I have serious concerns over her health. She still does not have functional hearing aids. When I asked if she had been to an audiologist, the answer was no, but new devices were ordered online. Her last set of hearing aids were custom made for her ears, for her specific issues with a complete evaluation done by an audiologist. I know because I paid for those. Her hearing has changed, the loss is severe. With dementia, hearing loss will amplify and/or fast track dementia. Because there are certain sounds she can longer hear, her brain equates what she does hear to what is most familiar to her, what she remembers (her loss is loss of pitch, not volume). Those assumptions lead to confusion for her because what she thinks she hears,most of the time, does not make sense and so she does her best to rationalize and figure things out and frustration sets in. She has Medicaid/partial Medicaid, a portion of the cost will be picked up, unless of course that portion has already been used on some internet, clever marketing campaign for hearing aids without the benefit of an actual exam. If, for any reason, none of the above can be accomplished, they do make hearing amplifiers that amplify sound in a room while muting background noises. I can pick up that cost if Ira is not willing or unable.
    She needs glasses, not dollar store readers, real glasses by a real eye doctor. She has cataracts and surgery is risky because her blood pressure tends to rise so much. Eyeglasses to accommodate her vision loss would help greatly. Imagine not being able to see or hear. I can’t imagine that provides any sort of safe feeling at all. She has no bottom teeth which makes eating difficult. Again, Medicaid will now cover a portion of the cost. It is a simple matter of getting her to the dentist.
    She is 95 and she fell and broke her hip. A huge percentage of the population, much younger than she, does not survive much more than a few months after hip surgery. She has survived because she is resilient and tough and deserves to have adequate medical attention for her small and large issues. The hip surgery and dementia has also thrown a wrench into identifying when she has a UTI and when her confusion is caused by the dementia and not a UTI. A UTI can mimic dementia behavior and sepsis will set in quickly if the UTI is untreated because caregivers do not know enough to rule out or treat the UTI. Because she has dementia (which by the way, Ira denied her ever having and fervently rallied and bullied her into remaining in her home alone, saying always, to anyone who asked, “she is fine”. He conveniently acquiesces to her dementia diagnoses now, saying it is newly discovered. I imagine he does that to quell his own guilt and shame at having been absent for any support, emotional or physical and present for any financial assistance he needed, for most of the last 20 years.). And yes, I am angered by that as I should be. And yes, on more than one occasion I have told him exactly what my opinion was of him and what I thought about his lack of character and his inability to grow up.
    Her change of residence did not have to be so confusing or uprooting. For her, it has been a total loss of the life she knew for the last 20 years, being inserted into a household where she has not been allowed to even remember those parts of her life which has introduced confusion, isolation, and a sense of having to live a certain way in order to keep the peace and keep herself safe. My sibling says it makes her sad to remember. I say it makes her sad to think that because she moved, she had to completely give up the ONLY family who provided for her, loved her, and supported her for the last 20 years. She had to give up any sense of familiarity with anything because remembering or wanting to hold on to certain parts of her life would make it inconvenient for him. He says that she gets anxious at not having her old life and talking about it brings about frustration for himself and his girlfriend. He believes that making my mom forget is what will keep her calm. My siblings did not even know her well enough to know what was normal and what was not normal for her so almost everything they do is something new for my mom. She is not able to adjust to change that easily and is resistant. Her entire life has become unfamiliar to her. My mother’s neighbor of 20 years could not identify my sibling until he knocked on their door 7-9 months ago and explained who he was along with some slanderous talk about why he supposedly “decided to take over”. Her neighbors still could not identify my sister if she knocked them over the head. That is how often my siblings were ever around my mother. My mom’s neighbors participated in her care over the last 20 years. My mom should be allowed to retain some normalcy in her life no matter how inconvenient it may be for Ira or Tina. It is a small inconvenience that could be such a positive force for my mom.
    I am worried about the care my mother is not receiving. I don’t intend to sit on my hands. I want to see my mother, I want to know about her health, I want to be able to speak with her. In 9 months, I have been allowed me to see her once and that one time I received instruction from him ahead of time on what I was allowed to talk about and how long I was able to stay. She has a “granddaughter” that he refuses to let her see or talk to even though Mom specifically cried and asked when she would be able to see Kylar. To me, the isolation and subtle emotional manipulation that my sibling and his girlfriend have subjected my mother to is unfair and abusive. My mother believes that I don’t see her because I do not want to. She believes I do not call her because I do not want to. I try every day and I am told “I am working overtime so mom doesn’t have access to a phone, mom is sleeping, mom is medicated and confused, mom is not here, etc.” I have no doubt she has been told that I do not call or do not ask to visit. I am more than aware she has been told many untruthful things by both Ira and Tina as a means to force her to detach. You are more than welcome to my phone records if you want to verify that. That is emotional manipulation and abuse. I am sure others would agree and I do not intend on allowing it to continue.
    Again, I would like to talk with my mom, have regularly scheduled talks, be able to visit, etc.

