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I am and will always be a daddy girl, Even thou the years have been rough about 4 years ago me and my sister were called back to see our father who had gotten sick, not knowing if he was going to make it or not, It was in fact the first time we meet our new sister in-law, which charged me for the days that we were in there home, which we stayed at the hospital more but anyway, at that time I did not know she was charged me for it all ."the sister _in-law’, who had already inherited 80 acres out of the blue, which we didn’t know, but to make every thing worse her and my brother took all of our fathers land and money all of the land and has already been self deeded back to them, even the paperwork is forged, the issue we have is they have not let us see him or talk to him, they have isolated him from us , He "our brother has made up so many lies about us, he took us to court and we won and to this date he has not paid us a dime but he has ran us threw the mud, with all of his lies, when we have asked the local authority’s to help and all they say is our father is not our business, get a lawyer we have also contacted aps in that state and they say tat it is not their job to check on our father. It has been another year that I have not gotten to tell dad happy fathers day. our beloved mother has past away, there is so much more, when we were there with dad the doctor had said that dad had alizhimes and dementia, but yet here is all of tis signed paper and hi name is not right the dates are not right but ye no one is listening, my brother cashed in all of dad stocks and bonds he has cleaned him out there was no will y father always told us everything would be even steven, and me and my sister have tried everything to get information on our father and no one is telling us anything, we do not even know if he is still alive , When they took us to court thy claimed we were harassing them which was not even true we had written them a letter asking how was our father and they took us to court and we won, there was no harassing no threats nothing just a simple letter, an he ha made up false e-mails and claimed that they were from u s but none of that is true, He even had the nerve to walk those forged e-mails into a sheriffs office who thought that he should call and check on me, I said are u kidding me you should call in the fbi, but yet because w al live in different states no one will help ,so we are looking for answers on what we can do to find dad.
I live in California and my father and his 3rd wife, who he’s been married to for 40 years, live in Indiana.
Several years ago, this woman’s behavior began radically changing toward me. As my father’s short-term memory loss worsened, she started a campaign to shut me out of his life. The woman, I believe, has a mental illness because her behavior became very erratic and unpredictable. I could feel my father slipping away from me with each phone call I made to him — she would get on the phone and act very cold towards me.
When I visited them 3 years ago, she was antagonistic and unpleasant to be around. A couple of months after that, when I called my father, she was openly hostile, accusatory, extremely negative and wouldn’t let me talk to him. I knew she had won the war in possessing and controlling my father and manipulating me out of his life. Needless to say, it has been a long period of grief for me. I won’t be seeing or talking to my father again in this lifetime because of this woman’s craziness and hatefulness. I believe it was also her way of disinheriting me. I know my father would not want this, but he believes her, relies on her, and trusts her.
When I heard about Kerri’s painful situation with her father and his horrible and evil wife, I could totally relate. The same is happening with me.
Thank you, Kerri, for your efforts – it takes a lot of courage to turn a broken, angry heart into a worthwhile cause.
Blessings to all of you who are going through such heart-wrenching experiences with your loved ones. We all have to find some place in ourselves to put the pain and then move forward.
My 93 year old mother dying of cancer had a caretaker helping her, since I work full time. She also had nurses from hospice coming in. The caretaker let her get terrible bed sores that were very deep. Another caretaker at the same time wrote checks from my mothers check book and stole $20,000. She took all my mothers jewelry and many of her prized possessions. They would leave my mother alone in the house and they would go off somewhere. I came to see my mother one day and found this out.
I fired the caretakers and had the thief arrested. They kept her in jail for 30 days and she has 5 years to pay back $315 a month. That is not justice. My mother died shortly after this happened. She was heartbroken to think the caretaker she “trusted” would do such a thing to her. My mother also had dementia the last few months of her life. When I went through my mothers closet, I found bloody clothes thrown under her pile of clothes. The “caretakers” also left all the dirty pots and dishes in the microwave so I wouldn’t see them. They broke her good china and hid it. My mother had been bedridden for quite some time. She was also blind from macular degeneration.
I reported them to the State and found out they weren’t even licensed to give medical care. They were just house sitters whose agency lied. The agency was told NOT to ever advertise “medical care” since they weren’t licensed. We only got these caretakers since Hospice knew of them and approved of them. I told hospice what happened and never heard back.
This was a very painful experience for me, an only child, to go through. The thief was charged with elder abuse, BUT the judge did NOT ban her from ever working with the elderly again. I worry that she will do this to someone else.
My story is a series of systems and their failures starting with a bankrupt town, and therefore a system that is not in place to assist. I grew up at my Grandparents home in San Bernardino, CA. I lived there on and off as a teen- my grandfather died when I was 21- I have a tattoo of Grandma and Grandpa on my entire back- taken from their wedding day. I am an honorably discharge veteran of 7 years of military service- I had to give Grandma the flag off my Grandpa’s casket……much harder than deployment during Operation Iraqi Freedom. My Grandmother in herself is unique- she is Japanese and came to the US (after 6 weeks of dating then marriage) shortly after WW2. Yes the very people we hated as a country (think Pearl Harbor) came here without a word of English to have her children and raise them in a ‘better place’. (She comically jokes that not knowing English saved her from hearing a lot of the racism she knew was spoken to her). So, Grandma a cute Japanese woman who didn’t handle paying bills or naming her children even (the old days) was living alone for a few years on and off. Her only daughter- my Aunt moved in. My Aunt does not work and has never worked for longer than 2 years for any given job. But, she was caring for Grandma. I too moved in with Grandma for awhile again in my 30’s(when I relocated back to California). Then having a family, establishing my career in California and buying my own home lead me to a few busy years. (I am a Registered Nurse (BSN)cum laude)
Last October I went to get Grandma for the pumpkin patch- my family often includes her in holidays etc. I was shocked at how much my Grandma declined, thin, lethargic, weak, frail. I have worked with my Uncle (established DPOA for my Grandpa’s affairs and last will) for the past year to attempt to gain financial control of my Grandma’s assets (almost nothing). We have discovered the roof is leaking, the electrical and plumbing are unsafe…..the list goes on and on. My Aunt has been supporting herself, her husband, their drug habits and not caring for my Grandmother’s property at all. Grandma gets a mere $2600- and her home is paid off. Aunt- moved in homeless mother with a small baby, signed up for solar panels- using my dead Grandfather’s signature, threatened me in my home- I have a restraining order against her.
Now- we await a hearing almost a year later, while my Aunt has completely isolated my Grandma. She locks her in her home and has left her alone for the weekend. We (my Uncle and I) call APS, the police department, any agency we feel can assist us- the problem is: Grandma lives in San Bernardino- a town that is bankrupt and littered with crime- so elder abuse is the least important piece of the town it seems. I once called the police to make a report for a scheduled visit I had with my Grandma- who was taken out of town- out of the country actually to Mexico. The police said to wait for an officer to make my report. This call was placed at 1030am and the police called me back at 230am the following day to make my report.
It is a system of failures in place where isolation, neglect and abuse is encouraged because no one wants to do their job with integrity or pride. As a mandated reporter I feel like we have failed my Grandma and now we cannot see her for her last few years/months of life- due to the isolation my Aunt puts her in. I fear like the Kasem family that she may pass or have illness that her family will not be part of because her own daughter would rather support herself and her needs than care for her elderly mother.
Just curious if anyone could give me direction on where to get justice for my two small children. I have no money to modify custody order.
My case was domestic violence, when I broke it off with my abuser because he began abusing our 2 year old son too. His mother and him fought me for custody and was granted to them. He had a violent history, restraining orders is how all his relationships end. He alienates the children against me terribly. He will tell them that they get to come to my house and then of course it’s not a scheduled visit, then the our children get upset with me because I didn’t show up. I NEVER talk badly of their father. I took my child in the middle class very seriously.
