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I am a Human Rights advocate and I am presently working with Amnesty International.
I’m from India .We had a daughter died in 2007 .We had Brother died on 22nd Dec 2016 due to cancer I had one more younger brother died in July 2016 .
Now myself and my wife 2 persons family .
I’m arthirtes Patient not able to walk a long .We are facing financial crises because have no employment
We are planning to Educate village/Rural Youths women Girls .Because Education is the great gift today’s world.
Indian villages need it
To start this project we need supporters Guides guardians and in esters not bigmoneyneededed only little for making. Roof for school and furniture study materials to startup the project.
Please inform your valuable views and if consider me trustworthy please inform your views
We wish to work for the society in our last days
Awaiting your valuable feed back .
K. C. Dixit
my mother trusted my brother until it was to late for me to help. He used his POA to move her assets, when she found out what he was doing he took all her mail and she could not talk or see anyone. I want to hold him accountable somehow
Hi. This isn’t my story, but it is my BFF’s story.
He’s been separated from his daughter after 20 yrs of being actively participant in his child’s life. She got to spend time with her father every other weekend since she was a little girl. That all came to a complete halt once she turned of age because of guardianship. She is special needs child. And she has been separated from her father. No contact. No visits. No compromises from the Guardian to facilitate their reunion.
This is truly sad & it is my hope that others that may be going through this same thing can get together and put their voices together so that they can be heard. If you have any information or services that may be of help to them, please email me. I would greatly appreciate it.
My stepmom is keeping my dad away from all family and friends….. please help
What happened to the Kasem Girl, as seen on Access Hollywood, happened to Me~!! Exactly~!! I’m still trying to pick my jaw up, off the floor~!!! I never realized this exploitation, is so widespread~!!!! Only its my Step Sister doing it, instead of my Step Mom. I haven’t seen my Mom in years, I don’t know which Nursing Home she’s at. I begged to see her for Christmas, only to get a cold shoulder. False unproven charges was used as Tactical Maneuver, to hide her from Me, So my Step Sister could take control of ALL of her finances~!!! I called Texas Adult Protective Services, I was told they don’t investigate or locate, that I could hire a Private Investigator, if I wanted her found/checked up on… I would like to see the Kasem Video again, of what Ms. Kasem endured, at the hands of her Step Mom. Anyone know where it can be found ?
I believe it was from the TV Show, Access Hollywood.
I lost my father Gerry this past February at the hands of his wife of 2 years .She kept him isolated away from 7 children and and 9 grandchildren. His wife withheld meds,he had several unexplained falls,adult protection was call 13 times by family and Healthcare providers.He fell threw the system and in our options was killed. His wife didn’t not inform family he had passed . When news got out she had him creamated..and held no service…The county stated we had no rights.. sadly he died alone and abused.I miss him everyday
I just saw your story on access..I grew up listening to your dad…so sad…this is my story. My mother 89 had a stroke almost a year ago. She was always independent . She lived in a separate apt from my sister on my sister’s gated property. After 6 months of treatments, we decided to move my mother back to my sister’s property. She has a separate apt from my sister’s home I live in California, my mom and sister lived in Calif . They moved to Nevada 20 years ago. My sister wanted me to temporarily move to Nevada to care for my mom. I told her I my life is in California but I could go up during each month. That was not good enough for her, so she has now forbidden me to visit my mother on her property. I must stay at a hotel and she will take my mother and her caretaker to meet me. My mother is wheelchair bound, can’t walk or talk. One day she will not be able to meet me and my sister forbidding me to step foot on her property, I will lose contact with her. Also my mom has a beginning of Alzheimer. What can I do? My sister is punishing my mom and I. I was told I can do nothing. I even suggested to my sister for me to go up during the week between Christmas and new years so she can take time off. She’s always loved going to mammoth…she has a cabin there. Her answer was no…she can not tell me what to do and when to leave… I will tell her. Do you have any suggestions?also she refuses to talk to me.