    Cynthia shared a story:

    I am one of four children and the youngest child. I was named Power of Attorney by my parents in 2013. I assisted in caring for them in their home for many years. In 2019, my husband and I created an en-suite apartment for my parents in my home. I wanted to create a space to give them the opportunity to age-in-place with dignity and respect while providing the safety and assistance they required. My father had a Dementia diagnosis at this time and had bouts of aggression and rage. I employed two caregivers to help get some relief a few hours a day.

    He passed away in September of 2019 and my mother continued to live in the en-suite apartment. Around that time, she started showing signs that her Dementia was worsening. I decided to keep the caregivers on as my mother enjoyed their time and her safety needs were increasing.

    Fast-forward to this March 2020 when the world shuts down and a caregiver burden is exponentially increased with the COVID-19 pandemic as there are no options for relief, no respite, no breaks, no assistance from anyone including family members. We lost my mother in-law to COVID not long after the pandemic started and we were unable to have a proper funeral secondary to the situation at hand. This further expounded the grief and stress I had to experience. This is all in addition to my son having an AVM with grand mal seizures requiring my care as well. My son was hospitalized twice for severe brain swelling.

    Once the world started to open back up in the summer of 2020, I was desperate for respite and assistance. I had hoped my sister would start to assist in the care to give me a break, however I was refused assistance . I got into a fight with my sister where I stopped speaking to her. My niece my (sisters daughter) sent me a message that the burden of care lies on the person who took my parents in and that I should be grateful for any help I get. Needless to say we stopped speaking as well.

    I continued caring for my mother with some assistance from her caregivers I had hired once it was safe for them to return. My brother and his wife came and helped as often as they could especially after my sister and I stopped speaking. I never barred anyone from communicating with or seeing my mother.

    On May 1st 2021, my niece came to my home while I was out of town visiting my ailing Aunt and took my mother to her home under the guise of her staying for just the night. My sister in-law was at my house and immediately called me and the police were called the next day when my mother was not returned. She refused to return my mother and had my mother sign a revocation of Power of Attorney for her bank that was found to be a falsified document.

    I am currently stuck in Probate Court battles as a Guardian-Ad-Litem determined that my niece was providing care that was “exemplary” for my mother, despite the fact that she runs an in-home daycare out of her home, is not vaccinated, and does not use any PPE for her or the children. My mother is also unvaccinated.

    My niece has barred everyone in the family from seeing my mother and has limited any phone conversations. I haven’t been able to speak to her in over a 3 months. She has told my mother that we have all stolen her money and sold her house. Yes, I along with my 2 brothers and sister sold her home in 2020 as it was no longer safe for her to live alone and we knew she would not be returning, all the money from the sale went into my mothers account.

    The Guardian-Ad-Litem doesn’t seem to understand that isolation from us is damaging the relationship we have with my mother. My mother is being manipulated by my niece as she is told repeatedly how evil we all are and how we’ve stolen her money. There have been times that my kids have gotten through to my Mom on the phone and she is pleasant and wants to see us. As soon as we make plans, my niece will have my mother get upset and tell us she doesn’t want to see us. On one occasion, my niece called the police on my daughter claiming she was threatening her when she made plans to see my mother.

    My niece listens in on the phone conversations they are able to have and manipulates those as well. On a conversation my daughter had with her, when she asked to see her for lunch, my mother said “they are shaking their head no.” The Guardian-Ad-Litem reports that my mother told her that she doesn’t want to see anyone aside from my son and his girlfriend, however that still has not been arranged. My niece is manipulating my mother to say these things as she reminds her every day of how “awful and evil” we are and how we’ve stolen her money.