He is truly abusing these children, mental and physical, DHS has done several investigations of allegations made towards their father. He has a good pitiful story but law enforcement and DHS believe me to be the one who lies to get him in trouble. I don’t call DHS because it’s a lost cause. Officers recently observed our daughter refusing to get out of my vehicle to go back with her father. She was screaming, banging her head on my window and I have video of me taking her out of my home and placing her in my vehicle to go meet her father. She said she didn’t want to go to her father’s because it is boring. Her actions were very extreme for a child experiencing boredom, in my opinion.
I am not brainwashing these children, I have to bring justice to these two innocent victims, Their father often with holds my visitaions for months at a time, never let’s me have them on holidays. I can’t be a part of my son’s education because he has extreme anxiety when I am at his school, he’s afraid his dad will find out. I used to ask how school was going, I no longer do so because he gets extremely angry and tells me I DON’T GO TO SCHOOL.!! The last time I went to the school dad did see me and he switched his school, when I found out where that was he switched him back to the first school.
I have documentation, pictures, videos my story is true, nothing dramatized on my part.
Since it was domestic violence he shouldn’t of been allowed to fight me for custody, my opinion. If I dated someone today that had a violent record and I left my children with him alone and he injured them, I would be charged right along with him. Rightfully so, but my ex can have custody of his children. This is extremely upsetting to me and can’t happen to any other children in this world. The judge in our case gave my abuser the biggest weapon ever to use on me,,,MY CHILDREN
I need direction on where to turn to show someone the DHS reports and the errors in them. I always ask for family counseling to be mandatory when DHS talks to me because of the games that are played, but my ex always refuses, the last report said he was concerned that with his district court plans to have my rights terminated, that counseling on coparenting would hurt his case. REALLY for one I have done nothing to have my rights terminated. I have no record. Haven’t been in trouble with the law. He is a convicted felon.
I just don’t know where to turn. I want to take him to court and have custody modified but I have no money to start the process.
After I bring justice to these two helpless children, I want to go further and make sure a bill passes child custody can’t be given to the abuser, so easily at least.
I’m begging any knowledge anyone may have to lead me in the right direction would be very greatly appreciated by this heart broken family.
I had been taking care of my father, with Alzheimer’s for over five years, and not one person in my family wanted to help me with him. They would only call for money. Then, he fell in the kitchen and broke his hip. While in the recovery center, one sister who hadn’t seen him in over three years, even though she lived across the freeway, tried to get POA… then the other sister drove here from Texas, and using her old POA from a trip that he had to the hospital years ago, she got him released from the hospital and carried him into a bank with her daughter, cleaned it out and drove away with him back to Texas. She cashed in his insurance policies, and got conservatorship over him, getting all of his four thousand dollars in pension and SSI. My POA wasn’t valid due to it not being notarized because of my expired drivers license. Also, I didn’t feel the need to worry because this sister hadn’t seen any of us in over seven years and was faking terminal illness in Texas to get money, even though she was healthy and fine. To get the point, I haven’t heard my fathers voice or seen him in two years. I did make sure that my sister put him in a nursing home, by calling adult protective services, but she put him in one where she gets to decide who gets to see and talk to him. Every time I’ve called, they won’t allow me to talk to my own father. If he knew what was going on, and was lucid, he was be livid and devastated. He never trusted my sister and has told me and others many times that he loved her because she was his daughter but didn’t like her as a person and didn’t trust her. I can’t afford a lawyer, and I know if tried to see him, they would not allow me to. My other family members can’t talk to him either and we are all frustrated. My sister did this out of pure greed, that’s all. She doesn’t care about him or his well being and wouldn’t have put him in danger after surgery or with his disease by driving him cross the country from Cali to Texas if she did. I don’t know what to do. It should be illegal for the nursing home not to allow his own family to talk to him or see him. I know that he doesn’t have that much longer to live and I would love to hear his voice and see his face again before he does. I’m heartbroken and I don’t know what to do. Would appreciate any advice or help from anyone, anywhere at this time. Thank you for reading my story. xxooo
Please help me see my mom. The man she married is keeping me away for spite. I am her daughter and best friend. She has dementia and he confided her in a nursing home against my wishes. As you know, I have no rights as a child. This is horrendous. I have been grieving for 2 years. I have spent thousands of dollars to see my mom. I cannot do that anymore. I hurt every day as the precious time with her passes.
Following the death of my father, my grandchildren and I were no longer allowed to visit my Mother. Se was often left alone in a remote rural area with a moderate to severe case of dementia as diagnosed by the top Alzheimer researcher in Central Illinois. She was allowed to drive for 2 years endangering herself and the public. My brothers would get very angry when I would bring up removing her vehicle. Thankfully they did get a caregiver for her after a couple hospitalizations from dehydration and weight loss. Other suggestions were not taken seriously when the caregiver continued to get headaches from the smell in the house. Hicks Gas confirmed that sewer gas was coming from pipes in the basement. Nothing was done about the sewer situation until doctors recommended an inspection of the home. At that point I was blamed and told by the brother living there to never call there again. He lived with my Mother and brainwashed her. I know she use to love me and her great grandchildren. The dementia and years of that bad smell in the house, I have no doubt affected her brain and heart. Being cut off from my Mother and not being able to keep her connected to her great grandchildren was a life experience that cut through my soul. The other brother refused to intervene and has shunned us as well. I was accused of trying to destroy his career. After my Mother broke her hip, she went to live at a nursing home in rural Illinois where we are all able to visit her. The staff are all wonderful and take great care of my Mother in their memory unit. I am so thankful to be able to see my Mother and step back into her past where she “lives”. This movement by the Kasem Foundation is a dream come true as I know many people are in this same predicament. Thank you for caring about those who are being cut off from their loved ones.
My story is one that ended with my dad passing away may 18th 2014 the same day my oldest graduated highschool ….. 3;33 pm. He was married to my mom for 35 years .He retired from illinios schools .Worked in Wisconsin ,met his future wife who is a murderer ,not with a weapon ,but just as cold .Yes ! He was married to 2 women . But , meeting this " other," women cost him his life .She never let him talk or see us kids .We all had his grandkids who never ," knew " him She never gave him proper care , we didn’t have the money to fight her and no lawyers would help us .20 years of hell ended when she called me saying he had " pneumonia " to come up .This was surely the worst 5 days of my life …. I went up there to see my dad struggling to breathe unable to speak " dying " …Went to graduation to then come back with my kids to meet this man I adore ! ….He passed away before I could ! he is know buried in Wisconsin 6 hours away from his family .She knew he wanted to come home he Told her for years he wanted to come home ,Those were the days she would beat him ,drug him , threatened his kids would pay with there lives.So since his death I’ve tried numerous lawyers to seek justice ,no help he lays in the ground on an Indian burial site .Which is not him he is German .I will never forgive myself for this he lays alone in darkness no one there cares !!!!
I want to share a tragic true life store with the hope it will help change the laws with regards to aging and ill parents.
My story takes place in California and starts with a health care worker caring for my mother-in-law in her own home along with my father-in-law both 88 years old, after the passing of my Mother-in-Law this " nurse" age 48, continued to keep my Father-in-law company and care for him and coerced him to marry her and alienate the family from him. He has bought and paid cash for a home for her, they never lived together. We have talked to attorneys and there is really nothing the family can do, she has taken advantage of him emotionally and financially, made him lie to his family and kept his family from seeing him. We don’t even know the extent of the abuse he has suffered. There are 4 adult children that are all older then their “stepmother” in fact she is the same age as his Grand daughter. The family has no rights! Thank you!