I JUST SAW YOUR STORY ON ACCESS HOLLYWOOD OMG..IT IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH WITH MY DAD. I HAD TO FILE A MISSING PERSON’S REPORT YESTERDAY WITH THE POLICE IN MONTGOMERY COUNTY MARYLAND YESTERDAY. HE IS 85 YEARS OLD. HE IS ONLY FED WITH THE J AND G TUBE AND IT KEEPS “FALLING” OUT OR GETTING CLOGGED WHICH MEANS THAT HE GETS NO FOOD OR MEDICINE. HE HAS BEEN HOSPITALIZED OVER 6 TIMES IN THE LAST THREE MONTHS FOR THIS. HE CANNOT WALK, TALK, DO ANYTHING FOR HIMSELF. HIS WIFE HAS MOVED HIM FROM 24/7 NURSING CARE MILITARY FACILITY. HE IS A RETIRED LTC TWO TIME VIETNAM VET. HIS WIFE LIED AND TOLD THE NURSING HOME THAT SHE WAS HIS ONLY FAMILY. SHE IS NOT TRYING TO SUSTAIN HIM. SHE JUST TOLD THE ER AND WALTER REED NATIONAL MEDICAL CENTER THAT HE IS NOW ALLERGIC TO MORPHINE..HE HAS A BRAIN SHUNT, BLOOD CLOTS, ASPIRATION PNEUMONIA, ACUTE URINARY TRACT INFECTIONS, A STAGE 4 PRESSURE WOUND, AND SUFFERS FROM HAVING BRAIN INJURIES FROM BRAIN ANEURYSMS, HIS WIFE HAS STOPPED HIM FROM GETTING HIS SEIZURE MEDICATIONS, ASPIRIN, MEDICATIONS THAT STOP HIS SECRETIONS. HE CANNOT SWALLOW AT ALL AND IF NOT KEPT AT A 45 DEGREE ANGLE CAN CHOKE ON HIS OWN SALIVA. HE NEEDS HELP. I HAVE BEEN TO ADULT PROTECTIVE SERVICES, THE MAGISTRATE TO GET PROTECTIVE ORDER AGAINST HIS WIFE WHO IS ABUSIVE AND SEDATES HIM AND PUTS PROTEIN IN HIS FEEDING MEDICINES WHICH CLOGS HIS FEEDING TUBES. SHE IS DEMENTED AND HAS MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS AND HOLDS HIS MEDICAL AND FINANCIAL POWER OF ATTORNEY. BUT SHE IS NEVER AVAILABLE WHEN THEY CALL HER FROM HIS HEALTH DIRECTIVE..SHE IS ALWAYS UNABLE TO BE REACHED AND HER VOICE MAIL IS ALWAYS FULL AND THEY CALL ME AND I MAKE THE DECISIONS. SHE HAS MOVED HIM TO OVER 4-5 HOSPITALS IN THE DMV AREA (DC MARYLAND AND VIRGINIA) AND ALSO DIFFERENT NURSING HOMES. THE NURSING HOME AND I HAVE FILED MISSING PERSONS REPORTS IN THE LAST TWO WEEKS..YESTERDAY 12/15/2016/ I CANT GET THE HELP I NEED FROM THE ADULT PROTECTIVE SERVICES..THREE DIFFERENT COUNTIES…I DONT HAVE BROTHERS OR SISTERS…PLEASE HELP!!!!! AUDREY WILLIS 202-213-4848 CELL AWILLISFAMILY@AOL.COM…MY DAD IS CRITICAL I NEED SOMEONE TO HELP ME…PLEASE
YOU CAN POST THIS PUBLICLY ON NEWS, CNN, WHITE HOUSE…PRESIDENT OBAMA ATTENTION..PRESIDENT ELECT TRUMPS ATTENTION…WHOEVER CAN HELP…7 ON YOUR SIDE..WHATEVER CAN BE DONE TO HELP LTC 85 YEARS OLD…THEY WOULD NOT LET A DOG BE TREATED LIKE MY DAD HAS BEEN TREATED. THEY WOULD WANT TO JAIL SOMEONE THAT WOULD NOT FEED A DOG FOR DAYS OR PREVENT AN ANIMAL FROM PAIN MEDICATION.
In the Orlando Florida area:
My sister, who is a Real Estate Broker in Central Florida, hated our parents yet loved their money. She had separated our parents by seventy miles, had our father sign a power of attorney and a new WILL while he was incapacitated with Alzheimer’s disease that made her co-owner of all of what he had while giving her right to survivor-ship. Our father was malnourished with a diet of breakfast cereal only where I had to step in and make his weekly meals, delivering them to his home.