    The Guardian-Ad-Litem believes my mother should be able to decide that she doesn’t want to see anyone (despite her saying she does want to see us on numerous occasions when we do talk to her) and doesn’t believe that a person with Dementia could be manipulated like this.

    This is further compounded by the Guardian-Ad-Litem believing my niece and accusing me of maleficence as I paid caregivers cash and did not use checks from my mothers account or a 1099. We are in the process of trying to prove this is inaccurate in court.

    Health records show my mother has lost 20 pounds in a 2 month period which upon my research is warning sign for elder abuse and increases her risk for mortality. The Guardian-Ad-Litem claims that this weight loss is explained by her living a more active lifestyle.

    My niece got personal protective orders against myself, my husband, and my sister in-law within days of taking her to Jackson County where PPO’s are easily obtained.

    This whole process has been so incredibly awful, heartbreaking, and defeating. The only people who have seen my mother since May 1st are my nieces family. I, my brothers, my sister-in-laws, my husband, my sons, my daughter my 6 other nieces and nephews, have all been unable to see her.

    The Gal will has not allowed me to call her or email her or show proof of all the expenses from my mothers account. Every time we go to court she goes on and on about all the cash withdrawals I took but will not let me say what any of them are for.

    My niece even tried to have me arrested when I took my son to U of M hospital where he has been a patient since 2018 for her inoperable brain Avm. My niece happened to show up with my Mom who has never been a patient there and accuse me of violating the PPO. I have not slept in 3 months this is beyond cruel and I need whatever help I can get to fight these evil monsters.

    Is there any information you could share that we could use in court to communicate the caregiver burden and/or the ability for someone with Dementia to be manipulated in this manner?

    At this point, I feel so hopeless. I do not know whether I will see my mother ever again as the courts move slowly and she continues to be isolated from us even more. I am absolutely heartbroken to be isolated from my mother and to be accused of such awful things after I have spent the last 10 years being the primary caregiver.

    If you read this, I appreciate you taking the time. If there is anything you can do, please let me know.

    Cynthia shared a story:

    I am one of four children and the youngest child. I was named Power of Attorney by my parents in 2013. I assisted in caring for them in their home for many years. In 2019, my husband and I created an en-suite apartment for my parents in my home. I wanted to create a space to give them the opportunity to age-in-place with dignity and respect while providing the safety and assistance they required. My father had a Dementia diagnosis at this time and had bouts of aggression and rage. I employed two caregivers to help get some relief a few hours a day.

    He passed away in September of 2019 and my mother continued to live in the en-suite apartment. Around that time, she started showing signs that her Dementia was worsening. I decided to keep the caregivers on as my mother enjoyed their time and her safety needs were increasing.

    Fast-forward to this March 2020 when the world shuts down and a caregiver burden is exponentially increased with the COVID-19 pandemic as there are no options for relief, no respite, no breaks, no assistance from anyone including family members. We lost my mother in-law to COVID not long after the pandemic started and we were unable to have a proper funeral secondary to the situation at hand. This further expounded the grief and stress I had to experience. This is all in addition to my son having an AVM with grand mal seizures requiring my care as well. My son was hospitalized twice for severe brain swelling.

    Once the world started to open back up in the summer of 2020, I was desperate for respite and assistance. I had hoped my sister would start to assist in the care to give me a break, however I was refused assistance . I got into a fight with my sister where I stopped speaking to her. My niece my (sisters daughter) sent me a message that the burden of care lies on the person who took my parents in and that I should be grateful for any help I get. Needless to say we stopped speaking as well.

    I continued caring for my mother with some assistance from her caregivers I had hired once it was safe for them to return. My brother and his wife came and helped as often as they could especially after my sister and I stopped speaking. I never barred anyone from communicating with or seeing my mother.

    On May 1st 2021, my niece came to my home while I was out of town visiting my ailing Aunt and took my mother to her home under the guise of her staying for just the night. My sister in-law was at my house and immediately called me and the police were called the next day when my mother was not returned. She refused to return my mother and had my mother sign a revocation of Power of Attorney for her bank that was found to be a falsified document.

    I am currently stuck in Probate Court battles as a Guardian-Ad-Litem determined that my niece was providing care that was “exemplary” for my mother, despite the fact that she runs an in-home daycare out of her home, is not vaccinated, and does not use any PPE for her or the children. My mother is also unvaccinated.