While my grandmother was dying I was prevented from seeing her and telling her goodbye. My mother kept me away due to my grandmother’s wealth. She stated that I just wanted access to my grandmothers house so I could take inventory of all of her possessions for my lawyer. I never had a lawyer and I have not received any funds or properties of my grandmothers after her passing. It still hurts my heart to this day that I was kept from my grandmother in her final days and hours. I never got to hold her hand, thank her for loving me and being there for me, assure her that we would all be alright or to tell her goodbye. All I wanted was the opportunity to do these things. It just kills me to think that she wondered where I was and why did I not love her enough to come see her. People don’t understand how their greed and ugliness affect so many people when they keep loved ones from each other.
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Google-Benjamin Alfano (5 stories) by Steve Duin from the Oregonian. (Oregon) he was my father. I fought desperately for him-well all lost-and still continue to lose.
Probate and Elder Abuse in Hawaii with our father, a lawyer himself and two term Mayor. For more on our story you can go to our web site http://www.imokproductions.com/home Dad was an attorney and had his affairs in order, naming myself as the Executor and Trustee of his Estate. He and his wife who was from Palau, he had indicated a year before his death, were not getting along and he had concerns for his safety and financial situation. Even going so far as to telling those close to him that he would never travel back to Palau (a US Trust Territory) Medical Forensics proved he was 100% incapacitated at the time his 5th wife and her attorney had him sign documents handing everything over to her and her daughter who lived in Palau. also the attorney who we allege manipulated the situation from Atascadero, California, has been involved with several other corruption situations. Medical Forensics proved he was 100% incapacitated at the time his 5th wife and her attorney had him sign documents handing everything over to her and her daughter who lived in Palau. He had indicated a year before his death that he feared his wife was removing money and sending it to her daughter in Palau, a US Trust Territory. He also indicated to several others that he would never travel to Palau as he had been beaten up in 2000 while his wife and her daughter just stood by watching him and following him to a local hospital in Belau/Palau. Also the attorney, Robert Jones, who we allege manipulated the situation from Atascadero, California, has been involved with several other corruption situations including the manipulation of investors with a man named Kelly Gearhart (you can google that name) as well as an Indian Casino project called Pe Ji Ho Ta. coincidentally there was $646,000 cashed out from my father’s investments just months after he died and before any estate litigation was opened in California. Turns out that figure was the exact amount for a partner buy in to the casino. We were told the FBI and IRS are investigating the case however we have yet to hear of anything or see any results. Go to our web site and you will see how our case progressed and learn about the Evidentiary hearing after the case was abruptly moved to Hawaii during which time the courts would not allow any of our Medical and Document Forensic evidence or the Forged documents to be admitted during the hearing. And we were the ones who asked for the hearing. In the end the Judge and our stepmother’s high priced attorneys asked to have me removed as a Beneficiary since I contested the Trust. If you knew that your father’s trust had been taken advantage of, wouldn’t you. Sorry I will never see any money, however, the satisfaction is knowing all the “players” involved will never do this again to anyone else, thanks to the publicity this case has generated. The IRS became involved because the Bank of Hawaii and the accountants knew about the forged 1st Amendment (there were actually two) and mentioned them in a billing from the attorneys, as well as taking 4 years to file tax returns, lying on tax returns as far as the value of the estate to keep it under $3 million in an effort to not tax the estate. Also the case originated in California and the attorney in Atascadero as soon as our stepmother became a citizen of USA had it moved to Hawaii, then the Bank of Hawaii dismissed themselves as co-trustee once they realized we were not backing down and several trips to Hawaii for myself would happen. I’m sure they hadn’t counted on my tenacity.
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ON OR ABOUT JANUARY 2, 2005, I RECEIVED A PHONE CALL FROM MY 2 GOOD ARKANSAS SISTERS, IN TEARS, TELLING ME MY 82-YEAR OLD MOTHER (WWII VETERAN) – ON HOME HOSPICE – AND 82-YEAR OLD FATHER (WWII & COLD WAR VETERAN) WERE INITIALLY BEING CONTROLLED BY OUR OTHER 2 BAD SISTERS AND A CONTROLLING BAD OLDER BROTHER. AS THE YOUNGEST OF 8 CHILDREN, I QUICKLY FLEW TO ARKANSAS FROM CALIFORNIA TO SEE WHAT WAS GOING ON, AS MY 2 GOOD SISTERS ALSO STATED ONE OF MY BAD SISTERS WAS REPEATEDLY OVERDOSING OUR MOTHER ON MORPHINE, WITH THE 2ND BAD SISTER ALLOWING SUCH AS AN ALLEGED ASSIGNED MEDICAL PROXY. WITHIN THE FEW DAYS AFTER MY ARRIVAL, INDEED, MY MOTHER WAS BEING OVERDOSED BY MY OLDEST/BAD SISTER, WHO I REPEATEDLY PLED FOR HER TO TELL ME WHO WAS IN CONTROL, AND SHE REFUSED TO DO SO. AS A RESULT, SHE WENT INTO RAGES OF YELLING SCREAMING AND CURSING AT ME IN FRONT OF BOTH OF OUR AILING PARENTS. I ALSO DISCOVERED THAT SAME BAD SISTER WAS UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ILLEGAL NARCOTICS, WHILE OVERDOSING OUR MOTHER AND CONTROLLING OUR FATHER, WHO HAD BEEN DIAGNOSED BY THE VA WITH VASCULAR DEMENTIA.
I ALSO FOUND THE CAREGIVER’S LOG-BOOK NEXT TO MY MOTHER’S HOME HOSPICE BEDSIDE, DISPLAYING THE VOLUMES OF MORPHINE DOSAGES BEING GIVEN TO MY MOTHER ON THE LEFT PAGE, AND ON THE RIGHT PAGE WAS MY BAD SISTERS FINANCIAL FIGURES OF WHOM SHE OWED LARGE SUMS OF MONEY TO, AND HOW SHE WAS PLANNING TO SOON PAY THEM OFF. UNBEKNOWNST TO MY 2 GOOD SISTERS AND I, AT THE TIME THERE WERE HIGH-YIELD LIFE INSURANCE POLICIES ON BOTH OUR PARENTS. FOR OVER THE PRIOR 2 DECADES, MY 2 GOOD SISTERS AND I WERE THE ONES WHO TOOK CARE OF OUR PARENTS, ESPECIALLY MY 2 SISTERS – WITH MY TRIPS FROM CALIFORNIA, SOMETIMES 4 TIMES PER YEAR AT ABOUT 2 WEEKS EACH TRIP – TO ASSIST THEM, BECAUSE WE LOVED OUR PARENTS AND WANTED TO SERVE THEIR BEST INTERESTS. BUT WHEN THE INHERITANCE MONEY STARTED COMING IN, INITIALLY OUR 2 BAD SISTERS AND 2 BAD BROTHERS BEGAN TO GRADUALLY JOCKEY FOR POSITION, IN APPARENT COLLUSION, TO SEIZE CONTROL OF OUR PARENTSAND THEIR ASSETS – A PERIOD OF ABOUT 8 YEARS LEADING UP TO JANUARY 4, 2005, WHEN I WAS LITERALLY PUSHED OUT OF MY PARENT’S HOME BY ONE OF THE BAD SISTERS. FROM THAT POINT FORWARD, MY BAD SIBLINGS THEN SET FORTH A CAMPAIGN TO KEEP MY 2 GOOD SISTERS, THEIR CHILDREN, AND I FROM OUR PARENTS, IN THEIR 11TH HOUR OF LIFE.
