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My mother was taken from my house by court and restricted me and family members from visiting. Died 1 yr after.
My brother alienated our mother from us starting as soon as he was released from prison for terroristic threatening. We were told by her after many altercations not to ever come back to her home that she couldn’t have us around Abe. 10 yrs later, our mother dies and we then find out over a million plus has been taken out of her name and put into our brothers with help from his girlfriend who worked for a title company she even notarized many. He unduly influenced her convinced her I was trying to poison her in her last days, I didn’t get to see her fro her last eleven days as he convinced her I was trying to steal her property. In her last 12 hrs before hospice he had her signing deeds and the griflfriend notarized them. We turned them into DHS for elder abuse and they did nothing, they financially exploited her.
I need help. My father is 92 years old. He was in the military from 1943-1973, serving as a veteran in three wars. He met my mother in Japan during the Korean war where she was working at a hospital that he was admitted to. They later married in 1959.
In 2007 my mother passed away from lung cancer. My father was originally going to move close to my family so we could take care of him; however, he could not bring himself to leave the house that he shared with my mother for over 30 years. I insisted that he get a housekeeper and someone to make meals for him if he was going to live alone.
In 2009 he said he hired a lady that he met while she was working at a 7-11 in Huntington Beach. Although she was unlicensed, I thought this would be OK since she was only going to be cooking and cleaning. I later find out that she was not doing any of these things. At this time, he had over $400,000 in savings.
From 2010 this lady slowly worked her way into his life. Discarding all personal photos of the family as well as removing my mother’s belongings (she left the photos that were on the wall so no one would be suspicious). During this time, she convinced my dad to marry her in 2012. At the time he was 89 years old, she was 50. She never moved into the house, no one knew about the marriage, including my father’s brothers, or immediate family until almost a year later. When asked why he married her, my father stated that she wanted him to, so she could receive his VA benefits after his death.
Since his marriage, this lady has never stayed at, or slept in his house She kept a separate apartment, and apparently also claimed Section 8 assistance… and received Section 8 funds.
This lady alsoconvinced my father to buy her a car, as well as her daughter one. Apparently, my father started to give her money to pay for tuition for her daughter as well.
Unknown to me, she also had me removed from my father’s bank accounts ( I was a co-owner/signer) and his power of attorney.
On July 30, 2012 she convinced my dad to mortgage his house for $400,000 (see attached deed of trust) that was paid off without any family member knowing. At this time, I, and my doctor believe he was suffering from dementia, and possibly early stages of Alzheimers, as he was having hallucinations of people trying to break in, or on the roof of his house (he called the police on several occasions). He does not remember or know that he mortgaged his house. In June, 2013 she then convinced my father to change the family trust without anyone’s knowledge, and also had herself added to the title on the house.
Immediately after mortgaging his house, she sent $250,000 to her mother.
Whenever we, or family friends would visit, she was never there. Once, we arrived unannounced, and she was there, but immediately left. We found out later it was the same with our family friends that would visit.
When questioned by family members and friends of her intentions (she still was not living with him), my father became very upset and would argue, and did not want any family members visiting. We come to find out later, that she told him it would be better for his health if he just cut off contact to us. He stopped calling, and she would disconnect the home phone so no one could call him. We did not see him from July 2014 through May 2015.
I started receiving calls from family friends in May 2015 that they were concerned for my father’s well being. I went to visit my father in May 2015. I noticed much of his custom furniture was missing, and that there were signs all over the house …. Stating to not go out, Do not go in garage and do not use the stove. His bedroom was a mess, no bed, just a mattress on the floor. I decided I needed to take charge and contacted an attorney to file for conservatorship.
I come to find out later that the neighbors had been calling Adult Protective Services, as my father was wandering around the neighborhood by himself, tried to climb up on the roof since he thought someone was trying to break in. I also found out after speaking with the neighbors that Rachel was only coming to the house for 2 hours a day, 2-3 days a week.
Instead of addressing our and Adult Protective Services concerns, this lady picked up and moved my dad to Hawaii, without anyone knowing (either his brothers, or immediate family members, or neighbors). We found this out, because coincidentally, my best friend was on the same flight, and recognized my dad. When she went to find out what was going on, this lady started to yell at her, calling her names, to the point that Airport security was called.
that day, I received a call from another lady that claimed to be her niece and that it was her mother (a CNA) is the one that took my dad to Hawaii (this is not true, as I have pictures showing it was actually the lady). She said that they would call me later to let me know what was going on. I never heard from anyone again,
When I went to secure the house, it was obvious that they left in a hurry. The rear door was wide open, my father’s sundries and most of his clothes were still there, as was his medicine.
My attorney immediately filed for an emergency temporary conservatorship, which I was awarded by the Orange County courts; however I could not get permanent conservatorship until I could arrange for my dad to come back from Hawaii.
Once I was awarded temporary conservatorship, I was able to gain access to my father’s financial accounts, and research his accounts. I found out that this lady had also opened a line of credit against the home as well for $150,000, but only $25,000 was taken out. During my investigation, I found out that she would take my father to his credit union to make cash withdrawals that coincided with the electronic deposits from his pensions and disability checks. I was surprised to find out that his entire savings were gone.
In August 2015 I found out that Rachel listed the house on June 23rd and was attempting to sell the house buy off market. She asked the real estate agent to try to sell it, without putting it on the market (I am in real estate, and would have known if it was advertised, or put in the MLS).
I was later informed that this lady had hired a family law attorney in Hawaii and was asking for mediation. We decided to agree to the mediation, as there was no other way to get my dad back from Hawaii, if we did not.
I do not know if this was their motivation or not, but on October 16th, 2015 I was told my father had a seizure and was taken to the hospital. I did not know which hospital, so my attorney told me to go ahead and contact her attorney. At that time, he told me my father was fine, but that he had lung cancer (as mentioned previously, my mother passed away from lung cancer). I was now even more motivated to get my father back.
At the mediation, I was told that either I accept their terms or they would take my father back to Hawaii (I had to agree as part of the mediation that I would not take steps to keep my father here), and I could fight them from there, which would take possibly years, and my father could be dead by then since he had cancer. I of course accepted their terms, even though I felt coerced into it.