My sister used foul language on our mother and held her in seclusion with no visitors. When mother “acted up” she was cussed at and berated as well as her car privileges permanently taken away (she had died in seclusion with no visitors). When I tried to straighten out these bad acts of our sister’s, she instructed the caregivers to deny me access to mother which the sheriff deputies had enforced at the word of her attorney saying that a power of attorney was as good as a guardianship. I never was allowed to see my mother again for eight years up to her death nor was I allowed to go to her funeral. I never got to see either my father or my mother ever again nor was I allowed to attend either of their funerals.
Our sister had tried to stop me with first a Baker Act which was absurd given that I had a licensed nursery with three thousand fruit trees. When that angle didn’t work, she filed a domestic violence case against me which was also absurd since the only record of domestic violence was perpetrated by her and our brother which is in the public record filed with the court.
I heard that it is unlawful for a mother to be denied visitation with her children. I need to square the public record with the facts and would greatly appreciate your help. Thank you
With all due candor,
I live in Washington state. Our state has failed it’s youngest and oldest citizens by not restoring it’s visitation law since the year 2000. We have senior citizens dieing before legally being allowed to see the grandchildren they have cared for and in many cases, habe raised for years, like I have. Our grandparents are being alienated at an ever growing alarming rate in this state and it is both elderly abuse and child abuse.
Parents deaths, their divorce, mental illness, disagreements and drug and alcohol abuse are just a few of the reasons this devastating problem is happening.
Grandparents are older with medical problems and it is very hard for us to fight to get this law restored.
We are the only state in the entire United States failing to have this law, the only one.
I am desperately trying, everyday, to find ways to get through to our politicians about the severity of this family issue.
If anyone can help us please call me at 509.378.0027.
Grandmother of Sophia
Letter sent to the Federal Bureau of Investigation
May 28, 2013
RE: MEDICARE FRAUD. David V. Jares was taken to Catawba Regional Hospice in Newton, NC on April 3, 2013 for back pain, My mother signed Hospice Paperwork. My dad did not have a disease. He was not dying and he had NEVER BEEN IN THE HOSPITAL in his life.
Dear Fraud Task Force Agent:
• Prohibit the deceptive practice of admitting patients to Hospice who do not have a fatal disease and require Hospice representatives to explain what Hospice will do to them.
• Prohibit comatose drugging, dehydration, and starving of patients against their wishes and against family member’s wishes.
• Make it a criminal offense for Hospice Staff to refuse family member’s requests to stop drugging a patient into a comatose sleep and refusing to administer an I.V.
My dad, Marine Veteran, Dave V. Jares was an active individual who lifted 50 lbs. weights every day up until late March 2013. He was NEVER in the hospital in his life, and he DID NOT HAVE A LIVING WILL and he loved his life.
• Dave V. Jares was under Dr. Nannette Petersen’s care at the Hickory VA Outpatient Clinic from 2006 to 2013. His last visit to Dr. Petersen was on March 11, 2013 when he told Dr. Petersen about a sudden incontinence problem that was causing him concern. Dr. Petersen told us that she would arrange for Home Health Care to come to our house and assist my dad with the changing and use of urinary incontinence wear.
• Gentiva Home Health Care was arranged for my dad by The Hickory VA’s Nurse Care Coordinator, Leslie Langer at 828.431.5623.
• Mar. 29-31, 2013 – A Gentiva Nurse came to visit my dad. On Mar. 31, 2013 – The Visiting Nurse, Mr. Shook called his boss from my home, and then told my mom and me that Gentiva was going to direct my dad’s care to Hospice, and Hospice would send nurses to our home to assist my dad.
• Apr. 1, 2013. My mom signed paperwork for in home Hospice Care for my dad. Note: My dad did NOT have living will and he did NOT have dementia. There was nothing said about forcing the end of my dad’s life if he were placed in the Hospice House under in patient care!
• Apr. 3, 2013 was the first Hospice Nurse visit. While I was at work a Nurse and Social Worker visited my dad at home. I received a call from the Social Worker at my job. I was told that they were going to take my dad to Hospice because his back pain was 10 on a scale of one to 10, and that I should come home to pack clothes for my dad. My mother agreed to this course of action. I never saw the Social Worker or the Nurse on Apr. 3, 2013. My dad did not complain about back pain to me before the ambulance came.
• My dad was taken to The Catawba Regional Hospice House at 3975 Robinson Rd., Newton, NC 28658 about 3:30PM on April 3, 2013. My mother signed paper work there with a coordinator, Shawn. I have a copy of a paperwork my mom signed on April 3, 2013 (enclosed) and I did not read anywhere stating that Hospice would drug, starve and dehydrate my dad to death and refuse I.V. requests. We did not know that inpatient Hospice Care was based on the philosophy of the Holocaust.