BASED ON THESE FACTS, I PLED TO THE ARKANSAS VA TO SEIZE MEDICAL CONTROL OF OUR MOTHER’S BEST INTERESTS, BUT WAS MET WITH SMALL TOWN ADVERSITY, DUE TO A VA SOCIAL WORKER BEING A FRIEND WITH ONE OF MY BAD SISTERS, THE ALLEGED MEDICAL PROXY AND HER ADDITIONAL QUESTIONABLE PAPERWORK WAS ENOUGH FOR THAT SOCIAL WORKER TO SUPPORT MY BAD SISTER/ALLEGED MEDICAL PROXY IN ACKNOWLEDGING HER AS A FIDUCIARY, REGARDLESS OF THE ABUSE I REPORTED TO THE VA.
AS A LICENSED CALIFORNIA PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR WITH THEN 15 YEARS OF EXPERIENCE, MORE RECENTLY WORKING ON ELDER ABUSE CASES, MY ADVERSE SIBLINGS GREW INCREDIBLY ANGRY WITH MY PRESENCE AT OUR PARENTS HOME, AND JUST AFTER MY MOTHER DIED ON FEBRUARY 11, 2005 IN VA HOSPITAL CARE, MY BAD SIBLINGS HIRED A HIGHLY QUESTIONABLE CAREGIVER COMPANY TO ALLEGEDLY TAKE CARE OF OUR FATHER AT HIS HOME, THE CAREGIVER COMPANY OWNER, A CHURCH FRIEND OF MY BAD SISTER/ALLEGED MEDICAL PROXY, ASSISTED MY ADVERSE SIBLINGS IN KEEPING MY 2 GOOD SISTERS, THEIR CHILDREN, AND I FROM SEEING AND/OR TALKING BY PHONE TO OUR FATHER FOR A YEAR AND A HALF. THIS, AFTER MY EARLY 2006 DISCOVERY OF APPARENT FAMILY TRUST EMBEZZLEMENT ON THEIR BEHALF, AND LEARNED OF THE CAREGIVER’S CRIMINAL FELONY PAST, WHEREBY SHE EMBEZZLED FUNDS FROM AN ELDERLY NORTH LITTLE ROCK COUPLE.
OF ALL OF HIS 4 SONS, MY FATHER AND I SEEMED THE CLOSEST, AND I WAS HEARTBROKEN TO SEE MY ELDEST BROTHER – WHO HAD DISOWNED OUR PARENTS FOR NEARLY 8 YEARS – UNTIL THE INHERITANCE MONEY STARTED COMING IN – WHEN HE MANIPULATED OUR FATHER INTO MAKING HIM A SUCCESSOR TRUSTEE. HE HAD, AFTER-ALL SERVED A MAJOR AERONATICS COMPANY AS A CAREER CFO, WITH SOME QUESTIONABLE SALES OF ARMED AIRCRAFT TO THE MIDDLE-EAST. IT WOULD HAVE BEEN FAR BETTER FOR DAD TO HAVE HIRED AN INDEPENDENT TRUSTEE, THAN TO HAVE THAT BROTHER AS ONE. HE WAS A PRODIGAL SON, BUT DID NOT RETURN HOME ON HUMBLE TERMS, BY ANY MEANS. MY OTHER BAD BROTHER, A CAREER ILLEGAL DRUG DEALER AND USER, IN AND OUT OF JAIL FOR MOST OF HIS LIFE, APPARENTLY SAW OUR PARENTS ASSETS AS HIS TICKET OUT OF THE DARK-SIDE, AND BETWEEN 2004 AND 2005, WHEN DETAINED BY UNDERCOVER TASK FORCE AGENTS, TURNED STATES EVIDENCE TO SAVE HIS OWN ASS, AND ROLLED OVER ON HIS CO-DRUG PIPELINE ASSOCIATES FOR A GET OUT OF JAIL FREE CARD. ONE OF HIS ASSOCIATES WAS AN ARKANSAS CHIEF OF POLICE, WHO BY 2006 WAS SERVING A LONG PRISON SENTENCE, WITH TIES TO PUBLIC CORRUPTION.
BUT BACK TO 2005; I FLEW BACK TO ARKANSAS ON OR ABOUT FEBRUARY 2, 2005, WHEN AGAIN, A CAREGIVER EMPLOYEE TOLD ME AND MY 2 GOOD SISTERS THAT OUR ADVERSE SIBLINGS IN CONTROL OF OUR PARENTS WERE STEALING THEIR ASSETS. MY 2 GOOD SISTERS AND I REALLY DIDN’T CARE ABOUT THE MONEY OF STUFF; WE JUST WANTED OUR PARENTS’ BEST INTERESTS MAINTAINED, AND GIVEN THE HISTORY OF THE ADVERSE SIBLINGS MEDICALLY SUPERVISING AND OVERDOSING OUR MOTHER ON MORPHINE THE YEAR BEFORE, I SOON LEARNED THAT THOSE 2 HIGH YIELD LIFE INSURANCE POLICIES HAD, IN FACT, BEEN CASHED OUT BY “SOMEONE” JUST MONTHS PRIOR TO MY MOTHERS FEBRUARY 11, 2005 DEATH. THE RECORDS WERE DESTROYED AFTER THE FUNERAL HOME RESPONSIBLE FOR MAINTAINING THE POLICY RECORDS WERE FOUND TO BE FRIENDS WITH MY ELDEST BAD BROTHER.
IT WAS ALL A CLEAR CUT CASE OF ELDER ABUSE, AND AS I PLED WITH THE ARKANSAS PULASKI COUNTY SHERIFF, HIMSELF, AND HIS UNDERSHERIFF CAPTAIN TO ALLOW MY 2 GOOD SISTERS AND I TO FILE A CRIMINAL REFERRAL AGAINST OUR ADVERSE SIBLINGS AND THE HIGHLY QUESTIONABLE CAREGIVER COMPANY (DARA BOOTH – ARKANSAS HOME CARE FOR SENIORS), THE SHERIFF REFUSED TO ALLOW ME TO FILE A COMPLAINT, YET CONTINUED TO WANT ANY AND ALL INFORMATION I HAD ON THE SITUATION. SO, I CONTINUED – IN TRUST – TO PROVIDE HIM AND HIS CAPTAIN SUCH INFORMATION. LITTLE DID I KNOW IN 2006 THAT THE CAPTAIN’S FORMER UNDERCOVER NARCOTICS LAW ENFORCEMENT PARTNER, AND STILL GOOD FRIEND, LONOKE POLICE CHIEF JAY CAMPBELL WAS MY OTHER BAD BROTHER’S ILLEGAL DRUG TRAFFICKING PARTNER. AS A RESULT OF MY FINDINGS, I WENT TO THE FBI-LITTLE ROCK, WHERE I WAS MET WITH OPEN ARMS AND THE LEAD SENIOR SPECIAL AGENT OVER THE PUBLIC CORRUPTION SQUAD TOLD ME, “MR. RUPERT, YOU HAVE THE OTHER HALF OF THE CASE WE’VE BEEN WORKING FOR THE PAST 3 YEARS.”
BY 2009, A FULL SCALE PUBLIC CORRUPTION PROBE WAS ANNOUNCED VIA THE LOCAL MEDIA, AND 3 NORTH LITTLE ROCK CITY COUNCILMEN/ ALDERMEN WERE ARRESTED AND SUBSEQUENTLY INDICTED FOR PUBLIC CORRUPTION RELATED CHARGES, ONE WITH LINKS TO AN ORGANIZED CRIME FAMILY, WHOSE EXPERTISE IS RUNNING INTERSTATE ILLEGAL DRUG TRAFFICKING. A SECOND OF THOSE ARRESTEES WAS MY FATHER’S ASSIGNED CRIMINAL CAREGIVER, DARA BOOTH, WHO IS NOW – IN 2015 – UNDER INVESTIGATION, AGAIN.