After getting my father back, I had Drs. check him out. He did not have cancer…. It was a lie, to get me to accept the terms. He was diagnosed with having beginning stages of Alzheimer’s (see attached dr’s report)
Right after getting my father back, I had to go in for major spinal surgery to remove a tumor on my spinal cord. I was laid up for a while due to this. I also made arrangements for daily care by professional care givers.
I recently noticed that his disability checks from the VA were not being deposited into his account. I then contacted the treasury department and found out that as of November, Rachel requested checks be written directly to her. She then requested that they be direct deposited into a Chase Bank account with her as the custodian for my father (this is completely fraudulent, as the court had appointed me as the conservator, and she was fully aware of this). Rachel has been using this account to pay for her own private bills. These funds are not being used for my father’s health care, and in fact, I have had to use my own funds to pay his bills due to a shortage.
The reason I need assistance, is I need someone to help guide me. The police department does not seem to take any of this seriously, and has not really investigated (originally, they did not even want to take a report). My attorney seems to have believe that I have no recourse, even though I was coerced into accepting the settlement against my will (I think he just wants it to end so he can get fully paid out), meanwhile, I have been paying for his caregivers from my own personal funds, and she is still taking money from him!….
My name is Rajib Hasan.One of my village children has a heart problem and her has no nearest relative person so please please help this helpless girl.Remember that it"s not fake story i am still a donors .Please help from your humanity…
Many old people are killed here in my community due to superstitious belief that they are witches. In this community for a long time people have been using firewood for cooking which as a result causes the eyes to be red. But because of high illiteracy they ha ve been claiming that whoever has red eyes is a witch. Many people with red eyes are old people not young for they have been using firewood for a long time. I want to change this notion, to change their thinking. I have established the Community Based Organization named UNDUGU FAMILY DEVELOPMENT ASSOCIATION (UFADEA) and is registered so as to assist our old people from the killings.
I need your great assistance to education first to Youth, for seminars,meetings and many workshops. WILL YOU BE OF ASSISTANCE TO SAVE THE OLD PEOPLE !!!!!!!
I was elected u opposed to represent Older Persons in Nakaseke District of Uganda found in Central Region. The District has 15 Sub counties wirh over 30,000 older persons who are at 60+ years as per the Constitution
This being a new age bracket to be included in all governance levels in the country the mandate is challenging. I and my Executive committee will need a lot to share from the developed world for capacity building of my teams at District down to lower governance levels. So my sharing his info is to identify international partners and collaboration agencies working with Older Person Worldwide.
Older Persons Council
“Hello? Yes, this is Barbara Hoffman” From there the nightmare begins with the Washington State Guardian System. I am not nearly through the system but, Our son working hard to stop what has been going on. It was a Friday, I had just been out looking for a home for my husband to be placed. He has Ataxia, the symptoms are very similar to ALS and he had been sick and then placed in a Rehab. At that time he was working to regain strength and get to come home. This was not going to be the case after the phone call.
“My name is Lisa Rasmussen and I am your husbands guardian, you no longer have any say or control of what happens to him. You have abused him and abandoned him, you want him dead, you cannot see him again or you will be arrested.” I am calling your work and having you fired and I will own you right down to your socks.” Imagine my confusion. Vic, and I have been married for 41 years, I still love him with all that I am. We were hard working people who saved a tidy sum for retirement and had made our plans for our years together. I was shocked and I was alone, I did not think for one minute that this would not get resolved quickly.
In May of 2015, the VA started sending caregivers into the home 3 days a week 4 hours at a time. Our daughter was coming in on the days that they did not come. We were in a one level home and he had all the bells and whistles to help him with his daily needs. In July Vic told me there was something wrong with the checking account and he believed that Mary was writing checks. She actually wrote $1180.00 in checks over a short time.
In August Vic developed a UTI and he was in the hospital. From there he went to the Rehab in Camas, WA. He never came home again. He was back in the hospital with a UTI and was returned to the rehab with IV antibiotics. About 2 weeks later Vic developed a new UTI and was put on back on IV antibiotics. Then the rehab told me his time had run out and that he needed to leave. He still had time left on his IV and they said they would remove that and get pills. I said no, he needed to finish the course and then come home. I filed for an extension and got it. This was the end of September.
It was at this time I got a letter saying someone had opened a credit card in my name. I talked with the people and the address they had was our daughters. I called the police and filed a report. My daughter was furious, her wife told me that she was a vet and that I owed this to them. I told her that I was not going to work to support her alcohol habit. I told her to get a job. It was a tough time and relations were strained.
In early October I developed pneumonia and was hospitalized. I was released and within the week the social worker at the rehab had left a list of homes for Vic to go to. He had looked over the list and told me that they were too expensive and that he wanted to come home. I said home it will be then. I left a note saying that these were too expensive, my mistake, I put it in writing. Putting something is writing was not the long suit of the rehab. I had never received a phone call or report on Vic’s condition and his abilities to take care of his basic needs. He told me he was getting stronger and could do the transfers. They did not allow him to have all of his equipment so there were a few gaps in his rehabilitation.
By Thursday the 3rd week of October, I got a call from the Social Worker at the rehab. I had to get Vic out of there by Monday or I would be charged $800 a day. My guess is they were done and wanted nothing more to do with him. I also believe there may have been some neglect on their part. At times it would take them 45 minutes to respond to his call to get assistance to use the bathroom. Wonder why he had UTI’s. I told the social worker I would bring him home and have the VA start coming in again. She said they would not do that as he needed more care than that. I asked what I should do? She told me to “quit my job”. I asked how I could pick a home on such short notice, how would I know he would get the proper care, that it wasn’t a shiny rattrap, flea bag? Looking good on the outside and no care on the inside? She said that was my problem. I was crying and distraught, I was on some heavy medications still and I was watching all our dreams and hopes go out the window. She told me to, “get over it”. I said that Vic and I had discussed this time in our lives and we both had said that it would be better to close our eyes and go to sleep than to go through or put each other through this type of situation. We had filled out DNR paperwork and he even refused water at the end.