• Apr. 3 – 9, 2012. The first week in the Catawba Hospice House at in patient care, my dad he asked me for water and told me that he was thirsty and not getting enough liquids. I told the nurses that my dad needs to have liquids. I told this to every nurse that I saw at Hospice. I called the two Social Workers, Andrea and Kirsten to tell them that my dad told me he was thirsty and he needed to have fluids.
• Apr. 8, 2013 – My dad looked okay the day of his Veteran’s Award. I have enclosed photos. It appears that he weighed 150 lbs. to 160 lbs. at the time of his picture. My dad weighed 165 on Feb. 19, 2013 (as you will notice when you read the copy of my dad’s medical report) received after his visit with Cardiologist, Dr. Issermann.
• Apr. 10, 2013 – My dad told me that he wanted to come home. He did not want to be there. My mom still believed that the doctor and Hospice would take reasonable care of my dad when she signed my dad in there. My mom visited my dad on the weekends. I went to see my dad every day before and after work and each weekend day.
• Apr. 18, 2013- I received a call from the Social Worker, Kirsten telling me that my dad should be in Transition Care and that my mom could pay for it, or apply for Medicaid benefits to pay for Transition Care. I told Kirsten, the Social Worker to arrange an ambulance and bring my dad home. I called my mom to tell her that dad was coming home. When I got off the phone with my mom, I got another call from Kirsten and she told me that A NURSE noticed a change in my dad, and they were going to keep him there at in patient care. I called my mom and she said she trusted them to give my dad reasonable care.
• Apr. 19, 2013 – My dad asked me to take him home. He told it was like a prison there. My mom still believed my dad was getting reasonable care even as I told her he was not getting enough fluids. I would take several Ensure Drinks when I went to see my dad and give them to him every day until he was drugged into a comatose sleep.
• Apr. 21, 2013 – My dad told me he wanted to go home with me that afternoon. My mom still believed my dad was getting reasonable care at Hospice even as I told her he was not.
• Apr. 22, 2013 – My dad told me once again that it was like a prison there, and he wanted to come home. He was still drinking fluids when I brought Ensures, or coffee to drink.
• Apr. 23, 2013 – a nurse called me at work to tell me that my dad was trying to get out of bed and remove his catheter. The nurse said it was “Terminal Restlessness” and they gave my dad something to calm him and moved his bed to the nurse’s station. I could not leave work until 4PM and then came to see my dad after work. He was in his room sleeping. I could not wake him. This is the point when I believe the excessive drugging of my dad began.
• Apr. 24 – 26, 2013 – I was able to get my dad to drink coffee and Ensure and eat a little. I was concerned about how thin my dad had gotten this week and I asked for an I.V. for my dad, and was told they don’t give I.V.’s there. I was shocked. I did not know what to do. I have never experienced horrific events like this.
• Sat, April 27, 2013 – the last day my dad was awake enough to drink two Ensures that I brought for him and he eat a little oatmeal that I made for him. This is the last time my dad ate or drank, Sat. April 27, 2013.
• Sun, Apr. 28, 2013 – Day 1 – no food, no water. My dad was drugged into a comatose sleep in which he was unable to awake to eat or drink from April 28 – May 4, 2013. I begged for an I.V. and was told me they do not do that there.
• Mon, Apr. 29, 2013 – Day 2 – no food, no water. I came to see my dad in the morning and evening…he was in a comatose sleep. No food, no water. I asked for an I.V. for my dad. I was told again that they don’t do that there.
• Tue, Apr. 30, 2013 – Day 3 – no food, no water. My dad was in a comatose sleep in the morning and evening when I came. I asked if he ate. I was told no he did not eat or drink. I asked for an I.V. I was told again that they don’t give I.V.’s there.
• Wed, May 1, 2013 – Day 4 – no food, no water. My dad was in a comatose sleep in the morning and evening again….He did not eat or drink again. I asked for an I.V. for my dad. I was told they don’t do that there.
• Thu, May 2, 2013 – Day 5 – no food, no water. My dad still not awake to eat or drink. I asked for an I.V. No food, no water for 5 days! I was told again that they don’t give I.V.’s there.