BY LATE 2007, MY ADVERSE SIBLINGS HAD LAWYERED UP AND HAD THEIR FAST-FOOD STYLE LAWYER DRAFT A RIDICULOUS LETTER – STILL IN MY POSSESSION, WITH A GREAT MANY OTHER DOCUMENTS – STATING I WAS NOT ALLOWED IN MY FATHER’S HOUSE. I TRIED TO CONTEST THE LETTER BY A COMPLAINT TO JUDICIAL AUTHORITIES, BUT SEEMINGLY, ALL OF THE LAWYERS KNEW EACH OTHER, INCLUDING THE FACT THAT THE LEAD JUDICIAL REVIEW BOARD ATTORNEY WAS THE WIFE OF THE VERY ATTORNEY WHO DRAFTED MY PARENTS LIVING TRUST, AT MY ELDEST BROTHERS LATE 1990S REQUEST, AND OTHER ATTORNEYS SEEMED WERE IN BED TOGETHER, SOME LITERALLY.
MY ADVERSE SIBLINGS AND THEIR CRIMINAL ENTERPRISE CAREGIVER COMPANY (WHO HIRED VIOLENT CONVICTED FELONS AND EX-CONS TO PLACE INTO THE HOMES OF VULNERABLE ELDERLY CLIENTS) HAD MADE A MARKET-PLACE OF MY FATHER’S HOUSE AND WERE LIVING LARGE OFF OF OUR PARENTS’ ASSETS. AND WHEN I PRESSED ON THOSE ISSUES THROUGH OUR LATE 2006 LAWYER, THE BAD SIBLINGS IN ARKANSAS FILED A VEXATIOUS APRIL 4, 2007 FALSE CRIMINAL COMPLAINT AGAINST ME (IN CALIFORNIA) WITH THEIR NEW LAW SCHOOL GRAD CLERK AND PERSONAL FRIEND AT THE PULASKI COUNTY PROSECUTOR’S OFFICE, WHO SUMMONED THE ASSISTANCE OF THEN PULASKI COUNTY SHERIFF’S DEPARTMENT AFOREMENTIONED CAPTAIN TO PRESS CHARGES. I WASN’T EVEN IN ARKANSAS AT THE TIME, AND HAD BEEN LIVING IN CALIFORNIA FOR YEARS WITH MY OWN FAMILY. MY ADVERSE SIBLINGS HAD BEEN HEAVILY INVOLVED IN VIOLATIONS OF TRUST AND ELDER ABUSE ON OUR PARENTS, AND THEY KNEW I WANTED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. AS A RESULT, THEY PROJECTED THEIR OWN FAULTS AND BAD DEEDS ON ME, AND THE JUDGE THREW OUT THEIR COMPLAINT – QUICKLY DISMISSED.
IN THEN END, BY JUNE 2011, OUR FIRST FILED 2007 AND SECOND FILED 2009 PULASKI COUNTY COURT CASE TO GET AN INDEPENDENT GUARDIAN ASSIGNED IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF OUR FATHER WAS HIJACKED BY OUR OWN 2009-2011 LAWYER, WHO WE WOULD LATER FIND OUT WAS A BUSINESS PARTNER WITH A DIRTY ATTORNEY/FORMER JUDGE WHO HAD BEEN INDICTED IN THE MID-1990S ON CRIMINAL CHARGES, WAS REMOVED FROM THE BENCH, WAS DISBARRED AS AN ARKANSAS ATTORNEY, AND WAS ARRESTED FOR TAKING ILLEGAL BRIBES IN EXCHANGE FOR REDUCED CRIMINAL SENTENCING OF ARRESTEES, IN THE FORM OF ILLEGAL DRUGS AND/OR CASH. THAT ATTORNEY REMAINS EXTREMELY CLOSE FRONDS WITH THE OPPOSING COUNSEL IN OUR THEN 2009-2011 GUARDIANSHIP CASE. MY DRUG DEALING BAD BROTHER WAS ONE OF THOSE CRIMINAL DEFENDANTS, SEVERAL TIMES, WHO WALKED OUT OF JAIL AFTER GOOD, HARD-WORKING COPS TRIED TO KEEP HIM OFF OF THE STREETS AND FROM ENDANGERING OTHERS.
TODAY, THAT SAME FORMER DISBARRED JUDGE IS NOW A PRACTICING LAWYER AGAIN, AND A PROSECUTOR IN A SMALL PREDOMINANTLY AFRICAN-AMERICAN SMALL TOWN, A LONG WAY FROM HIS LITTLE ROCK RESIDENCE. HE IS ALSO THE SAME ATTORNEY WHO – SEVERAL YEARS AGO – CALLED ON A PERSONAL FAVOR TO THEN ARKANSAS GOVERNOR MIKE HUCKABEE’S OFFICE TO SPRING LOSE FROM PRISON, VIOLENT CRIMINAL DEFENDANT MAURICE CLEMMONS, WHO AFTER BEING RELEASED IN NOVEMBER 2009, MOVED TO WASHINGTON STATE, WHERE HE AMBUSHED AND MURDERED 4 PARKLAND POLICE OFFICERS.
BETWEEN 2005 AND 2011, MY ADVERSE SIBLINGS AND/OR THEIR KNOWN ASSOCIATES HIRED AND/OR COMMISSIONED EX-CONS AND OTHERS HATEFUL FROM ARKANSAS AND CALIFORNIA TO STALK AND HARASS ME AND MY WIFE, OVER AND OVER AGAIN, AND AGAIN. BUT AFTER OUR JUNE 2011 END TO OUR FAILED COURT CASE, MY 2 GOOD SISTERS AND I STILL MAINTAIN THAT WE RECEIVED THE GREATEST INHERITANCE ANY PARENTS COULD EVER LEAVE TO THEIR LOVING, GRATEFUL CHILDREN; THE WONDERFUL MEMORIES WE HAD IN OUR LIFETIMES SPENT WITH THEM, ABSENT THE OTHERS, WHO – 3 OUT OF THOSE 4 – NEVER REALLY VISITED OUR PARENTS UNLESS THEY WANTED MONEY OR OTHER POSSESSION. THEY ARE ECONOMIC PREDATORS.
GOD ALWAYS SEEMS TO HAVE THE LAST WORD. MY FATHER DIED AT HIS COUNTRY HOME IN ARKANSAS WITH ALL OF HIS CHILDREN AT HIS SIDE AT JUST AFTER MIDNIGHT ON HIS 86TH BIRTHDAY, AND MY 2 GOOD SISTERS, THEIR CHILDREN, AND I WERE AT HIS SIDE PER THE ASSIGNED JUDGE’S COURT ORDERS. AT MY DAD’S ARKANSAS NATIONAL CEMETERY GRAVE-SITE, LIKE MY MOM’S SERVICE, WITH HIS CASKET DRAPED BY THE AMERICAN FLAG FOR HIS SERVICE DURING WWII AND THE COLD WAR, AFTER THE 21-GUN SALUTE AND AN UNEXPECTED FLYOVER, THE U.S. AIR FORCE HONOR GUARDSMAN ACCIDENTALLY HANDED ME MY FATHER’S FLAG, INSTEAD OF MY ELDEST BROTHER. I WAS UNAWARE THAT THE FLAG WAS TRADITIONALLY HANDED DOWN TO THE ELDEST CHILD.