    My niece has barred everyone in the family from seeing my mother and has limited any phone conversations. I haven’t been able to speak to her in over a 3 months. She has told my mother that we have all stolen her money and sold her house. Yes, I along with my 2 brothers and sister sold her home in 2020 as it was no longer safe for her to live alone and we knew she would not be returning, all the money from the sale went into my mothers account.

    The Guardian-Ad-Litem doesn’t seem to understand that isolation from us is damaging the relationship we have with my mother. My mother is being manipulated by my niece as she is told repeatedly how evil we all are and how we’ve stolen her money. There have been times that my kids have gotten through to my Mom on the phone and she is pleasant and wants to see us. As soon as we make plans, my niece will have my mother get upset and tell us she doesn’t want to see us. On one occasion, my niece called the police on my daughter claiming she was threatening her when she made plans to see my mother.

    My niece listens in on the phone conversations they are able to have and manipulates those as well. On a conversation my daughter had with her, when she asked to see her for lunch, my mother said “they are shaking their head no.” The Guardian-Ad-Litem reports that my mother told her that she doesn’t want to see anyone aside from my son and his girlfriend, however that still has not been arranged. My niece is manipulating my mother to say these things as she reminds her every day of how “awful and evil” we are and how we’ve stolen her money.

    The Guardian-Ad-Litem believes my mother should be able to decide that she doesn’t want to see anyone (despite her saying she does want to see us on numerous occasions when we do talk to her) and doesn’t believe that a person with Dementia could be manipulated like this.

    This is further compounded by the Guardian-Ad-Litem believing my niece and accusing me of maleficence as I paid caregivers cash and did not use checks from my mothers account or a 1099. We are in the process of trying to prove this is inaccurate in court.

    Health records show my mother has lost 20 pounds in a 2 month period which upon my research is warning sign for elder abuse and increases her risk for mortality. The Guardian-Ad-Litem claims that this weight loss is explained by her living a more active lifestyle.

    My niece got personal protective orders against myself, my husband, and my sister in-law within days of taking her to Jackson County where PPO’s are easily obtained.

    This whole process has been so incredibly awful, heartbreaking, and defeating. The only people who have seen my mother since May 1st are my nieces family. I, my brothers, my sister-in-laws, my husband, my sons, my daughter my 6 other nieces and nephews, have all been unable to see her.

    The Gal will has not allowed me to call her or email her or show proof of all the expenses from my mothers account. Every time we go to court she goes on and on about all the cash withdrawals I took but will not let me say what any of them are for.

    My niece even tried to have me arrested when I took my son to U of M hospital where he has been a patient since 2018 for her inoperable brain Avm. My niece happened to show up with my Mom who has never been a patient there and accuse me of violating the PPO. I have not slept in 3 months this is beyond cruel and I need whatever help I can get to fight these evil monsters.

    Is there any information you could share that we could use in court to communicate the caregiver burden and/or the ability for someone with Dementia to be manipulated in this manner?

    At this point, I feel so hopeless. I do not know whether I will see my mother ever again as the courts move slowly and she continues to be isolated from us even more. I am absolutely heartbroken to be isolated from my mother and to be accused of such awful things after I have spent the last 10 years being the primary caregiver.

    If you read this, I appreciate you taking the time. If there is anything you can do, please let me know.

    Starr shared a story:

    Conservatorship and guardianship cases come to light in various ways.
    My husband of many years was put under conservatorship by his own children and taken from our home.
    Then I was served with divorce papers. And yes i was divorced by my STEPSON on behalf of his father.
    My husband was 87 years old and suffered with Alzheimer’s and even verbally said in court that he did not want a divorce. But the.Stepson prevailed. It was all about money.
    Now I’m basically homeless with only modest resources and I’m staying with my sister. My husband died of Alzheimer’s on May 4th 2021 in a nursing home alone and I was not notified by these adult children until 2 weeks AFTER his death.
    I’ve done nothing wrong nor violated any sort of laws or trust. The STEPSON had access to the money and I’m now $50,000 in debt and no way to pay those costs. I’m 73 years old and my spirit has been crushed and I am so alone. No one believes the whole story so I’ve stopped sharing it, even with close friends.
    I have watched the unfolding of the Britany Spears story and I can empathize with her situation.
    The lesson here is. “the Conservatorship/Guardianship is broken” and I’d like to help to bring these stories to light and change the laws. I am a warrior, a strong woman
    with a very heavy heart that is broken.