• Fri, May 3, 2013 – Day 6 – no food, no water. I was with my dad in the morning I got there about 6:30AM. I was talking to my dad while he was in the comatose sleep for a long time and suddenly, he sat up in bed several times trying to scream, holding my hands really tight. I rang for the nurse to ask what was happening. The nurse gave him a liquid by mouth. My dad continued to sit up and hold my hands really tight trying to scream again, when the next nurse on the shift change came in and gave my dad a liquid by mouth. My dad then went to sleep. I did not go to work and stayed with my dad several hours, called my mom, and went home to bring her to see my dad. I asked for an I.V. again and again. ”We don’t that here,” was the reply once again.
• May 4, 2013 – Day 7 – no food, no water. My mom and I were getting ready to leave our home to come see my dad when a nurse called and said they noticed a change in my dad’s breathing. I told her we were on our way there. When we got there, we were told MY DAD died before we arrived. Hospice succeeded in murdering my dad after 7 days of no food, no water, no I.V.’s.
My mother and I stayed with my dad for a few hours with my dad in his death room until the funeral home attendant arrived to take my dad.
• As God is my witness, my dad should NEVER have been placed in Hospice. But, the doctor and the staff at Catawba Regional Hospice made sure he would die. My dad was drugged into a coma so that he would not be capable of eating or drinking and was dehydrated to death and denied the I.V.’s begged for. My dad was MURDERED in Hospice. If this was done to a dog, there would be a prison sentence for this. How can people be murdered?
• May 8, 2013 – My dad’s death certificate was received by my family and I was shocked to see the cause of death listed as Dementia. That is a lie. My dad was dehydrated to death! My dad suffered for Seven Days no food, no water. My dad was murdered and he must have weighed about 120 lbs. when he died.
• PHOTOS – The enclosed photos of my dad taken on April 8, 2013 and the photos of my dad taken at his funeral on May 7, 2013 are proof that Hospice violated the ethics of medical oath to “DO NO HARM to a patient”. Instead, my dad was murdered just as millions were murdered during the Holocaust. I suspect that my dad’s medical records at the Catawba Hospice House were altered, or destroyed to conceal the way he died.
My dad did NOT want to die. He was NOT senile. My dad wrote his spring plan for the garden (attached copy of his notes from Feb. 15, 2013 and notice that he wrote that he planned to live 20 more years) and he wrote in other copied notes that I’ve enclosed how blessed by God he has been in his life. My dad also wrote to you and I’ve enclosed copy the letter you sent him.
My dad wanted to live that is why he did NOT have a Living Will. Instead, my dad was murdered in Catawba Regional Hospice House in Newton, NC. He wanted to work in his garden this summer and he wanted to visit the WWII Memorial in Washington, D.C. but Hospice made sure my Dad died before God was ready to call him home.
Please require Catawba Regional Hospice in Newton, NC pay hefty fines for Medicare FRAUD.
• Prohibit Hospice the deceptive practice of admitting patients to Hospice who do not have a fatal disease and require Hospice representatives to explain what Hospice does.
• Prohibit comatose drugging, dehydration, and starving of patients against their wishes and against family member’s wishes so that they can claim the patient was indeed dying when it was not true until
• Make it a criminal offense for Hospice Staff to refuse family member’s requests to stop drugging a patient into a comatose sleep and refusing to administer an I.V.
I wish someone had told me that a doctor would lie, drug and dehydrate my dad. I never know that someone who is not dying would be murdered by a doctor for 30K in Medicare money. Nor did I know how horrible VA health care was to send my dad to hospice for back pain.
I obtained my dad’s medical records from the demonic hospice and found out how much they lied to me. Dad was given Haldol, Hydrocodone and Therazine. He was drugged so much he could not wake up to drink water or eat. The doctor ignored me when I said I wanted my dad home.
The demonic doctor wrote cause of death as dementia on my Dad’s death certificate. Another lie. My dad was as alert as me until he was excessively drugged. The cause of my dad’s death was FORCED DEHYDRATION.
I saw your story tonight on inside addition. It broke my heart because I’m going through something similar. My mother wouldn’t let me see her mother who took care of me in my late teens early twenties. I recently found out that my mother had thrown my grandmother into a home where she’s in a small room with three other people. She has no privacy,one tiny little bed and no tv. Also can’t even go outside. My mother is trying to take everything she has left and my mother and her new husband mentally abused my grandmother. I feel your pain when you have no control to take care of someone you love. It’s a horrible thing to see someone hurt and take advantage of someone who can’t take care of themselves. I hope you get your answers and I hope I can find a way to fight for my grandmother while she is still in this world. My heart is broken she’s 92 and alone in a hell hole and I can’t get her to come live with me cause she’s trying to fight for what is hers. Good luck I grew up listening to your father. I hope you get answers and I hope I find a way to help my granny that was abused by her own daughter.