I BELIEVE THAT INCIDENT WAS MY DAD TELLING ME TO MAKE ONE MORE EFFORT TOWARD PEACE WITH MY ELDEST BROTHER BY HANDING HIM THE FLAG. SO LATER, AT THE RECEPTION, I DID JUST THAT, AND HANDED HIM THE FLAG UNDER THOSE VERY TERMS. BUT TO THAT WAYWARD BROTHER, HE DIDN’T AND STILL DOESN’T SEE IT THAT WAY, AND NEITHER DID THE OTHER ADVERSE 5 SIBLINGS, WHO AIDED ONE-ANOTHER IN KEEPING MY 2 GOOD SISTERS, THEIR CHILDREN, AND ME FROM SEEING OUR FATHER FOR A YEAR AND A HALF.
THE BOTTOM LINE HERE IS THAT IF WE DON’T STAND UP TO THE BULLIES, AS MY MOTHER ALWAYS SAID, THEY WILL KEEP TRYING TO BREAK US DOWN.
I WILL CONTINUE SUPPORTING THIS FOUNDATION, AND WILL GLADLY OFFER MY SERVICES AT YOUR REQUESTS.
On January 2, 2005, I received a phone call from my 2 Good Arkansas sisters, in tears, telling me my 82-year old mother (WWII Veteran) – on Home Hospice – and 82-year old father (WWII & Cold War Veteran) were initially being controlled by our other 2 bad sisters and a controlling bad older brother. As the youngest of 8 children, I quickly flew to Arkansas from California to see what was going on, as my 2 good sisters also stated one of my bad sisters was repeatedly overdosing our mother on morphine, with the 2nd bad sister allowing such as an alleged assigned medical proxy. Upon my arrival, indeed, my mother was being overdosed by my oldest/bad sister, who I repeatedly pled for her to tell me who was in control, and she refused to do so. As a result, she went into rages of yelling screaming and cursing at me in front of both of our parents. I also discovered she was under the influence of illegal narcotics, while overdoing our mother and controlling our father, who had been diagnosed by the VA with vascular dementia. I also found the caregiver’s log next to my mother’s home hospice bedside, displaying the volumes of morphine dosages being given to my mother on the left page, and on the right page was my bad sisters financial figures of who she owed large sums of money you and how she was planning to soon pay them off. Unbeknownst to my 2 good sisters and I at the time, there were high-yield life insurance policies on both our parents. For over the prior 2 decades, my 2 good sisters and I were the ones who took care of our parents – with my trips from California, 4 times per year at about 2 weeks each trip – to assist them, because we loved our parents and wanted to serve their best interests served. But when the inheritance money started coming in, initially our 2 bad sisters and 2 bad brothers began jockeying for position to seize control of our parents – a period of about 8 years – and on January 4, 2005, literally pushed me out of my parent’s home. From that point forward, my bad siblings then set forth a campaign to keep my 2 good sisters, their children, and I from our parents. Based on these facts, I pled to the Arkansas VA to seize medical control of our mother’s best interests, but was met with small town adversity, due to a VA Social Worker being friends with my bad sister, the alleged medical proxy and her additional questionable paperwork.
As a licensed California private investigator with experience in working elder abuse cases, my adverse siblings grew incredibly angry with my presence at our parents home, and just after my mother died on February 11, 2005 in VA Hospital care, my bad siblings hired a caregiver company, the owner, a church friend of my bad sister/alleged medical proxy, who also assisted them in keeping my 2 good sisters, their children, and I from seeing and/or talking by phone to our father for a year and a half. This, after my early 2006 discovery of family trust embezzlement on their behalf, and learned of the caregiver’s criminal felony past, whereby she embezzled funds from an elderly North Little Rock couple.
Of all of his 4 sons, my father and I seemed the closest, and I was heartbroken to see my eldest brother – who had disowned our parents for nearly 8 years – until the inheritance money started coming in – when he manipulated our father into making him a successor trustee. It would have been far better for dad to have hired an independent trustee, than to have that brother. He was a prodigal son, but did not return home on humble terms, by any means. My other bad brother, a career illegal drug dealer and user, in and out of jail for most of his life, apparently saw our parents assets as his ticket out of the dark-side, and between 2004 and 2005, when detained by undercover task force agents, turned states evidence to save his own ass, and rolled over on his co-drug pipeline associates for a get out of jail free card. One of his associates was an Arkansas Chief of Police, who by 2006 was serving a long prison sentence, with ties to public corruption.
I flew back to Arkansas on or about February 2, 2015, when again, a caregiver employee told me and my 2 good sisters that our adverse sibling in control of our parents were stealing their assets. My 2 good sisters and I really didn’t care about the money of stuff; we just wanted our parents’ best interests was being met, and given the history of the adverse siblings medically supervising and overdosing our mother on morphine the year before, I soon learned that those 2 high yield life insurance policies had, in fact, been cashed out by “someone” just months prior to my mothers February 11, 2005 death. The records were destroyed after the Funeral Home responsible for maintaining the policy were found to be friends with my eldest bad brother.
It was all a clear cut case of elder abuse, and as I pled with the Arkansas Pulaski County Sheriff, himself, and his undersheriff Captain to allow my 2 good sisters and I to file a criminal referral against our adverse siblings and the highly questionable caregiver company (Dara Booth – Arkansas Home Care for Seniors), the sheriff refused to allow me to file a complaint, yet continued to want any and all information I had on the situation. So, I continued – in trust – to provide him and his Captain such information. Little did I know in 2006 that the Captain’s former undercover narcotics law enforcement partner, and still good friend, Lonoke Police Chief Jay Campbell was my other bad brothers illegal drug trafficking partner. As a result of my findings, I went to the FBI-Little Rock, where I was met with open arms and the lead Senior Special Agent over the Public Corruption Squad told me, “Mr. Rupert, you have the other half of the case we’ve been working for the past 3 years.”
By 2009, a full scale public corruption probe was announced via the local media, and 3 North Little Rock City Councilmen/Aldermen were arrested and subsequently indicted for public corruption related charges, one with links to an organized crime family, whose expertise is running interstate illegal drug trafficking. A second of those arrestees was my father’s criminal caregiver, Dara Booth, who is now – in 2015 – under investigation, again.
By late 2007, my adverse siblings had lawyered up and had their fast-food style lawyer draft a ridiculous letter – still in my possession, with a great many other documents – stating I was not allowed in my father’s house. I tried to contest the letter by a complaint to judicial authorities, but seemingly, all of the lawyers knew each other, including the fact that the lead judicial review board attorney was the wife of the very attorney who drafted my parents living trust, and other attorneys seemed were in bed together, some literally.
My adverse siblings and their criminal enterprise caregiver company (who hired violent convicted felons and ex-cons to place into the homes of vulnerable elder clients) had made a market-place of my father’s house and were living large off of our parents’ assets. And when I pressed on those issues through our late 2006 lawyer, the bad siblings in Arkansas filed a vexatious April 4, 2007 false criminal complaint against me (in California) with their new law school grad clerk and personal friend at the Pulaski County Prosecutor’s Office, who summoned the assistance of then Pulaski County Sheriff’s Department aforementioned Captain to press charges. I wasn’t even in Arkansas at the time, and had been living in California for years with my own family. My adverse siblings had been heavily involved in violations of trust and elder abuse on our parents, and they knew I wanted to do something about it. As a result, they projected their own faults and bad deeds on me, and the Judge threw out their complaint – Dismissed.