That evening I was trying to regroup, our daughter called and said she would help me the next day find a good home for her father. I was appreciative. Within minutes of that phone call 6 police officers showed up at my home because they were told I was suicidal. I had no idea what they were talking about. They told me my “sister” had called them. I explained that I do not have a sister. They looked like circus clowns at this point trying to figure it all out. They left and I am still here.
The next day our daughter and I found a home close to where we live so that I could even walk to see him. It was a lovely place with only 4 men total. It was clean and it was stable. I was allowed in all areas of the home and I heard one of the men ask for a McDonald’s cheeseburger and the husband left to get him one. There was a great feel and lots of kindness in the home.
I walked through the door and home the phone rang and that is where the nightmare starts. Lisa Rasmussen was on the other end screaming like a wild woman. She told me:
I will have everything you own
I will own you down to your socks
You will be standing on a corner with a cardboard sign
I will make sure you never see Vic again, she never once referred to him as my husband
You try to see him I will have you arrested
He is mine now and I have all the control
I wanted him dead
I had abused him
I had abandoned him
I refused to pay for his care
This one sided conversation went on for 45 min. I was in shock, I told her we could work this out in a civil manner and that all the threats were not necessary. When the conversation was over I was completely shaken I did not know what to do.
I called a friend and she said that I needed a lawyer. I went to a lawyer and he called Lisa Rasmussen to find out what was going on. We could hear her screaming at him from across the desk through the phone. He said very little to her, she ranted for 15 minutes. When he hung up he said, “I do not know everything, but Lisa Rasmussen has something for your daughter”. That was when the lights went on.
The system took hold and kept me at bay saying they were going to file a VAPO, vulnerable adult protection order against me. That was the statement each time we tried to do anything. The attorney I ended up with could only tell me to get a divorce. Through all of this I am sure he should have been going after them, did not happen. My guess is that he was afraid of this woman, many of the attorneys in this area have told me they cannot fight them since they have to work with them and they are unregulated and can do as they please.
At one point Lisa Rasmussen was going to place Vic with our daughter, she knew of the pending charges and did not care. He was going to move into a house with 3 adult women, one teenager, a baby and 5 dogs. This is a three bedroom townhouse with no bathing facilities on the main floor, Vic cannot do stairs. He was to live in the dining room with a curtain around him. I was instructed to buy him furniture and bedding to accommodate his needs in the home. I went shopping with our daughter and bought what was needed. This was not good enough, Lisa Rasmussen, knowing there were pending charges of credit card fraud and identity theft, handed our daughter my husband Visa and told her to buy what she needed and I would pay for it. Over $500 was spent. I did not know that he would be needing a new dining room table. When I called her about it she told me that was her call and she could do as she pleased. I closed the credit card account.
I was waiting for the VAPO to be filed, it did not come. On December 31, 2015 Lisa Rasmussen started an investigation into the abuse charges. This was done this late into the guardianship because the court date was January 8,2016, one week away. There was no way in the world that the investigation could be completed in this amount of time and they could have their way with whatever they wanted as the charges still stood. In March 2016, I was cleared of all charges, all accusations were found unsubstantiated.
During this time Vic was isolated. He was only allowed to talk to Lisa Rasmussen, her lawyer, our daughter and a brother and sister he had not talked to in 10 years. He was told I was abusive to him, that I had stolen from him, that I wanted him dead, over and over and over. Our son tried to talk to him and Lisa Rasmussen told him if he talked to him about me or the case again she would get a court order to keep him away from his father.
January 8, 2016, Vic was declared incompetent on a felonious psych report. He was assigned a professional guardian. This woman with a sweet smile and friendly voice was not that at all. She has spent over $33,000 in 3 months. Her reports of money spent and monthly expenses are inflated. We are questioning everything through the courts.
I had an attorney until May 2, he is an honest man. He too insisted that I get a divorce to protect my assets of 41 years. I did not want to but, I did follow his advice and start the process. Again, we were not addressing the real problem. Vic was in a money pit, his money being spent on guardians, attorneys and court fees. They charged over $350.00 to take him to a Dr. appointment. We were to go to court on the 6th and start the process, and fight the guardians reports. I was asked by his assistant if I expected him to be there on Friday? I was taken aback. I said, “Yes, why wouldn’t he be?” She said, “He had not planned to be there but, he could if I thought he needed to be.” I could not breath, my chest ached, I lost vision, my stomach was churning, my head was swimming. I had been through this before, I had been told by many attorneys they would not fight these people and here I was facing this again. I said I understood that he could not fight these people because he had a business to maintain, he could not rock the boat. This enraged my attorney and he resigned from the case on Tuesday. I had until Friday to pull it all together, find an attorney, bring them up to speed and be in court. That did not happen.
Our son went to court for me. He filed for a continuance, he filed for guardianship. Before he stepped into the courtroom the professional guardian and her attorney pulled him into a room and told him to sign the papers and then they could all go home. He did not sign the papers and said he wanted to talk to the judge. They turned and walked out.
Long story short, the judge was receptive to our son, allowed him a continuance and helped him with the process for getting guardianship. He explained to the court that the abuse was unsubstantiated gave him the documentation from DSHS. He told him his qualifications, and that he had taken the guardian class and passed. We now have 2 weeks and I have found an attorney in another county that we are going to talk to Monday. We finally got a break, this is just the opening volley, these people are going to fight hard to get all the money they can grab. It is a mess, we will continue to fight.