My uncle was at the same rehab center in Santa Monica. As a healthcare worker, I was appalled at my uncle’s care. I reported my findings to CMD. Medicare sent a surveyor. They were cited on several basic sanitation rules. It is s beautiful center, smells good and they have a pet therapy dog. The staff cared but the were very lax in basic sanitation rules. My complaint did have a positive effect to protect others. My director was shocked at the report and said I had a good case for litigation. However, that was not and is not my motive. My motive is to educate the public. Simple hand washing is the most effective tool against infection. In addition, my uncle had to ask to be changed. That is unacceptable. A person’s dignity should NEVER be taken away. Coming in and being friendly holding someone’s hand is nice. However, it is like cotton candy with no real nutrition. If you really want to help—- let’s educate the public on protecting their lives by careful selection of healthcare agents and basic, basic things to look for. Now every room in that institution had hand sanitizer mounted in the room. Nurses are mandated by CMS to wash their hands before putting gloves on and after removal of gloves. Furthermore, an English proficiency test should be given. If you are really interested in helping others, feel free to contact me at email@example.com. We cannot bring our loved ones back, but education can help someone else. My deep condolences. Yvette Bunch
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My name is Annie, originally from Socorro, New Mexico and growing up in the Santa Fe area, I now live in Gilbert, Arizona with my husband and two amazing kids. My story began 43 years ago as a new born baby from an affair. My biological father was married and had a family of his own, so needless to say, he was not a “father figure” in my life. That role would be filled some years later by my loving Step-Father. Growing up, I had many questions about who my father was, but those answers would not come for many years. Wanting to know more about my father and half-siblings, about seven years ago, I started to research my father. With a little hard work and dedication, I was able to connect with one of my half-brothers who lives there in Socorro with my father. Our friendship grew over the course of several years and through many phone conversations we set up a time to meet. Everything was going smoothly, I was able to connect and meet with several other family members and shortly there-after, I was able to finally meet with my father.
Growing up, I knew who my father was and actually met him a couple of times… as he was having an ongoing affair with my mother. As a child, I was not aware but their affair went on for several years until my Step-Father came into the picture. Through my “investigation work” looking for my father and putting the pieces together of my family history, I was able to locate another half-brother living in a different state who was also a product of an affair my father was having (at the same time) with another woman.
As a child, I never could understand why my father did not want me in his life and as I grew up, I learned to dislike my father more and more throughout the years. His lack of support became a thorn in my side which I carried with me for many years.
My husband was with me when I reconnected with my father for the first time in 20+ years. The bitterness was gone and all I felt was love and compassion for him. My father, is 85 was very open to my questions and throughout our visit, he walked around his house showing us pictures and telling us stories of the past. We had a wonderful visit together and my husband took several pictures of us together. For our next visit together, we brought my kids and introduced them to their Grandfather. Again, we all had a wonderful time together which also included my half-brother and his family. Little did I know, behind the scenes, my half-brother and his wife was plotting against me. During our last and final visit together, after seeing my father, my half-brother’s wife pulled me aside and read me the riot-act. She implied that I was not truly my father’s daughter and that I was producing more problems for their family than anything else. She insisted that my half-brother felt the same way towards me and my family and asked us not to return again to see my father. Since then, she has completely turned her husband/ my half-brother against me and I have not been allowed to speak with my father when I have tried calling him.
Since then, over a year has passed and my father’s health has taken a turn for the worse. He has dementia and is now having a difficult time even remembering who my half-brother and his family are. I have made several attempts to contact my half-brother in order to check on my father but all my efforts have failed, my brother and his wife will not allow me to speak with my father. I am very concerned for my father’s health and am afraid that something will happen to him and I will not know about it.
Hi, I’d like to share several blog posts I think you and your audience might find of interest:
Human rights organisation , also have a program of elderly people, day care center, counselling, exercising in the morning,grocery club , budget making sure dont go to money sharks . I the end of year fundraiser for everybody’s birthday and closing party. Also making sure abuse is reported and they als support each other.
I am on my way right now to spend thanksgiving with my mommy so I will be back to share my story, thank you…