In then end, by June 2011, our first filed 2007 and second filed 2009 Pulaski County Court case to get an independent Guardian assigned in the best interests of our father was hijacked by our own 2011 lawyer, who we would later find out was a business partner with a dirty attorney/former judge who had been indicted in the mid-1990s on criminal charges, was removed from the bench, was disbarred as an Arkansas attorney, and was arrested for taking illegal bribes in exchange for reduced criminal sentencing of arrestees, in the form of illegal drugs and/or cash. That attorney remains extremely close fronds with the opposing counsel in our then Guardianship case. My bad brother was one of those criminal defendants, several times, who walked out of jail after good, hard-working cops tried to9 keep him off of the streets and from endangering others. Today, that same former disbarred Judge is now a practicing lawyer again, and a prosecutor in a small predominantly African-American small town, a long way from his own Little Rock residence. He is also the same attorney who – several years ago – called on a personal favor to then Arkansas Governor Mike Huckabee’s office to spring lose from prison, violent criminal defendant Maurice Clemmons, who after being released in November 2009, moved to Washington State, where he ambushed and murdered 4 police officers.
Between 2005 and 2011, my adverse siblings and/or their known associates hired and/or commissioned ex-cons and others hateful from Arkansas and California to stalk and harass me and my wife, over and over again, and again. But after our June 2011 end to our failed court case, my 2 good sisters and I still maintained that we received the greatest inheritance any parents could ever leave to their loving, grateful children; the wonderful memories we had in our lifetimes spent with them, absent the others, who – 3 out of those 4 – never really visited our parents unless they wanted money of antique furniture – inheritance items.
God always seems to have the last word. My father died at his country home in Arkansas with all of his children at his side at just after midnight on his 86th Birthday, and I was at his side per the assigned Judge’s Court Orders. At my dad’s Arkansas National Cemetery grave-site, like my mom’s service, with his casket draped by the American Flag for his service during WWII and the Cold War, after the 21-Gun Salute and an unexpected flyover, the U.S. Air Force Honor Guardsman accidentally handed me my Father’s Flag, instead of my eldest brother. I was unaware that the flag was traditionally handed down to the eldest child.
I believe that incident was my dad telling me to make one more effort toward peace with my eldest brother by handing him the flag. So later, at the reception, I did just that, and handed him the flag under those very terms. But to that wayward brother, he didn’t and still doesn’t see it that way, and neither did the other adverse 4 siblings, who aided one-another in keeping my 2 good sisters, their children, and me from seeing our father for a year and a half.
I will continue supporting this foundation, and will gladly offer my services at your requests.
Because of the story below, I am doing a senior project at Weber State University in conjunction with World Elder Abuse Week. It will be a presentation on the prevention of Financial Elder Abuse of Women in Ogden, Utah. If anyone has any ideas or resources you can pass on I would be grateful.
The story is not written exceptionally well, I just wanted to get it done so that I could post it on your site.
My story begins with growing up in a small, rural town in Colorado. My brother and I had a typical childhood and upbringing according to the area. My brother and I moved away from the area around 30-35 years ago but always kept in close contact with our parents. I and my daughters saw my mom and dad around 4 times a year, switching travel to see each other every other time. I talked to them almost every day.
This is a very long involved story as I am sure all of them are so I will try to give you the Reader’s Digest version. My mom had a blood cancer that was managed for 18 years and during that time and as she declined my dad became her caretaker. They were private people, (we lived 13 miles from town) and would not accept help.
My mother passed away in 2008. I guess you could say we followed a typical course of grief, (whatever that is) until 2012. My dad was extremely lonely and at a loss as to what to do with himself. Like many children, we lived far away, had jobs that were not flexible enough to go home often. In 2011, Dad told me he had a mini-stroke, it was nothing to worry about, he had an MRI and only his vision was affected slightly. I took him at his word although it was after this time we started seeing subtle changes in Dad. Things like acting inappropriately around young women wait staff, using inappropriate language around us and his granddaughters -Things that no one else would pick up on unless they knew Dad and were with him like we were. It was during this time he started talking about various young women who would come by the house and he was paying them to clean.
I and my daughters usually went home for Christmas, but in 2012 my daughters took me on my first trip to Disneyland. I tried not to feel guilty about not being with Dad, but I still had twinges of guilt. I pacified myself by telling myself that I would go over the spring break at the school I work at. During our conversations, things just seemed off with Dad and I thought I would have a whole week to check on him.
I and the grand kids went home over Spring break in 2013 and it was at this time things started to unravel. Dad kept talking about a young woman in law enforcement, how beautiful she was and he would describe her in inappropriate terms to my adult children. This upset them greatly. One day, another young woman showed up at the house while I was there. Dad did not let her in and went and greeted her on the lawn. I followed him out another door. It was an uncomfortable situation, the girl would not acknowledge me and Dad gave her keys to his pickup which she took off in. Dad had an old car completely dismantled in his garage which was completely disorganized which was totally unlike our dad. One night, I went to the local, favorite restaurant and ran into good friends of Dad’s. I expressed my concern about these young women hanging around and they said it was a concern of theirs also along with my Dad drinking too much which totally blindsided me. They described how he would show up at their door at night wanting a drink. The whole week I was visiting, I felt unsettled and couldn’t quite grasp what was going on. When I left I told him his drinking was out of control.
I came back home, (Ogden, Utah) and was just lost for a week. I just couldn’t figure out what to do and had to put my thoughts together about what I had seen. Later that week, I called my brother (Jim) and tried to relay how things were off. We decided we would plan a trip together at the end of June or beginning of July to check this out.
Just a week after I had been to visit Dad, a woman named Julie (who mom and Dad had known for a while and I was never in touch with” called me to inform me that Dad was talking about paying off one of the womans $60.000.00 student loan. She cried and said she considered Dad a father figure and didn’t want him to be taken advantage of. She also connected me to Darryl, a man I had never met and who was a good friend of Dads. Jules and Darryl had been discussing for a long time about contacting me about how Dad was giving women money. My brother, sister-in-law and I scrambled that night and the next day to figure out how to block it. Of course we could not. It was at this time that we moved our trip up to visit Dad as soon as possible which was the end of May.
It was during this time that we tried to figure out what to do. My brother sought out an attorney who specialized in Elder Care and she informed us that financial exploitation of the elderly is rampant and many times it is young women taking advantage of elderly men who are lonely. Although she said there was probably not too much that could be done (because my dad had not been declared incompetent) she did suggest a couple of things. She said to try “softball” it with him and talk to him and have him open up to what was going on. (I did not do a good job with this) She also suggested that we make an appointment with his Dr. and a family therapist (which my dad would never agree visiting), and make sure all the paperwork was in order. She also outlined that as a last resort we could get Adult Protective Services involved and perhaps a court ordered psychiatric evaluation.
It was also during this time that I became more and more acquainted with Darryl (we became friends) who had become acquainted with Dad through Julie who had known Mom and Dad for a while. (This woman was a married airline stewardess with two children, who Mom had gotten to where she would not let in the house-we didn’t pay much attention to that because we lived far away-although I do remember mom describing Julie and that it made her uncomfortable the way she dressed and that she would ask my Dad to buy her items at the grocery store when he went into town and she would never pay him (them) back.)
What was shocking is that Darryl is that told me he had been with Dad various times that Dad had wired Julie at least $7,000.00. Darryl also told me that Dad had told him Jules had stolen Dad’s credit card and charged 1.800.00 on it in another state. Dad also told us he had loaned her $1000.00 to start a business. She also hit him up to buy from her MLM business. Julie has not been held accountable for the credit card fraud in Colorado and when Dad confronted her about it, she cried and preyed on his emotions. This is the woman who originally called me about being concerned paying off the other woman’s student loan. This type of fraud is a felony in Colorado and Julie has not been held accountable for it. She lives in another state now.