Washington is completely unregulated and it is up to us to expose this mess. We need to make enough waves in public that the legislators cannot ignore us, that the general public is angry about this. Everyone needs to be aware that it only takes one angry person to tell lies, and make up stories to cause this kind of damage to a family. I beg all of you in Washington to contact the foundation, they will give you my number and we can begin to change this unregulated system.
first i took care of my Mom right to the end she had ALS. after that i helped out with my mother in law she had 2 types of cancer. i then took my Dad out of the nursing home since i had to clean him up everyday and my Mom why she could shaved and dressed him for bed every night. When i put my Dad in the hospital at the end i was asked by the doctors above the doctors in ICU what is it that i did to keep him alive for so many years i told them he had a place with his daughter he had his tv, puppy. kitty and his little granddaughter. My Dad had dementia, stokes, delusions sickle cell, many heart related aliments . He served in WWII passed at 85. Between both my parents they had 6 children together they had me. I am so proud of the both of them that i can say i love and still love their ex-spouses. My Dad was also legally blind and still took care of his children. My Mom is a Saint she was so patient and the glue to our family. What a horrible disease to watch her go through. Although my father was also mentally ill he or the doctors at that time my Dad was never properly treated for that which i feel is so heart breaking.
My Dad sacrificed a lot during his life to make sure that if he died before my Mom, there would be enough money and assets to takecare of her needs until her passing. My father died in 2009. At that time, it was a known fact by my three brothers and myself that Mom had dementia. The oldest brother was living at my parents home at the time of my father’s death, and was not working. Within one month, he had used one of my father’s credit card accounts to issue a card in his name, the account had a credit limit of $50,000. I asked my Mom if she authorized this and she no, that was your father’s account. So, I called the credit card fraud unit to open an investigation. They sent an alert through email which went directly to my brother, when the fraud dept called to talk to my Mom to see if she authorized it, my brother was sitting next to her, telling her what to say. When this effort failed, I contacted my brother in NV and told him what was going on. He didn’t want to get involved, little did I know he was in on the whole plan. My Mom became totally dependent on the brother living with her. She would no longer let anyone else take her to the doctors, grocery shopping or anywhere. She became afraid of him because of his intimidation. It got so bad when my daughter took her young son to visit his Grammy that she stopped going to her home. He eventually convinced my Mom that I was going to steal all her money and put her in a nursing home. My daughter and I invited her out for her birthday, we were told never to come to her home again. My daughter was crushed that her Grandmother would say this to her, and I was still recovery from caring and watching what was once a very active father, die from congestive heart failure. I didn’t have any energy within me to fight anymore. The brother in NV came to MD, added his name to her checking account, purchased the house next door and furnished it with funds from the investment account my father had left for my Mom. He knew when Mom died, the house would become his clear and free. In 2010, they moved my Mom to NV, while the brother in MD remained in her home. Before she left, he had her sign over ownership of my Dad’s RV and her vehicle. Dec 2013, I received a call from my brother in NV, crying and apologizing and asked me to come she my Mom. I made two trip to NV within one month and it was the second trip that revealed that she was very unhappy being isolated from everyone and her health was failing. They attempted to change her Trust when there was no longer cash value in the investment account. I brought her back to MD and immediately took her to my father’s attorney for help. BIG MISTAKE !!! He had my Mom resign as Trustee, making himself the Trustee, I am the Successor Trustee. We closed out her checking account which my brother in NV was paying all of his bills, those of my brother in MD and his daughter who was now also living in the MD home. The investment account was placed in the Trust so they wouldn’t have access to it. I retained an attorney on behalf of my Mom to have the courts declare her incompetent so that I could become her Guardian as stated in her Advance Directive. A hugh legal battle ensued because I had shut down their funding source and had Mom in my custody. They accused me of kidnapping even though she had only been with me two weeks at this point. During all of this, I had a full time job and she couldn’t be left alone during the day. My daughter tried to help when she could, but with a young son and watching other children during the day it was too much for her. We agreed that best thing for her was to move her into a Independent Senior Living Apt where she would be able to socialize with people her own age and get involved in daily activities. I hired homecare to be with her during the day to help her with meals and person hygiene. My Mom was adjusting so well, she started gaining weight, joining the other residence for activities and dinner in the evenings. She was looking forward to taking day trips provided by the Property Management. Once she was settled into her new home, I advised the attorney/Trustee of her new residence. He immediately notified my brothers attorney, and they were able to gain access to the building by a Postman who gave them her apt number and they took her clothes and all. I was able to reach my Mom by a cellphone that I purchase for her, and she was so confused. They were hiding her out at different locations so I couldn’t find her. I contact Office on Aging, Adult Protective Services, Police Dept and eventually State’s Attorney Office to open an investigation into financial exploitation/abuse. APS sent a case worker and reported that she was fine, closed file. I requested a meeting with the APS case worker and was denied, yet he was meeting with my brother and niece every visit. I never had the opportunity to tell my story, they only were hearing from the very people that were abusing her mentally and financially. Police Dept wanted to help get her back, but was stopped by the States Attorney Office, she hadn’t been declared incompetent by the court. So, in their mind she could go or do whatever she wanted regardless if it was in her best interest or not. My brother’s attorney advised him to return her to NV, because the State’s Attorney would not spend the resources to have her returned to MD for court. My brother and his daughter drove her back to NV, three months after I had brought her home. State’s Attorney closes their investigation. The last time I saw my Mom was on April 17,2013. Now, three years later my Mom has four beautiful great-grandchildren that will never know her. My daughter, my Mom’s first grandchild has been denied having a Grandmother in her adult life. I have been denied a Mother, who I have care for and did everything in my power to protect her … but have failed. I was recently advised that my Mom has been placed in a Nursing/Assistant Living Home somewhere in NV,, and that if I want to see her I will have to coordinate my visits through my 26 yr old niece who now has POA. I just turned 60 in March, and I will be damn if I ask permission from anyone to see my own Mom. I recently retained an attorney to request an accounting of the Trust, because I have evidence of mismanagement. My attorney agreed that things were not right, however, I was not entitled to an accounting until such time that I become the Trustee or my Mom dies. So, this Trustee/Attorney can continued to send money to my Mom who’s account is being control by the very people that having been stealing from her for the past 7 years !!! Unbelievable Signed : A Voice for Mom
My husband was taken from me in Oct. I was told that I would never see him again. I was told by the Guardian Ad Litem that she would own me right down to my socks. She said I would be on the street and she was going to have my job. She went on for almost an hour about how horrible I was. She said I abused my husband and was stealing from him and that I had abandoned him. He had been either in the hospital or a Rehab since August. They investigated me for a VAPO and found all allegations were unsubstantiated. But, they will not let me be his guardian. They have appointed a guardian that has a history through the courts, (article in Wall Street Journal), of misappropriating funds of the people she was to protect. My husband was isolated and told repeatedly that I was stealing from him, that I was abusive and that I had abandoned him. I was not allowed to see him until February, I took him to a public place with a witness in tow. I have only been able to see one other time. When I picked him up he was dirty, his urine bag was full. He told me he was just staying in his room. He seemed afraid to tell me anything. He has a degenerative disease and I am afraid that he will die before I get to hold him again. We have been married 41 years and I am being forced to divorce him to protect my assets. This is such a mess, I had caregivers in the house before he went in the hospital, they are mandatory reporters and never once found anything to report. This was all brought about by my daughter and an over zealous social worker. If there is anybody else out there that lives in Clark County WA contact me and let’s start changing things.