    Stephanie shared a story:

    My Mother was isolated by extended family members, an attorney, and a guardian/conservator. In order to get information, I had to reach out to the police and request a missing person’s report be filed. The abuse continued, as the guardian/conservator auctioned off all of her possessions, including our family Bible and personal photographs. It cost me thousands of dollars in legal fees and I had to fight to protect my Mother’s right to dignity and to have her wishes protected. I am grateful to Kasem Cares for bringing this horrific abuse to light. It must stop.

    Lashaun shared a story:

    Put it this way, the movie, “I Care Alot” , was and is so close to my story! My mouth dropped in disarray because that showed me that multiple people are going through this same atrocity! This movie was not just a movie, it is a documentary of so many peoples real-life nightmares! The legally provided business entities and council such as fiduciaries/guardians/conservators provided by the court is purposely designed to financially rape, mentally and emotionally isolate and physically abuse leading to the victim failing to thrive/live! They only do this to the people that have assets whom they can gouge! They only act in their own best interest! They demonize and attack the character of all family and loved ones to their victims! The judicial system supports this type of predatory behavior and treats the relatives like garbage too!

    Sally shared a story:

    I brought my sister to my home in Grand Rapids, Michigan when her legs would not let her walk, although she could transfer herself from bed to chair, etc. She had lived in Garden Grove, CA most of her adult life. Her possessions were put into storage in CA. She lived in my home for several months until we found her a nice assisted living apartment. One day in her apartment, she fell and broke her foot. The hospital put her into a nursing home for rehabilitation. She has been there since about October of 2019. It is now June of 2021. I got her a guardian because I thought another person to help with her care would be nice. This was the worst thing I could have done for her. The guardian does nothing, does not pay her bills, and has never given her a single dollar to buy herself anything. No hair cuts, pedicures, underwear, no personal items whatsoever, etc. The guardian refused to pay her storage bills in CA and she lost everything she owned. The guardian gave up her assisted living apartment and threw away her shoes, clothing, and many of the things in her apartment that I could not get out of the apartment fast enough. The guardian even refused to take the new recliner chair that I purchased for her to the nursing home so she had a nice chair to sit in. I got a moving company and took it to the nursing home myself. The guardian purchased a life insurance policy and is paying for it out of my sister’s social security. My sister did not need this policy. The Guardian has refused to let me visit my sister ever since she was in the nursing home. I have tried to rid our lives of this guardian, but the judge refuses to permit this. My sister wants the guardian gone from her care. The guardian has now put my sister in hospice care, but there is nothing wrong with my sister. She has no medical condition that would end her life. I do talk with her on ZOOM whenever I can and I always ask her if there is anything wrong with her other than being diabetic and high blood pressure and she says no. To me, she appears to be drugged sometimes in our talks. But she can still talk well except forgetting words just like most elderly people do.

    Now here is another court case in my life. In 2005 Michigan took my granddaughter away from me because I offered her a cookie one day to quickly finish her lunch. She was four and did not like to eat. This was something that the family court decided to do, so they could terminate my daughter’s rights, as they already had my granddaughter placed with a family who wanted to adopt her. My daughter was not well and had given me the care of my granddaughter which I had from the day she was born. Michigan statute says that when the child is being cared for by a relative, that the state has no interest. But our judge took it anyway.

    My point is that the probate court judge who handles my sister’s case with the guardian had his staff look up my daughter’s case to see if they could find something they could use against me. However, evidently, they found that I did nothing wrong to lose my granddaughter. So they decided to just deny me the right to get the guardian off my sister’s case. I have tried to get the guardian removed several times, but the judge refuses and never gives a reason why the guardian should stay on the case or why I cannot visit my sister. Personally, I now believe it is because they want to keep me from my sister so it keeps her from anyone seeing what is truly happening to her. She is just lying in a hospice bed and is slowly losing the will to live so they can get whatever money they have managed to have in her account and life insurance. She is 75 years of age. She is a veteran and would like to either live at the veteran’s home in Grand Rapids or come and live with me again.