At this time, I also found out that a 19 year old woman named Miranda, had been taking money from dad for her “Diabetes” She had been in trouble, had a boyfriend who had spent prison time and dad thought he was helping her. Dad had ended up giving her and supplying her with 3 cars. She ended up stealing a gun and $1,000.00 of keepsake silver coins that my grandparents had given my brother that my dad had at his house. She was arrested, spent a night in jail and my Dad went to her hearing and supported her! Darryl also told us over the last two years each time Dad made bail for Miranda and her boyfriend. I even talked to Miranda’s probation officer and she said that Miranda had been in trouble since she was 14 and that what she was doing to dad was the way she operated and once Dad was gone, she would just find someone else. (Again, the law couldn’t do anything because Dad had not been declared incompetent. We have estimated that Dad loaned Miranda at least $30.000.00 in cars, cash, clothes and goods.
Another woman entered this picture by the name of Rita. She used her cancer diagnosis and promised Dad “extra benefits” to have Dad lend her $12.000.00. She owed other businesses in Montrose money and also moved to another state.
Another young woman (19) told my dad she was in the states illegally and was going to be deported if she couldn’t pay the attorney in Denver. He gave her the money; she left and never saw him again.
There is a woman living with him now who stalked him at the Denny’s restaurant where he frequents. He told my brother and I she was well off and things would be okay. We found out she has no money, nowhere to go and is addicted to gambling and has gone through at least $70,000.00 in the last two years. She also drives my dad around while he has been drinking which has contributed to him becoming an alcoholic. My mom’s and many of our things are still in the house and I have heard that she has gotten rid of many of them. She has refused to help us.
Anyway, through all of this, 7 women have scammed my dad in excess of $150,000.00 and he no longer owns his home because he took a reverse mortgage out to give them money. He has slid into alcoholism and our family relationships are fractured.
My story is much longer than this, but we have done everything in our power and are at a loss now watching helplessly. We consulted the attorney and Dad’s Dr. The Montrose police have been involved all along the way (we told them that dad had been drinking and driving) and I have sent all the documentation to them for the last two years. We finally got APS involved and they said Dad was competent. (He is not holding his hand on a hot stove, agggh!.) Jim and I decided not to do the court ordered psychiatric evaluation because Dad had told us he would “take care of things” if we did that. I have approached all the women through certified, restricted, letters send through the USPS. They all go running, crying to my dad. We tried to get Dad to move near my brother and he refused.
My dad has memory loss, hearing loss, macular degeneration and is an alcoholic. Before all of this happened Dad had the financial means to take good care of himself . That was a comfort to us. Now he does not.
We do have co-power of attorney, but it doesn’t help us. And he could change that at any given time. What is sad is that if something happens to Dad, I am sure the woman living with him now will run.
It is has been a very emotional, sad, heartbreaking journey for our family. There are days I just feel nauseated. These women are out “there” getting away with this.
My mother Geraldine Strege was isolated from her longtime friends, family, priest and grandchildren in Washington State. Geraldine was moved against her wishes and abused and severely beaten 2 weeks before she passed away. Our elderly should never, ever, be isolated from their loved ones or abused.
First of all – THANK YOU KERRI!
All these stories break my heart! Together we can all make a difference and make changes happen.
My mother and I have been extremely close my whole life. She is the love of my life!
Approximately three years ago, as moms health continued to decline her so called “boyfriend” has taken over. I have been shut off from all communication. My mothers “boyfriend” and I do not see eye to eye on much of anything. My mother always told me, he was jealous of the close relationship she and I had. (how sick it that?) I am blocked from calling and have zero communication with my mom. This boyfriend has her under lock and key at his home. He makes it extremely difficult for anyone to communicate and or visit with my mom. He continues to alienate others as well, moms best friend and even her sister are blocked from calling the house.
Just like Kerri, the boyfriend claims I am after her money etc. I am VERY CONCERNED about her well being. I feel she has been manipulated, and abused both emotionally and psychologically. She deserves to see her daughter, and friends. She needs love and laughter in her life. I deserve to see her!
This whole situation has been the most difficult thing I’ve had to deal with in my life. I think about my mom every single day. My heart is broken. This is so upsetting and so so wrong!!!!
I have reached out to multiple attorneys. The advice is not encouraging, good luck with a long expensive guardianship case. Also, no luck with the social or case workers either. I live in Colorado and my mom is in Massachusetts, which makes it even more difficult. I can tell the social workers have been educated by the boyfriend that I am the crazy daughter looking for money etc. I have my own money, this has never been about “the money” I feel my mothers money should be spent on her and her well being. What ever she wants, whatever makes her happy, right?!
The boyfriend took control of her finances and her home a few years ago. He is hiding her money and I believe committing fraud as he claims, on her behalf that she has zero funds. Therefore taking advantage of Mass Health and Medicare.
The boyfriend also befriended another older woman prior to her passing a few years back. Guess who has all her money and personal belongings now? I find it very difficult to believe that this wonderful sweet old woman he befriended didn’t have any family or friends??
There have been so many red flags with this so called boyfriend. My mom talked about ending the relationship for years. But, for whatever reasons stayed stuck in the relationship. The ugly awful sad story goes on and on…
I just want to be able to talk to her, like we used to. I would love to visit with her, hug and kiss her. Make her laugh again… I need my mother and she needs me!!!
This law is so important to me and I would like to prevent this awful situation from happening to others . IT IS SO WRONG!! If my mom was able to comprehend any of the current situation she would be absolutely horrified!!
Again, thank you for your support and all your efforts Kerri!
this is heart breaking I am and will always be a daddy girl, he has been diagnosed with alezhmiers and dementia and my brother has took it upon his self to take all of dads land and money and has isolated dad from us for the past 4 years it has been horrible I am in nm and dad is in ark and there is no power of attorney, but yet my brother claims that there is a conflict and all we want is his money, he even has the authority’s believing such lies, they will not help. so I am so happy to see this bill and I can not Waite until it is in all of the states . more to this story
At the core of what we all have been dealing is gross violation of the Constitutional rights of our deprived loved ones….“…nor be deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law:…” We must ask ourselves; have our loved ones been deprived of any or all of these enumerated and basic rights as listed in the 5th and 14th Amendments to our Constitution? Why have our courts fallen so far that they are generally unable to recognize the deprivation of these rights relative to our loved ones who have fallen prey to the “system”?
Iowa now has two laws on the books addressing and criminalizing Elder Abuse, Financial Exploitation and isolating our loved ones from their families. We have no choice but to litigate these matters. On the Elder Abuse, standardized forms are offered, substitute petitioners have standing, notice of service is free of charge and all filing fees are waived. The sooner we take advantage of this huge opportunity, the better!
My father GERALD’S life was hasten due to the massive OVERDRUGGING of antiphyscotic drugs. R.I.P DADDY, JUSTICE WILL BE SERVED. GERALD was abused emotionally, physically, and chemically Please Watch : http://youtu.be/UT7sGB5qXnU America Tonight, Sheila MacVicar investigates GERALD’S Story. Gerald’s Abuse occurred in the City of Mission Viejo, CA.
It was truly a wonderful experience to see you yesterday in Governor Branstad’s office for the signing of SF 306. I would have a hard time right now doing much more than tending to the two suits I have filed and the other in preparation for our Mother. You are certainly free to post this “story of our Mother” if you desire to do so. I am in the process of using the new IA Elder Abuse law (IA Code 235F) for our Mother.
This is the link for her story: http://stopguardianabuse.org/dorothydriesen.htm