My Mom is 90 years old, the younger daughter my mother help her to continue to work, mom stay since the first one born about 26 years old and her daughter made my mom to move to her home. MY mother and father left they jobs to stay in the house with baby, plus cooking to everybody, cleaning house and laundry from everybody in the house.First husband she had 2 boys. Later they got divorced and she already got a boyfriend who was married after he got divorced and this FUCK woman has 3 more children, my parents were over 85 years old. My rental an apartment and she brought all his 5 children to take to school and she never pay her nothingChildren grew up and older. my father died and she placed my mother to Wanaque Center nursery and she never allow my mother to go out with any of us, MOM`s children.
MY mother trust noemi due how much help her but noemi placed in Wanaque nursery and she stated since my mom signed papers in English and mom does not understand, she took adsvantage of her, She got the papers my mother signed and refused to give my mom the papers she signed. My Mother is US Citizen, and she got the right to get her papers she signed. Nobody can do nothing about it. My mother is like in prision due noemi requested place some alarm in her wrist so nobody will take care out. NO HOLYDAY, NO CHRISTMAS, NO THANKGIVING AND MANY OTHERS HOLYDAYS JUST noemi mc andrewSTATED NOBODY WILL TAKE HER OUT. SHE IS 90 YEARS OLD. I must to do something to help with gov. but useless, I complaint Senior rights but I waste my time. I comes to see her but she is always crying, nobody come to see her. I got home so desperate how long my mother is going to live like that. She is 90 years old I want my mother delete papers she signed to her. HOW SHE IS GOING TO DO IT IF noemi REFUSED TO GIVE HER A COPY. MY MOHER IS US CITIZEN, noemi CAN NOT REFUSED TO GIVE MY MOTHER A COPY, noemi is COMMIT A FRAUD TO REFUSED MY MOTHER HAS COPY OF THE PAPERS SHE SIGNED., THEY ALL IN ENGLISH AND MY MOTHER SPEAK SPANISH AND ENGLISH.
PLEASE HELP MY MOTHER BEFORE SHE DIED IN THAT PLACE. SHE DOES NOT DESERVED THIS LIFE. THIS YEAR MY MOM WILL BE 91 YEARS OLD. YOU CAN SEE YOU DO NOT HAVE TIME, TIME RUNS TOO FAST. EVERY TIME I SEE SO SAD AND CRYING I GET SO UPSET. I need somebody to tell me what you I do. I DO NOT SPEAK TO noemi, I will not longer considere my sister for what she did our mother
I am already retired and I just count with my Social Security pension.
my sister…took all away from me…dad .made will and trust out..for me and sis…i was in it…mom was left out …in 2008…a month later sis video tape dad talking remembering old times…and what he did growing up…sis left will in dads room for anyone can see it….my aunt read willl later on saw that my mom wasnt in it…told dad to put her in….sister took dad to lawyers…instead of making a new paper trail…they got lil peice of paper called amendments…the fuck you over papers…well the first amendment was to put mom in….and it work…sis so happy..next month they wrote a sec amendment…which says mom in…and alll too..sister …then when sister dies then to me rick…
i was my dads caretaker for over three years…24/5 …..as sister worked….she such a bitch..she took three months off…and never told me…dad was a fighter always yelling screaming bitting….hitting me….but i grow up ..on that i was used to it….and would never hurt my dad….i worked with him since i was a kid…at age five….where dad was ..i was not far behind….i got anything i wanted from him…..as i was taking care of him….i stoled checks from acct before sister took check book away….she didnt put much money in dads acct…and we be broke by third week in month…but dad was smart had over draft on a thirty grand card…..i only got paid 450.00 a month from dad….
so as sister was working…not taking care of him…and dad liked car rides…i / we go to bank i make out checks to me…as he signed them…cause as a kid i wrote forged checks…from dads acct…but dad loved me and never pressed charges….thats why i took care of him….cause he tooked care of me….
anyway dad passed in oct 2013…..sister poa..and now exacuter of will trust….i begged and begged to see copy of will and trust…
but at dads funural…i get a speech from sister…to family and friends….she couldnt have done this with out the help from me…..that speech sure pays all bills remember that next time a bill comes…..
anyway about two years later we go see dads /her lawyer….i ask to see will and trust…oh yea..