    Melinda shared a story:

    In 2018 my grandmother became really sick. She called me at work and said something is wrong. By the time I had left work, she was on her way to the hospital. She was turning blue and was rushed to surgery. My mother and I took turns visiting her in the hospital. One day, one of the children (she has 7 and grandpa passed in 2007) changed the locks on her house door. One of the other siblings tried taking her cellphone away from her. Then my mother and I found out that 3 of the siblings were her POA, they handed my mother the papers in the hospital. We were shocked because there was NEVER any family discussion about who would take care of my grandparents. So my grandma was in the hospital for several weeks, then came home. The 3 siblings started calling the lawyer to ask questions about what they can do with her money. The lawyer said you can’t touch your mother’s money, it’s not yours to begin with.
    One day my grandmother overheard a phone conversation with 2 siblings and they were talking about her money. My grandmother got mad and said leave my money alone! They told her don’t worry about it we have it taken care of. My grandma was mad and was distraught. My mother and I received a phone call from my grandma and said I need you to come over to my house. We said ok. She started to tell my mother and I about not having any money in the bank. We asked her what is going on? It turns out the 3 siblings were closing and opening accounts and trying to shift the money around to the point where she was receiving her social security and pension checks she gets each month. She was now overdrawn and had no money for groceries. My grandma had enough and asked us for help. We quickly found a new lawyer for her in August 2018 and signed new POA papers for her. Not even 1 week into being in charge, the whole gang of siblings, grandchildren, and my grandmother’s brother started coming around. She said they told her let us take care of you, she said NO.
    We had to call all of her pension and SS places to fix her finances. It took us 3 months to fix it and get it back to normal.
    We also discovered that one of the siblings NEVER filed her taxes for 3 years (IRS said a civil suit can be filed)
    we also discovered that my grandfather had a WILL which we never knew about. It was drafted in 1985 and all 3 of the same siblings were in charge of that WILL as well.
    Then on December 26 2018, my grandmother called us and told us that she is going to one of the siblings house for the weekend. We told her that is not a good idea. 1 week later, on my mothers birthday, we received a letter in the mail and were fired as POAs in 2019.
    Now my grandmother’s brother and 1 of the siblings are in charge of grandma. My grandma has been diagnosed with dementia but can still make decisions for herself.
    For the next 2 years, my mother and I still took care of her, the POAs were NOT even in the picture. We made sure she had food, her medication, and was safe during the pandemic. But it didn’t last long.
    One day I was at my grandmas house and her brother showed up. He and I got into a shouting match and he demanded the password to her health account. I told him no and that she doesn’t want you or the other sibling taking care of her. I contacted my mother at work and told her what happened.
    We contacted an attorney to try and help us. He gave us some advice but so far has done nothing to help.
    We noticed that her medication started going missing and that the numbers were off. We called the police and the police said do we have proof that they are missing? One of the other siblings admitted to the police that she TOOK the medication and hid it in her trunk of her car. She returned the pills to my grandmas house and the police did NOTHING. Not even an arrest.
    The very next day all of her pills went missing. We received an affidavit from my grandmother’s brother saying we are not allowed to take care of her anymore. Keep in mind he was not in the picture for 2 years. The affidavit was notarized in Alabama even though we are in Michigan which made no sense. So we told the attorney and he just said we cannot do anything about it. Stay out of it. One of the other siblings was chosen to give my grandma her medication. My mother and I were no longer to take care of her.
    We took my grandma to her next doctors appointment and the doctor said she is of “sound mind and can make her own decisions, but her doctor still ordered a neuropsychological test to see if she really does have dementia.” Instead of using the referrel from the doctor, her brother made other arrangements to have my grandma tested without notifying my grandma.If she is found mentally incompetent, we will never see her again. My grandma stood up to her daughter and demanded she return the pills and she said NO and that they only answer to her brother who is in charge. My grandma is unable to do anything.
    Now, The brother and other siblings are hiring a nurse to give my grandma her pills starting next week. My grandma kept asking us, don’t I have a say in this? The brother and other siblings have everything already planned out for her and aren’t telling my grandma and us about what’s going on. They also erase her phone call logs so that it looks like no one is calling her and no record of calls coming through, and are also trying their best to keep us away from her.
    Our lawyer that we hired, we have now fired, Dana Nessel’s elder abuse task force here in Michigan won’t help (I asked for help in 2020 and was turned away) and we are stressed out and are out of answers for help.
    please consider reaching out to us because we need help. We are afraid for her safety and she is in DANGER in their care. They are getting away with everything. I want to help this organization anyway I can as well. If I have to get the word out I will, speaking engagements, the news, anything!



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