sister brought in recepits to collect for money she paid out …cause she didnt put much in dads acct…
as lawyer reading will and trust..says to me…mom gets house until she dies and sister gets rest…..if sister dies first then i get…
you belive that shit…i told lawyer i kill her…
he says sister can kick me out of dads house….and have me arrested….and all the lawyer stuff….i told him..well she better hire a body guard…cause if i cant have what is really mine either can you……as dad says cant take it with you…..plus i never seen an aromor car at a cemertary have you…
My grandmother was stolen me. I have always been extremely close to her and never could have imagined how things turned out. We were always a very close-knit family, and I spent every bit of free time I had, visiting my grandparents. A few years ago, my aunt, who I was also extremely close to, started dating a new guy right. This was right around the time that my grandmother starting showing signs of Alzheimer’s. Long story short, my aunt bought a house with her mentally and verbally abusive boyfriend. Without warning, he drove to my grandmother’s house, picked her up, drove her to their house, and sent the rest of the family an email saying that we were not allowed on their property and would be prosecuted if we showed up on their estate. Simultaneously, the boyfriend made up outrageous lies about the rest of the family, making my grandmother fear that we were all trying to harm her, kidnap her, put her in a nursing home, and steal all of her money. We called the elder abuse hotline, the police, and an attorney, but my grandmother told them all that she was afraid of us, wanted to stay where she was, and didn’t want to see us. As it turns out, we were granted very limited visitation, and were able to calm her fears. She told us that the boyfriend forced her to buy boxes so that he could drive to one of her homes, pack it up, and sell it. Her bedroom and dining room furniture made it to their house, but she never saw the rest of her belongings. This was about three years ago. Last year, over a period of six months, my grandmother went from walking freely to not being able to stand or support her own weight. We asked if she had a wheelchair at home. Her response was that she didn’t have or need one, because she stayed in her bed, in her room all day. To my knowledge she is still alive, but I doubt that I will hear about it when she does pass. My only hope at this point is that she’s not in pain, and is actually buried with my grandfather, in the family plot she bought with her father, years ago. My aunt and her boyfriend have taken two beloved sons, five grandchildren, and eight great-grandchildren away from my grandmother, at the time when she needed us most. Her quality of life has gone down significantly, and she lost everything that she enjoyed, in her final years. I have many cherished memories of her, but will never regain the time that was lost.
My half brother took my grandmother who he hasn’t seen in 25 years to Arizona. Him and his wife have done nothing but lie to me about where she is . I love in Pittsburgh , Pa . all I want is the chance to talk to my grandmother as often as she wants. I have cried everyday for a week because of this. This was done sneaky behind my back .
My aunt & uncle were found in poor health in their home having no contact w/ family members for 2 years. They were given a caseworker in the state of Massachusetts until the state could make contact w/ family. Once we (family) found out this horrible news we got right on it and tried to talk them into going into assisted living.
They resisted us all the way saying they wanted to stay in their home until they died.
They both have been diagnosed w/ dementia (early Alzheimer’s) by their family physician.
My uncle has some wealth to him and no living relatives on his side of the family. My aunt has my mom her only living sibling left in her family who resides in another state. My mom contacted my sister and asked her to follow up w/ the state caseworker. My sister ended up (cold heartily) putting them in an assisted living against their wishes but before doing so she contacted an attorney to write up a
Will. The attorney met with them at their home along w/ my sisters & I.
My uncle & aunt were nervous but were asked by the attorney in one question what they would like to do with their home & assets upon their death? My aunt named her
sister and she is up there in age as well. My aunt & uncle are 90 & 91 her sister 85.
The attorney asked them to name an alternate because of the sister’s age. We then
proceeded asking them about naming a POA and a healthcare proxy. They had no
clue what that meant so with my explaining to them they named both my sisters.
There was no mentioning of a Trust. My uncle & aunt signed the paperwork and then
the lawyer never explaining to them wrote up a Realty Trust naming my sister sole Trustee. They & I were duped by both my sister an attorney as that was their motive to get my sister solely named as Trustee. I would have never allowed that to happen
as it should have been written up as a Living Estate leaving the house in my aunt &
uncle’s possession until they both died. They named me as the alternate beneficiary.
My sister’s and Mom thought that it should have been named as all 3 neices not just
myself as the alternate. I thinking that all 3 neices should be named asked the attorney to put it in all 3 neices names. He couldn’t do that as that is not what my aunt & uncle requested. He ended up putting on the Schedule Of Beneficiaries 100%
going to the sister & if she predeceases them 100% to myself and if I predease them as well he named both my sisters to receive 50% each.
My sister did not like the responsibility of caring for the house so she put it on the market. My uncle would be so upset with that decision. My sister said that she would
put the proceeds from the sale in my uncle’s account to use towards their assisted living cost as that is over $12,000 a month they have been moved to the memory care unit after living there for 1 year. My uncle thinks it is only costing him $1,000 a
month. We agreed not to tell him the truth as it would upset him and not make things
easy on the assisted living facility. I’m now regretting this whole scenario because my
sister sold the house and is giving the proceeds to our mother. My uncle & aunt’s wishes were for everything to be transferred AFTER their death NOT BEFORE. They both are still living and are very healthy except for the dementia. My uncle is going to be charged a Capitol Gains tax & the cost of the realtor & closing cost. My sister has also spent close to $12,000 in upkeep and plumbing work & taxes on the house since signing their names to the piece of paper.
My sister emailed me and said the trust gifted my mom the house on the day they signed the paper therefore the money from the sale should go to our mom. This is wrong because my uncle was presented by the attorney that all this would take place
after their death. It was deceit on my sister & the attorney.
This is all done out of hatred & disdained towards me they do not want me to inherit
any of it. I was the closest with my aunt & uncle through the years visiting them often
until I was in a serious car accident. I thought that my aunt & uncle were out traveling
as that is what they liked to do. They were free birds as they had no children. I myself
should have known something was wrong after not receiving a Christmas card w/ a sizeable monetary gift in it. I was the only one who would receive this every Christmas. The Trustee (sister) is my moms favorite always has been my whole life.
My mom is her little puppet and will go along with whatever my sister wants. I have let my sister & mom know how I feel that they duped my aunt & uncle. The sister is also named Executor of their Will. The Will is written up in the same manner as the
Schedule Of Beneficiaries as the Trust was written. I’m now waiting to hear that she does some misdeeds with the Will as well. I in a million years would have not thought
that my sister and my mom would be so deceitful I trusted them both. My aunt & uncle would disown them if they were in their right state of minds. It is Financial Elder Abuse in my book. I had no problems if my mom inherited everything as long as my aunt & uncle’s wishes were followed. My mom has not seen and barely talked to
my aunt in almost 30 years. She actually bad mouthed my aunt & uncle to me on several different occasions. If my aunt had known what my mom thought about her &
my uncle they would not have named her a beneficiary at all. I should have told them
everything but feel as though it would have hurt my aunt feelings.
The bottom line is make sure that the Attorney explains everything word to word to your love one before letting them sign any paperwork otherwise they could lose their
assets & properties. I feel like such a fool for trusting my mom & sister. I remember my
uncle turning to me after signing his name and saying geez I sure hope that I didn’t just give my house away. I assured him that he didn’t everything was contingent on their deaths and I would never let that happen.
The attorney who wrote this so call Trust up was fired by my sister about a year ago.
The new attorney has been brainwashed by my sister saying that I am no good and only after their money. It is not the truth because I had/ have no say in anything legal
concerning them. My aunt & uncle were very good to me over the years and I was/am their only advocate it’s my mom & sister who is after their assets and it is proven by
stealing their house from underneath them. So very sad!
My mother was a strong and independent woman and in good health in January of 2014. Then my sister after having a superficial relationship with our mother for almost 20 yrs. Showed up and took over her life. She drugged her with Ambient and convienced her to move to a Senior Apt complex where she lived. I was forbidden to see my mother. My sister claimed that I upset her when I spoke to her. Funny. Since I havent spoken to my Mother in 10 months. Her health steadily deteriorated over the next year without medical attention. She fell twice in her Apt. and then my sister put her in a Hospice Home. When I was finally able to visit my mother in the hospital in June 2015 , i could not believe my eyes. She was drugged so heavily and was unable to chew her food. When she was admitted to the Hospice House she complained of neglect. Then as I visited quite frequently, she seemed to be alot clearer of her surroundings and her overall condition. She asked my oldest boy to write down her requests and wanted the list send to my sister. Some of the things requested were 1) a warm blanket instead of a moving blanket. 2) her own phone so she could talk to people who called herself (she was tired of everyone telling her that there was no need to worry, everything was taken care of ) 3) she wanted to know where her purse was and wanted some cash money 4) she wanted a new doctor, a massage therapist. 5) she wanted to be moved to convalescent home. My sister didnt provide any of the requested items. On August 21st, 2015, I tried to RESCUE MY MOTHER, AFTER SHE STATED THAT THEY WERE ALL TRYING TO KILL HER. MY Sister falsified a California Health Care Directive that she gave to the police. The police officer said that the only reason I wasn’t going to jail was because he said the ink was still wet on the CHCD . But my sister was able to convince the police to return my mother to her possession and to the Hospice Home. My mother told the police she didnt want to be removed from my care. That she had made a mistake giving my sister Power of Attorney. But the police said my mother had “NO RIGHTS” and she had to do what my sister said. My sister got a restraining order against me. My mother died two months later while under my sisters care. Im assuming at my sisters house. I still dont know exactly how she died. My sister arranged a 30 minute viewing of my mother. Which actually was a 30 minute I.D.ing of her body. Then had her embalmed and 4months later cremated then secretly flew my mothers ashes to Colorafo To be buried with her mother. I tried to coordinate a service for my mother including all of our relatives in Colorado with my mothers sister but my sister has everyone in a hypnotic state and my aunt completely ignored my requests to be there when my mom was buried or for any service of any kind. Everything my sister did – All of her actions were directed to me. She has a physopathic personality. My sister had no love for our Mother and no remorse when she did. It was obvious in the way she handled her death. I strongly feel that she killed our mother. And now she has taken control of our mothers estate. She should be charged with elderly abuse and fraud. Who is her next victim. “HER HUSBAND” that just retired with a healthy pension plan. God I hope not.
I applaud Kerri for her efforts on behalf of those of us who have been denied the opportunity to visit ailing parents in the end stages of their lives.
After reading the March 16, 2016 LA Times article about Kerri’s and Catherine Falk’s foundations, I was moved to tell my brief story.
I, too, was forbidden access to my dying Mother’s bedside before she succumbed to stomach cancer in 1993. Although we had a long-term strained relationship, I desperately wanted to make peace with my Mother before she passed. It is, after all, never too late to forgive someone. My efforts were repeatedly blocked by a sister who told an uncle attempting to intercede on my behalf that she would “Make your life difficult for you” if I tried to visit my Mother.
I was ultimately told of my Mother’s death two weeks after her passing. To this day, some 23 years later, I have not been informed of when and where my Mother was buried. No family member should ever be allowed to block the visitation rights of someone attempting to see a parent who is in their final days of life.
Thank you, Kerri, for your noble efforts. Please continue the good fight!
I read the LA Times “Dad, dying” on 3/16/16 and researched the Kasem Care website. I have 4 close relatives that have been victimized with POA’s.
1-Father in law had living trust. Ten days after the death of his 3rd wife – his 3 stepdaughters took him to an attorney and convinced him to change the trust with a POA. The assets from his estate were re-allocated and my husband (his only child) was effectively “disinherited.” Due to my father-in-laws peculiar behavior, we asked to see a copy of the trust. He finally provided my husband with a copy. It was taken to an estate planning attorney who advised us that the POA gave all the assets and health care directives to his step daughters. The attorney advised the only recourse was a court battle. When my father-in-law was asked about the POA – he insisted it was not his signature (it was notarized by the attorney setting up the POA). He also claimed that the step sisters had promised to divide the property fairly with my husband. My father in-law was 84 years old and had dementia. The step daughters moved into his home – although promising to provide him care (meals & cleaning), it was never done. My father-in-law became depressed and hospice was called.
My husband was called too. The stepsisters wanted him present to conduct the death watch; they did not want that responsibility (they were adults when he married their mother). My husband complied and comforted his father who died shortly afterwards. The funeral was planned 2 days later and my husband was not advised or invited.
A court case ensued and $30k later, the step sisters prevailed. The POA was upheld by the Probate judge – the trust was superseded by a POA randomly drawn up by step relatives without his blood relative’s knowledge or consent.
I mistakenly shared this situation with my step-mother – you guessed it!!!!
2-Casey Kasem situation repeated, all done with a POA. My stepmother finally inherited from her mother and decided to travel the world. She put my father in a facility. I offered to take my Dad into our home – he had pre-Alzheimers. His only issue was forgetfulness – he was fully functional and had lived with us for 10 years already. My stepmother would not allow it and ceased communication with me except to reprimand me by email. She banned me from the facility and stated I could only have monitored visits in a common area. He could not leave the facility with me to take him to lunch. There was no communication with me from then on. The staff approached me and stated her demands were illegal but they had no choice – she controlled the $$. My father was placed in a Florida facility; my stepmother did provide me with a copy of the comprehensive POA. I am in CA; I did sneak visits to him but it became very expensive and cumbersome. We talked on the phone daily for several years. In the last conversation he insisted I come see him – he was adamant. I did not have the time or resources to do same. Two days later I was notified by email that he was being hospitalized with pneumonia. He died 2 weeks later at the age of 86, a very confused and lonely man. I was advised the funeral and burial were “private”. All this again done with a POA; no prior notification to his living relatives (the stepmother never raised us). I do understand that a spouse has precedence over children. I did not pursue this legally – too expensive and I learned my lesson with POA’s and Probate Court.
3-My brother is brain damaged from a car accident 40 years ago. He was living independently for 30 years. I filed a lawsuit and obtained a settlement for him which was placed in an irrevocable trust. My parents, along with my family, assisted my brother. Subsequently, my mother, who developed dementia was exploited by my absentee sister who……you guessed it!!! Got a POA on my mother AND my brother. She took a page out of my stepmother’s playbook (and had direct assistance and advice from her). My mother “disinherited me” at my sister’s encouragement. My sister and I have not had a conversation (except by chance) for 10 years. She has terminated all contact with me.
At my father’s request, my mother and I reunited after 3 years. I regularly visited my demented mother at my grandfather’s home (she was indigent). My mother had a fatal heart attack with me and died in my arms. When the paramedics arrived – I could not tell them anything about my mother or her medications. All that info was withheld from me. My sister never provided a copy of the POA to me.
4-My brother was put in a facility by my sister shortly before my mother’s death. My mother requested I monitor his care as my sister was not responsible. I did so; I am the closest to my brother and raised him from 3 years old to adulthood. We are less than 1 ½ years apart. Another saga began.
He was moved to various facilities – due to my brother’s brain damage. He was always mad and frustrated. My brother continually asked where his money was and disclosed to anyone that listened that my sister “stole” his $$. He was always dismissed or ignored. I became more involved in his care (or lack of care). He was in So. CA facilities so I could monitor him on a weekly basis. What I saw and experienced was concerning. When I would talk to the Administrators, they advised me I had no rights and could not request info regarding his care or prognosis – there was a POA on him. Both my brother and I requested a copy but one was never provided. Long story short – he had pneumonia & was moved to another facility but when I called because I had not heard from him (we talked at least twice a day), the staff stated he was there and doing fine. None of this was true. I watched my bother dissinegrate first hand. I called everyone; begged everyone for assistance. I was stonewalled at every turn – that POA!!! I even had my brother rescind the POA. No one listened or cared. I was advised to report this to the police (right!!); all his $$ disappeared. After the death of our father, he inherited $$ which went through probate so I had an idea of what he had in assets – and – it was a matter of public record.
As a last resort, I sent a registered letter to my sister’s husband at his place of employment and was provided with a copy of the POA. It had been established 3 years prior and to my shock and surprise – I was listed as the alternate POA for his health care. There was no alternate on his financial POA; just my sister as primary. I guess being the alternate is meaningless; the facility still refused to share any info with me (at my sister’s request) – meanwhile, my brother developed a bed sore and deteriorated further.
Just over a year ago, he was taken out the facility by my sister and moved to another state – Arizona. I made formal complaints with all the CA investigative agencies. The results were all “unfounded” – that POA is gospel. Again, a POA was drawn up without notification to the blood relatives by one conniving relative who obtained access to his health care decisions and $$. There is simply no enforceable recourse (handling both health care directives and $$ without an audit is contradictory).
In Arizona, my brother was put on welfare. I advised anyone that would listen that he has assets!!! No one cares. I advised all the investigative agencies I could find but have to assume nothing was or will be done. I have never heard a disposition. My initial contact with investigators was contentious and that POA always prevails. I submitted a recension of the first POA but never heard back from the Arizona facility. All contact with my brother has been terminated once he went on welfare. The Administrator at the facility stated I was welcome to come and comfort him but would not be allowed access to a copy of the current POA or medical status per my sister.
My brother’s daughter (yes, he has a high functioning adult daughter but no seems to care about that either) and I will be visiting him next week. I have no expectations – we have no input and for all we know, he is deceased. All because of this POA nonsense.
I realize the POA is a convenient short cut for lawyers and a boon to their estate planning business. It needs to be monitored. The abuse is outrageous. I have experienced all this in the last 10 years. I cannot be the only one who has encountered this problem. I obtained 2 conservatorships on my grandparents (my mother was not capable of caring for her own parents) and witnessed firsthand the thoroughness of the Conservatorship procedure. All relatives are invited to the hearing and there is full disclosure.
I realize this is family dysfunction at its best but there is really no recourse – I have tried and am $30k poorer as a result. The POA abuse must be addressed, monitored, modified and ideally stopped.
Thanks for listening.
I am the oldest of 8 children. While our father was in the hospital dying last year the youngest of us, instead of helping with our father, decided to start keeping our grieving mother from us In fact she was at his house when she fell and became incompacitated three days before our father passed.He was able to keep us from seeing her for 2 months after that. We called adult protective, sold things we had to get a hearing and he still ended up as a health care proxy. He is ordered to let us know our mothers condition but doesnt. We still dont know her diagnosis or prognosis, just that she is getting worse in front of our eyes and cannot communicate with us. Her court appointed lawyer doesnt do anything and the judge doesnt enforce the order. He was also ordered twice to return her jewelry and other items he admitted to taking from her home but has yet do so. This is happening in Syracuse, NY. What are we told? Pay another lawyer and file again, costing us anywhere from 3 to 6 thousand dollars we dont have. I hope this law passed in NY soon before its too late for us too.